I had to go Pick my own switch off the tree, and was told it better be a good one... I turned out fine... I think Vito's post was spot on.
I think lumping beating in with spanking really debases the physical and emotional trauma that a kid who is actually beaten goes through and lives with.
Perhaps there would be less children suffering that type of trauma if we did not minimize hitting children with sticks, belts and other objects by calling it "spanking". Re-read some of the descriptions of "spanking" recieved by those in this thread.
i dont have children, but God willing someday i will. And with that i will INDEED spank them. immediately followed up with making them tell me why they were given a spanking, followed by and big hug and kiss from their father/mother. i and my sister were spanked as a child (some of you vets to this forum remember my spanking stories) and i feel that i learned from every one. i love my parents dearly for the discipline/structure that they showed me. I also feel that mothers/fathers should try and discipline equally. Mom was an USAF MP so I took my fair share of licks from her as well (dad ARMY). i know kids who weren't spanked and turned out fine and also know a few that coulda used a good swat too! your kids do what you want, but I will say I HAVEN’T had many girlfriends who would be in favor of me spanking our potential chillens! diff strokes for diff folks but i will say that culture has something to do with this too. Race/socio-econ/region plays a big part.
I love seeing the bears get spanked every chance I get. Go Pack Go! As for my 2 boys I have never really felt the need to spank them. Their are so many other ways I can punish them.
I agree. You have to use it at the right time & manner. I've been around some parents who don't believe in spanking and their kids run them. Obviously there are more problems to that story.. but I know that being smart and spanking would have had some positive effects on that situation.
I have two girls. I've never spanked either of them hard or with anything other than my open hand. For the most part the threat of it is enough to get them to stop or even cry because it hurts there feelings if Daddy wants to spank them. Even the slightest tap on the bottom can send them on the ground bawling. Do not spank out of anger do not do it like a maniac. It is only one of many ways you can use to keep them in line. I dont see any issue with it as long as its done right.
I guess it would be ok but first i would have to know the woman first and have a safe word. how did i do
All I can add to this conversation is that "IF I were your son - you would have beaten me like my parents beat me" AND YES I deserved it! I bet if they didn't instill some sense of values I'd be... 4 kids in our family and I was the only handful - the others got timeouts or a rare bum slap - I challenged and I got it good. At 44 years old I have felt guilty for 25 of those years when I realized how much grief I caused my parents. Just a stubborn little bastard - Thats all... The crazy thing about it is all my friends parents thought I was a great kid, helpful, funny, smart, blah-blah-blah, But not to Mom & Dad
Spanking is to beating what hunting is to murder. Not the same, and demeaning to people who are actually beaten as Christine pointed out. A kid getting spanked for stealing a candy bar is not the same as a kid who is actually abused. That said, If/when I do have kids spanking would be a last resort. I've failed on several other levels if it gets to needing a spanking, but I'm not against it.
I see. Once the adult fails on several levels then it is OK to hit..oops, I mean spank the child with sticks, belts, paddles, spoons, cords, etc.
Yeah sums it up. Kids are placed on Earth as anger management tools for adults, DUH! Don't tell me you haven't seen the kid at the grocery store who all you want to do is step in for the mom trying to talk with the kid, and spank his ass for her! Kids are given 100% of the power and benefit of the doubt in today's society. They are never placed at fault, and rarely punished. I saw it with my own young generation, I can only imagine how much worse it is for the kids half my age now. Kind of sickening actually.
I was just using objects described in spanking by members on this forum. No one has mentioned hammers and pipes yet.
