Now THATS funny!! To answer the question. I got spanked as a child and my two kids did receive a couple spankings when they where young.
My dad whipped the snot out of my brothers and I. My wife and I do not regularly spank/hit our kids. In fact, my wife never hits our kids. I can count on one hand how many times I have swatted my children's butts over the years( Have three children). To be honest guys, I feel awful after I swat them, I really do. I might sound weak, but that is the truth. Like I said before, my father blasted the hell out of our rear ends if we misbehaved. I on the other hand am trying a much different method of that aspect of parenting. So far so good.
I dont have kids...yet...I'm 26 and newly married...that being said...my wife's mother disciplined with the wooden spoon. My father used to give me the belt....I learned pretty quick after that to do the right thing no matter what! I'm for spanking but some people can go overboard and hurt there child without knowing. as someone stated before..taking out there anger. Its funny how parents can react and there kids like ok this is what I'm supposed to do to. Like I said before I don't have kids yet but I know they can be challenging and sometimes you really to want to yell or scream at them but..they are just kids and they don't know any better. You have to take the time to show them the right way to do things...even when disciplining them. Be diplomatic about it. Thats how you get ahead.
I think people being super politically correct about spanking are lying to themselves. You can't deny that a little slap on the @$$ is an effective way of correcting childrens behavior. It's not meant to be a way for the parent to vent frustration but a way of communicating to a someone who doesnt have the full mental capacity to have a rational discussion about their actions and the consequences. I remember when I was young that fear of punishment was more of a deterant than the obvious fact that what I was doing was wrong. That is because I didnt know or didn't care what was right or wrong. I just did. Like anything though it has to be done in moderation if at all. I think it really depends on the child. I hope I don't come off as some uber conservative child beating Christian. I just see people raised with the "GO TO THE CORNER" and "IM COUNTING TO 3....1......2......2 and a half........DONT MAKE ME SAY 3!" and they all have no discipline or respect. Also in interest of full disclosure......... I dont have any kids. LOL Here is some scripture on the subject. Proverbs 22:15 - Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him. Proverbs 23:13, 14 - Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Those of us that don't hit our children are not being politically correct or lying to ourselves. Some of us have raised children older than you so we are speaking from experience not out of our ass. I bet these folks were quoting scripture the whole time they were spanking too. http://www.rawstory.com/rawreplay/2...spanked-daughter-to-death-in-the-name-of-god/
Did I spank my kids ? Yes !!! but I could count on one hand the number of times that I did that, and all my kids turned out pretty damn good. They are now 30, 31 and 40. I must be one of the older ones here, i can remember my dad giving me the belt a few times, I can't remember what for, but I probably deserved it. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse. Do I as a parent condone spanking....Yes in a few instances. The only problem is that my EX son in law seems to be into the abuse area with my 6 year old grandson, and if I ever catch him abusing my grandson, I will probably end up in jail for a few nights. I need visual proof, becasue he denies ever doing it....what a scumbag !!!
I think you misunderstood what I was saying. Sorry wasn't bashing the non-spankers, just saying the ones super PC about not spanking seem to want the image of being pampering parents of a higher intellect that puts spanking WAYYY below them.
Wow, pretty broad brush you're painting there. That blanket statement just made 95% of this site...or better, child abusers.
I feel like I should be on the board of directors. On the spanking.....I'm not against it, but I don't plan on needing to constantly resort to it.
I stated what I have not and would not do. Didn't paint anyone with any brush. I never made a comment about what anyone else does. It sure seems to have struck a chord though. Wonder why? I could have said I don't hit, swat, smack, punch, poke, push, use a spoon, belt, switch or stick but, I chose beat. What do you call it it when grown man or woman does any of that stuff to a 5 year old, discipline? Well, good for you. Look, I don't care if you folks want to carry on the good ol' family tradition of hitting your children because you can't get them to behave, have at it. You can beautify it however you want but in the end it is an adult hitting a child. I don't do that to my children.
Well, the one's that killed their child are a bit extreme. I was spanked as a child and think nothing of it. Currently, I don't have any kids but I'd like to think I would spank them if needed. Who knows, if/when that day comes, I may join the "timeout" crowd.
Hey look. I'm 67 going on 68. My son is going on 40. I can't get past the point of Pervert thinking on spanking. LOL Growing up the biggest worry was thinking of possibly being spanked. Then it was only a whack or two on the butt...not hard. I don't think it happened more than 3 or 4 times. It was always dad. Mom would say... I'm telling your dad when he gets home. If appropriate... I litterly went to the woodshed... got a couple emotional whacks and did my best to never have it happen again. A gentle whack on a rare occasion is a very good teaching aide. A whack with anger or fury or emotion is child abuse. The fear of God does wonders. BUT... sometimes I think you may have to get a childs attention and obedience.
We were spanked as kids. Out of my brother and 3 sisters... I got spanked probably twice as much out of all of them combined. Never felt dad was in the wrong for doing it. It didn't really even slow me down though and pretty much a waste of his time. Mom never spanked but would lecture me for an hour or so. Then she would call dad at work to inform him I needed another spanking. God I bet he got tired of them calls. Mom use to tell everyone... if you look up trouble in the dictionary... there is a picture of Tim. I never spanked my kids. I am just too rough and would have been afraid of hurting them. Barb doesn't spank the kids either. We found other ways of punishing them when they were bad. Looking back... my kids are angels compared to what I was when I was a kid/teenager/early twenties. Tim
