FYI Tony....this is the first time I have ever said anything about your religion. Well, there was ONE other time.....but I don't remember the details of it. Was probably something along these same lines. I have zero problem with what you believe. But when you make hypocritical statements like you did, I have a huge problem with that. If you are that blinded by your faith that you think you said nothing wrong....then I feel for you in that regard.
You see am attitude on a forum? That's funny coming from a guy I have to answer numerous PMs from and try to defend you .... how is my attitude one of condescension? Please coptly and paste for me ... I lift up Christ and you feel I am lifting up myself because I am a follower of Him ... is that it?
You see nothing wrong with this statement? Absolutely nothing? If you left out the word "even" it would be no big deal. But by putting in that one word, you are saying they are lower than you. That's the only thing I have a problem with. FYI....I'm not an atheist.
I am not saying that and I feel for you for thinking that. I was drawing the two extremes to prove the point that GOD'S. way works ... that's it .... whether you credit HIM or not ... its His way ... I know many Christians that think their way is better to ... and their kids are a mess ..
I have been dating the same girl since I was 18 and she was 16. I'm am 25 now and we have been engaged for over 2 years now. We have been living together under the same roof for over 2 years also. We have been through our share of ups and downs, but I feel it is for the better. We know each other so well and share everything already as if were married. I don't feel tied down at all and have enjoyed many things in my short life with and without her. When the time is right we will eventually start planning the wedding and when we will have kids. That time is not now though and we are both fine with that. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think way to many people rush into these things. They don't truly know the person that they are committing to spend the rest of their life with. I know my fiance like the back of my hand as she does the same for me. We have a great relationship that has been built off of years of love and trust.
I appreciate the defense, PT. I have to do the same for you. I just tell them you are "passionate". If someone has a problem with me, and I'm sure there are more than a few that do, they are more than welcome to PM me directly. I already quoted you in an earlier post, and Dan touched on it. Its not the first time you have said something like this. I don't "attack" people because of their beliefs, however, I don't always allow elitist comments slide by...no matter the topic. Yes, I'm a little sarcastic at times. If thats my worst quality, I'm okay with that.
Really? I don't see that at all, you're just a bit of an ass, but that's one of your good qualities. The reason I like you
My parents had my sister and I very young, when they were 15 and 18. They got married right away. They both got jobs...not GOOD jobs, but jobs, and they worked their asses off to support us. They did a hell of a job- I never wanted for anything that I NEEDED. My mom finished business school while my dad worked for Cargill. They both made average incomes while I was growing up. They took us on vacations every summer, put us through private schools, and spoiled us with anything we wanted. They went without. I never saw them fight. They dropped a bomb on me a few weeks after I graduated highschool: they were divorcing after 21 years of marriage. Their only reason, they "fell out of love". I didn't understand it. I was horrible to them both for probably a year after. I couldn't stand it. Lookin back now, I feel bad for the way I acted, but it was the only way I knew to "punish" them for what they had done to "me". I don't want the same to happen to my kids. I'm 23, girlfriend is 21, we've been together for 6 years. I'm financially stable, but I want her to get to that point so that we don't have the stress that my parents did, trying to make ends meet. That's the only reason I am waiting.
Guess what the divorce rate is in Countries where a mate is chosen for you? India for example... less than 2%. Be careful with your thinking... Are you looking for someone that won't disappoint you and that is all you want her to be. That's the kind of thinking that started the landslide. Instead you may want to consider being all you can be for the person you marry. Do continue to be picky, that's wise but please make sure your pickiness is based on something solid.
Unlike most of the young couples that run out and get married I have actually done my best to plan ahead. I have been with a fantastic girl for some time now and soon I will be asking her to marry me. At 21 years old I am older than my parents were when they got married. Now they are 27 years down the road and doing great. I have great job security and a solid income to make things work. I understand that you cannot plan everything out. Life does throw you curve balls. And with a mix of my faith and baseball skills I know that you do not have to give up or swing and miss on a curve ball… You just have to adjust your plans and hit the piss out of it to the opposite field. I love making baseball references when given the opportunity.
I was 25 and Barb was 24 when we got married. We dated for 3.5 years. I thought I knew her very well. Once the ring got put on her finger... man I was like... who is this person ?? She has been busting my balls ever since ?? Seriously... we have had our struggles in 23 years of marriage raising kids and making ends meet but there has not been one day that has gone by that I wouldn't do it all over again with her. There has not been one day in 23 years that I haven't told her I love her no matter how bad that day was and meant it. Looking forward to the next 23 years !! Tim
