Off topic; but holy heck man those are freakin awesome! Mine will get in a tree she just don't like the whole wakin up early an walkin in, or even goin in general. Best thing I get her to do is ride on the 4wheeler to check cams when she feels like it
Key thing is give and take, to sacrifice time to be with her during the season. BUT, when you sacrifice hunts/days of hunting, do not even hint that you are doing it just to sacrifice time for her, and that you would rather be hunting. Make her believe it is bc you actually wanna hang out with her.... instead of chasing big monster whitetails during the rut with the stick n string one special time of the year.
Probably not, but I would not tell her NOT to talk about something she loved doing that I had no interest in. If she was excited and passionate about it I wouldn't forbid her to talk about it. Probably try to learn and show some interest in it. And as far as the give and take/compromise? There's 9 or 10 months of the year to do whatever it is she wants to do. And like OP stated.... it's not like you're hanging out at a bar or just blowing things off to sit on the couch and watch tv. Furthermore, it's not like you can't get back from an afternoon hunt, jump in the shower and take her out to dinner, go see a movie or spend time together doing something. You don't go MIA for a couple months.
Wow! Shouldn't it be that you can talk to your spouse about anything and everything? There are things that my husband talks to me about that I really could go without hearing...but I listen anyway and I contribute to the conversation. That is what you do. You may not be interested in the topic, but you should be interested in your spouse and that means his/her interests. I was not a hunter before I met my husband. I grew up with my dad hunting, but in my family, that seemed to be a "guy thing". When I first started dating my husband it was September, right before hunting season started. He was open and honest with me right from the beginning how much hunting meant to him and how much time it consumed. I soon learned about his "OBSESSION". He was gone pretty much the entire fall. But, during that time - he made the time for me as well. It wasn't a ton, but he made the effort and made it count. I got phone calls to ask how my day was going, I got text messages randomly to let me know he was thinking about me, etc. Even though he wasn't around he still made me feel important. In turn, I would do the same for him. I knew nothing about hunting and I wasn't as interested as he was - but I sure made it seem like I was. I would ask him how his hunts were going, if he saw anything, check out his trail cams with him. That is what you do when you are in a relationship with someone. He did get me involve and now I am hooked as well. I am not quite to the obsessed stage that he is in, but I understand. This is his time and I love that he includes me. But, at the same time, I give him this time. He left October 30th and does not come back home until Dec 1st. He is gone hunting for a solid month. I stay home and take care of the kids, running them all over for sports, school, etc and I am good with that. I make it up on a couple weekends during this time to hunt myself - but otherwise - this is his time. The other 11 months - he makes it count. I think your wife should at least "pretend" to show some interest in your passion. At the same time, you need to show her that she is your first passion. Maybe while you are out hunting - shoot her a random text that lets her know you are thinking of her. Maybe plan something in advance and while you are in the stand send her a text to tell her to be ready when you get home beacuse you have something special planned. Maybe she will start to show more interest in your hunting if she knows that while you are out hunting, you may actually be thinking of her. Just a thought. There has to be a way for you both to win here.
I started typing my response this morning and kept having to go back to it in between meetings and phone calls and then finally finished and posted...then went back and read the ones that posted and I thought the same exact thing when I read yours!
The way I see it chicks are like trucks when it starts givin you problems you trade it in for a new one... just make sure she knows that you still care about her and maybe try to explain to her why you're so passionate about hunting she'll come around for you I hope. good luck
I guess I'm lucky. I tell my wife when I'm going hunting and when I expect to be home. She tells me when she's going to get a pedicure or the mall. All is good.
Sounds like you'll be spending lots of quality time with yourself deep in that thought. Call me old fashion but having a women/wife takes priority over hunting. But that's me.
Well, every marriage is different. Every couple has to figure it out. I'm not sure we have a really accurate picture of what's going on with those two. I'm not sure that fuzz does either.
True. We all bring baggage into a marriage and Fuzz may need to spend some time finding out if there are really deeper issues she's dealing with. We tend to marry Mr. or Mrs. right and them blame them when we're not right. It's not all bad though and the journey will make you a better man and your marriage that much stronger. Putting God 1st is the best way to really simplify this whole process. Get in his word and let him work in your life and he will take care of the rest. My marriage is proof of that. After "having everything we ever wanted we found it wasn't what we wanted" it was when we surrendered our lives to Jesus that we really clicked.
Yup...every time we experience rocky times we re-evaluate first how our relationship with God has become....re-adjust that it re-adjusts everything!
You guys are absolutely right. Our marriage is based on rules passed down over many generations in both our cultures and can be found easily in the Bible by anyone who might be interested.
