Long story Paul Harvey Style - Two different people trying to make one life. Sometimes one is taking more than giving and difficulties arise. It's a constant compromise. A successful relationship is where both parties want health and happiness for their partner more than they want it for themselves.
Been married to the same gal for 44 years... some days good, some bad; some years good, some bad... but we just kept going.
You'll have to elaborate on your issue and maybe we can offer specific advice. Personally I don't find marriage that hard.
Because your both flesh and so your naturally thinking more about yourselves than each other. Marriage isn't about 50-50. It about each person giving 100%. How much effort have you really put into understanding the way woman think and about your wife's needs? These are not our Mothers they are our wives. So don't expect them to put up with to much of our BS I'm not trying to get into your face I'm kind of making a joke that we spend so much time talking about and reading about bow hunting but does anybody get a monthy magazine on marriage and how to have a great one? We've both really worked on my marriage over the last few years and it is so fantastic now that I could have never guessed. Married 19 years and you can throw the first 15 out the window but the last 4 have been amazing. Of course this is all because I bought the worlds number one best selling book and I'm striving everyday to live by its teachings. Just got back from a vacation in Oregon in which we spent two day at a "marriage encounter" seminar. This one of a dozen marriage seminars or bible studies we've done over the last few years and just like bow hunting there's a lot to learn but it can be mastered and greatly rewarding. We all struggle because we're all imperfect and we all have baggage. Hang in there and take it as a challage. You guys love each other so put some research and time into and find out what you need to know about each other. Ill give you one tip. Show her everyday that your still in love with her and court her like you did when your were first dating. That's a big deal for women. They are naturally very incecure and need to be assured DAILY that you'll be by her side forever.
Because we want to make it un-enticing as possible to the gays. Unfortunately they want this, if they want to live in hell, I say we give it to them!
Once I found out it ain't all about me!! and then found out its all about us! 22 years later we are going strong and I wouldn't change it for a thing.
As a girl, I'll agree that is excellent advice. Someone also suggested deciding what kind of marriage you will have beforehand. We did that and after six years now, it's still very, very, easy. May The Sheep Be With You
great thread........as I sit here reading the forums, my wife is talking away to me and I haven't listened to a dam word she is saying...lol man I need to pay more attention to her
If you want to know how to make a marriage work, watch this with your wife. It's an hour+ long but well worth it. I bought Mark's DVD's for my son and daughter in law when they got married. 1 01 Tail of Two Brains 1 - YouTube
When I have married people I always require several councilling sessions with them and there's always two things I require. First I insist that they read the book; The Five Love Languages. And secondly I always tell them that marraige is like two people from different countries, speaking different languages moving in together. I have been married for 37 years and it still takes work everyday. I may be a slow learner but it took me about 20 years to really understand my wife and why she thinks and acts the way she does. It all has to with a persons upbringing their family history and the way they were treated as a child. To know and understand these things can take many years of patient understanding and a willingness to forgive. Loving communication is a key as is a willingness to see the other persons point of view. Even after all these years of marriage, I still make a conscience choice every morning to love my wife for that day. In other words, and especially in a long term relationship, love is a choice and doesn't just happen. Blessings.......Pastorjim
Yep. It sounds simple and it is the only problem is our PRIDE gets I the way. As they said in Pulp Fiction F--- Pride and that goes double in a marriage.
LOL. That way more important than we know. Giving you wife your undivided attention and your response and advise are only needed when ask with women. Just listen and understand her feelings that all she really needs.
