If you were really worried you probably would have given her an amount. Sounds like you trust her and I am guessing there wont be a problem. The only thing I would worry about is it is for 3 days. Maybe you can talk to your Mom, and have her convince the other ladies into some site seeing and check out a show or a museum. Hope everything works out.
Hook I think It was a good move on your part. In my situation I would have to had handled it differently. My wife is much more conservative with money then I am. And although she knows our finances inside and out she defers to me for the " big picture"...I provide the plan and I let her implement the details. So my strategy would have been to set a target amount that would be 25% higher then I would hope she spends....and then her being conservative she would spend about 50% of my suggested amount thus saving me 25%....at least that would be my plan. Now my theory would go out the window in the spending is on our son.....in that case I should anticipate her overspending by about 50%...at least....learned that first hand with her new SUV which came in way over budget.... Let us know how it turns out....Maybe we can take up a collection if its really bad....
Pffffftttt REally...as if you ever really had any say in the matter. LOL I forunately had a wife who was too frugal. If she needed a pair of undies she's shop for the lowest price ones and then put it off till next month. LOL She'd go shopping all day and sometimes never buy anything.... except that pair of undies. One day I took her to this nice ladies shop and made her buy a couple outfits. I wouldn't let her look at the price tags. A few hours later we walked out with a couple nice thingys. At the time it was a costly shopping spree. For 2 days she kept talking about taking them back. I wouldn't let her.
If I were you... cancel the credit cards and clean out the bank account !!! Then don't answer the phone for 3 days. If it were me... I am not worried. The wife is a penny pincher. I knew that before I married her though. Seriously... she will do fine. I think you handled it right. Tim
I have been in this situation a few times, I simply tell her to use her discretion but whatever she spends I get to spend on hunting or fishing gear. Works every time plus I get some new stuff.
My wife and I are on a monthly budget. She's the money nerd that puts it together, but we have monthly or bi-monthly "budget meetings" to look over things. We both know where we are sitting, we both know what there is to spend and on what. If you wife knows nothing of your finances, you can't expect her to make wise decisions. Budgeting is not fun, but it beats arguing over money (a top cause of divorce by the way). Just my two cents...
Yeah, we have somewhat of a budget, or at least I do, and I just tell her when we're getting close to that budget and that we need back off a bit. But shopping trips are not supposed to fall into the monthly budget category. They are like mini vacations.
I was lookin to buy a new truck years ago and one day I found one I really liked. Told the salesman that I needed to talk to my wife about it before I made the purchase. He looked at me and started laughin and said , boy,who wears the pants in your family. I just looked at him and said , I do.........but she washes them. Marriage is a partnership and it will take equal effort and communication for it to be a healthy one.
Your first mistake was allowing her to go on a shopping trip. Just kidding. I think every relationship is different. My wife and I both work and she makes a little more money than I do. In our situation, neither of us feel like we can tell the other what to spend. Luckily, my wife is grounded and doesn't waste money.
Make sure you guys are on the same page about all the financial stuff. That way both of you know how much you can spend on stuff. Then you'll just be reminding her about the limits, or it will just be something you don't even have to say. PS: take her out more often: got these great spots: http://www.landandcamps.com/ny-land-for-sale
Reminds me of an old joke: Friend 1 - Someone stole my wife's credit card. Friend 2 - Oh my! Did you report it? Friend 1 - Heck no! They spend less than she does.
Well played :-) In my marriage I call that "punting".... And I punt a lot.... Making a hard decision sometimes just backs a guy into a corner...
