I think there is a big difference. If we played the "one of these things aren't the same" like on Sesame Street, I would take beating out of the list of words you provided. If I hit you on the shoulder, would you say I just beat you?
Yes, it would apply. You can dress beating up in all the socially acceptable words you want if it makes you feel better but a grown 180lb man striking a 50lb (or any) child is a beating.
I don't think you are fat. I just didn't know you were tiny. I am not fat and I weigh 210 lbs. I can't see me beating on a toddler.
Never in anger. Go cool off if you need to and let the child contemplate was coming. That's sometimes worse. Every child is different though. Some you'll only spank once or twice and you'll never have to again, others you my just make them mad and worse. Use your head to figure THEM out, they're using theirs to figure YOU out. Disclosure: I have no kids of my own but 7 siblings and now 40+ nephews and nieces. So I'm telling you what they've told me.
I am 170 lbs of lean, mean fighting machine. Or toddler beating machine, however you want to look at it.
After having my daughter for five years, which I never even had to rasie my voice and she listen to me was great. Then we had my son, and I tried everything to get him to listen. Finally I spanked him one day, and then the next. Now he listens, it took about two sessions with Dad. Kids are different, some are bull headed, some listen out of the gate.
We spank in the McRut household for 1 thing - disobedience. If we are 100% sure the child knew beforehand that what they did was wrong, then it is a spanking for punishment. All spankings begin with discussing the infraction and a brief reminder afterwards as to why it was administered. My children 100% know I love them and have their best interests in mind. If we cannot determine they knew it was wrong, then a parenting lesson is administered where we talk about why the behavior was wrong and should not be repeated. NEVER is any of this done out of anger/emotion. You are doing way more harm than good at that point no matter what punishment method you choose.
When I have kids, I will "beat" them when they are out of hand. Worked for me and I'm still here today and have no ill-will towards my peoples.
Let's make sure to get our sons together, LOL Zach used to laugh in timout, he'd sit there all day to prove you wrong, LOL
I don't have kids, I hope my opinion is still relevant. If I did, & the situation warranted, they would get spanked. I strongly believe if parents still spanked thier kids more often, there would be many more well behaved kids than what I see these days. And in an unrelated topic, I want to be on the fawn orphaner pro staff!!!!!!! I am very qualified.
"If your gonna keep your woman ya gotta Spank it!" hehehe....Just a little Justin Moore lyrics for ya all.. sorry.. the whole "spanking" discussion got that tune running through my mind..
I have a two year old boy and a three day old daughter. I was spanked by my parents. My parents, at least my dad, was spanked (or beat on) by their parents. Will I spank my kids? I don't know. I do think that they need to be old enough to realize why you are spanking them. It worked on me as a kid. I remember I hit my little sister when I was about 10. Dad's "beating" was swift and well deserved by me. I can say this...I didn't hit my sister ever again. I really don't think a timeout would have gotten the point across. I have a great relationship with my dad to this day. Im glad he was there to straighten us out when we needed it.
I'm not against spanking, as long as it is done in a controlled way and doesn't get out of control. I think too many kids are growing up as sissies these days anyways
Getting a swat is not the same as being beat. Beating someone inflicts physical damage and emotional trauma. I used to getting swatted on the rump or my mom would whack me upside the head when I got a little older. It was never painful nor did I ever harbor any ill will towards my folks. My Dad used to poke me in the sternum and yell when I did something to piss him off. That used to get my goat more than anything. It never hurt but it did more to piss me off than anything. I do agree that each child should be handled independently of others. My little brother, you could spank him and yell at him all you wanted, but he was so stubborn and defiant that it wouldn't have done any good. It was always better to talk stuff out with him or make him sit in the corner. I guess I always chafe at the idea of someone saying my parents beat me, I never felt abused.
