I think there are 3 basic categories. People who get lucky fall in love with the right person, get married and no matter how each person changes over time it still works. People who fall in love, get married, end up in an unhappy marriage but stay together because that is more important than being happy. People who fall in love, get married, end up in an unhappy marriage and get divorced, because happiness is more important than staying together.
I got the first one !! I hope the wife didn't get the second one !! I am not gonna ask her either !! Some things are better left unkown. Tim
I like it but add one more.... Have a kid, get married because they think it is the right thing to do / cover up being prego outside of marriage
I'll attempt this one.. although its too big a subject to tackle. Really.. the one thing that changed.. is many things.. but ultimately the human race and society as a whole. Hundreds of years ago.. when the earth was a darker place because of various things.. apparent class systems.. no human rights.. rampant disease.. very little science.. ongoing wars.. etc etc All there was for a person to believe in was faith.. faith that after this world there is something better.. more of a 'what's good for the human race' attitude because this life was fleeting for them and religion steered it towards that. Today.. faith has dwindled.. with each passing generation we get further and further away from a time period when Jesus.. or Muhammad (or whoever you choose to worship) existed.. and with those passing generations the whole of the population just simply forgot. Between science.. much less of a class system.. far less wars.. treatable diseases.. people living 3x longer.. human rights (to a point).. what's there to fear? Faith in something greater than you is nowhere near where it was once.. faith in being a part of something.. faith in keeping the race alive.. it's all gone.. dwindled in a world of farce.. and dare I say.. sin. Marriage is self sacrifice. I got my MTV... that's all that matters to me baby. Check please!
I wont let you down again But I do feel like I need to earn it back.... I will put a doe on the ground tomorrow (making that my fist bow kill of the year) just for you Vito. Thanks for calling me out and keeping me in line
How about man is depraved and in his depravity is selfish beyond measure Rom 1:22 Professing to be wise, they became fools, and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like corruptible man—and birds and four-footed animals and creeping things. Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. For this reason God gave them up to vile passions.
ok gotta give my .02, There is no problem IMO with waiting to get married/have kids until your through with college and got your career on track, which would put you in the late 20's. The problem I have in the next generation is the I'll live with someone , buy a house with them, and have kids, but I am not getting married. I just don't understand this mindframe. I'll give one example, my wife has a co-worker, that has three kids by one dude and is pregnant with a second dudes kid and does not want to be married doesn't even care if she get married to the second dude. Per her "he was just a sperm donor" she works a full time job but also get foodstamps and other assistance. the "sperm donor" is a deadbeat that doesn't have a job and she doesn't want him to get a job because she gets more assistance. there is more than just the Marriage issue in the example, but i am finding more and more kids have this mentality to marriage and life in general.
Damn Patrick, you and I have allot In common. My parents divorced after 25 years of marriage. I was 25 years old when they got divorced and It hurt hard. It still hurts very much yet today and I think about It ALL the time. My family back In the day was about as close as a family could be. We all bow hunted together bear hunting and deer hunting. We did everything together. It sure amazes me and upsets me how things got so ****ed up just like that. This Is still tough on me as I've got a huge lump In my throat just by typing this and thinking about old times. I've been with my g/f now for 9 years In which we have a 4 year old daughter together. You can bet your ass after seeing what happened to my parents Is the sole reason I haven't tied the knot yet with the g/f. I'll admit It, I'm scared of the marriage thing and want nothing to do with what my parents went through. Jenny wants to get married more then anything and she's threatened to leave me on more then a few occasions and I don't blame her one bit. I know I've just gotta buck down and do It but It's tough.
My mom and step dad just divorced after 28 years of marriage. My mom and father divorced when I was 5. I was 38 second time around and it still sucked. My father got remarried and divorced after 1.5 years when I was 10. I turn 40 this year and I have been involved in 3 divorces with my parents, I am divorced out.
So God created men to be depraved, selfish people who need to constantly repent their sins? That sounds kind of sick to me. I have three children under the age of 9. I guess I need to start telling them that they are genetically programmed by God to be selfishly depraved and their life is already in ruin. OR maybe I won't raise them like that. So why in the heck would God create us as such monsters and then get mad at us for acting like the monsters that he himself created? Also, how can a perfect being such as God create such imperfection in the form of humans?
I guess I fall under the who cares column. The only part I don't understand is why someone would want to be living with their significant other for years and not be married. Is not going to be any less painful for anyone if you split it up. If you live as if you are married, why not just get married? At least you get some tax benefits
Yeah steve I get what you mean man. It has gotten a little easier over time, but there's still times I just wish everything could go back to the way it was. Things were so much more simple. My mom has since remarried to a really good guy who makes her happy, so that's a positive. My dad has a girlfriend who makes him very happy. Maybe they are both better off? I just try to look at it that way.
I think I agree with what seems to be the general theme, that, because of the prevalence of divorce, people don't seem to see any point in getting married. I think, in the backs of their minds, couples are willing to view their relationship as potentially temporary. If it lasts, great. If it doesn't, well that's okay too. Having been married not quite five years, I'm not going to post any advice, but we do view our marriage as definitely permanent.
damnit i missed this whole thing! Honestly, i just dont want to have sex with one woman my whole life
