Thanks guys for real! I'm still open ears for some insight on this. I just can't take the b!tchin anymore. Especially when it's somethin as stupid as this.
Take your kid. I take mine at least a couple of times a year. They enjoy it and don't worry about if you see anything or not. Mainly do it for them. Just find a good spot for a natural ground blind. The main thing is getting the kid involved and that in turn will make your wife happy because it may give her some time to get things she needs to get done, done. I have been taking my 5 year old since she was 2 and she loves it and we have seen deer together.
I'll have to next season, I got 4 days left an it's way too cold out for her now. But definetly smart idea
I guess I'm lucky. She sees the passion and excitement I have for it. I dont stop at the bar on the way home from work or on weekends unless shes with. I dont have any interest in other women. If I have free time I want to be sitting in the woods, not trying to have another relationship or anything like that. Trying to please one is hard enough.
Go hunting so I don't have to listen to it for a while...... Or remind her that she has her interests that consume large amounts of her time so I should be able to have my interests too.
Hunting sounds like the least of your problems. There is alot of truth to the "happy wife, happy life" quote. But her happiness should not cause you misery. You both need to talk this out and figure out what the real issues are.
I feel your pain bra....Black Sheep! You need to be happy, try to keep her happy and you always have these two options... 1. Jesus 2. BHOD Brothers Keep your head up. Play nice!
Give more, talk less about hunting with her..for now..kill her with kindness, joy and an open ear to her thoughts and aspirations. If she sees in you that you are doing all you can but does not understand that men need "the season" she is being selfish. Don't be selfish yourself, women need to talk...a lot. Let her know you are interested but be firm and fair. Old trees get that way by having Deep roots and because they can bend with the wind. Bend bra- Highly recommend the book of Proverbs.
Ding ding! That's the key. Have to lay it on the line from the get go (and over state it). Some will get it and accept it. Some will say they get it and accept it but wont. "I've been bowhunting long before you and I can assure you if I have to... I will be bowhunting long after you". Seriously though, it's part of you/me/everyone here. It's no different than our personalities or looks or anything else that is the total package. Same as being accepting of things the other way around. It's a part of who you are. I'm in the woods A LOT during hunting season. It is what it is.
Definitely sounds like you have more problems than just you hunting and her not wanting to hear about it. Family first man, sounds like you were a bit young when you started your family...maybe you need to take some time for a good sit down with your wife or even counseling because you don't sound too thrilled about being married now man. Hopefully I'm wrong, but your tone and attitude come across that way.
My bet is that if you would show as much passion and excitement about your career and providing for your family that you do for hunting, things would be just fine at home.
I guess I'm not clear on something. Does she object to you hunting or just to you talking about hunting? If she doesn't object to you hunting, then hunt and shut up about it at home. My husband and I hunt together. We don't hunt from a stand, we stalk them. Rather he stalks them and I shoot them. We have two daughters. The older one, Miriam, is six, and she now goes with us. She can creep along silently right along with us. But we never talk about hunting at home, other than to decide when we're going to go out. We met on Aug. 26th. I hung out with him until we decided to get married and I moved in with him. We spent a lot of time talking and getting to know each other. He taught me to shoot, hunt, and fish. He loves hunting, fishing, and drinking beer. He also loves me and our daughters. But we rarely talk about hunting, fishing, or drinking beer. We just do it and enjoy it. I've nursed both girls sitting in our favorite bar while we talked with each other and with different people. We've been married for 6 1/2 years and I've only been old enough to drink for about 2 1/2 of those years. I can't tell from your posts if your wife is trying to discourage you from hunting, or if she's just sick of listening to you talk about hunting. Maybe there's something she would like to talk about. I used to hang out in a chat room at another hunting site. Every now and then, we would be having a fun conversation and someone would sign on and proceed to talk about hunting. I guess he figured since it was a hunting site, we should be talking about hunting. So it would be bla, bla, bla, until people would start checking out. I don't go to chat there much anymore because we like to go to bed early before we get sleepy. But there are lots of things to talk about in this world other than hunting, even for people who love hunting. Why not get involved in a conversation with your wife about things she's interested in. May The Sheep Be With You
Just make sure she knows SHE'S the most important thing in your life. I love hunting and like a lot of us it can consum my thoughts much of the day. She's needs to know your still excited about her and your meeting her needs. Ie. "5 love languages" book. Don't let hunting ruin a good marriage. It's just hunting and it does consum a lot of time away from her and home.
That was a good article, I liked the constent use of the term 'widow' when referencing the wives of bowhunters.
Here is how the last conversation about hunting with my wife went Hooker: "So am I going to be able to go hunting this year?" Mrs. Hooker: "Sure...are you going to actually kill something this year?" Hooker: *sobs uncontrollably
This has been my tactic for the 3+ years I've been dating my GF. So far it has gone very well. I usually throw in strategically placed dinner at a nice steakhouse towards the end of September along with some flowers right as the rut is getting ready to kick it into high gear. Seems to be working, but I can't seem to kill anything.
