Let me get this out there. Guys, When your wife asks you this question... choose your words wisely. Trust me on this one, you may set yourself up for pain. But, seriously... I don't know. To tell you the truth. If she didn't ask me what I wanted, she could have gotten away with skipping this birthday. I wouldn't have noticed. Too much has been going on lately. But, I'll tell you. The first thing that came to mind was just simply time to shoot. Is "Time" a good answer for that question? Just curious. As I told someone earlier, I haven't even taken a shot with my bow, since the two or three shots I took before going out hunting this past spring, with Gabe (VTwin). It's kind of sad. But, if we can fade it, I am leaning toward getting either a climbing stand, or new (lighter weight) camo. My current "wardrobe" of camo selections is slightly more MN than NC. It just about killed me last year.
If it was me.... and it's not...... I would not ask for "time". It just would not go over well with my wife. Maybe you could switch off. Tell her you want to do a give a take so you can do what you want and she can do what she wants. Tell her she can go out one night (or whatever she wants to do) and you can go shoot another night. I don't know your situation but that is how I work it out. Marriage is all about give and take and working together to keep each other happy IMO. Good luck
I use my stock answer. "Dear you know I buy what I want for myself, there's no need for you to buy me anything. Your understanding and love is all I need."
My bad. Maybe I mis-spoke on that. My time is not taken by her. Quite the contrary. Out of the last six weekends, I think I worked three of them, and she went up to VA, to visit some friends of hers on one of them, and one of the ones that I was not working. Leaving us with two weekends, in the last six, that we were together. I have been out in various parts of NC, working with new clients, getting everything done for work. Not something that I "HAD" to do for work, but something that my boss asked me if I would like to do. She knows that I miss her, but I truly have not had any time for anything. I actually would love it if she would get a bow... that would give us something that we could both escape and do, together. I'm not exactly sure if any of that made sense. But I will change it tomorrow, if it doesn't. I need sleep. I worked too much today.
I tell the wife and kids that all I want is their love. It makes it a lot easier on everyone. Then, when I want to do something, I usually catch less flack over it. I make it a habit to buy my wife flowers 4 times a year outside the usual BD, MD, & Anniversary. I also make it a point to do things for my adult children out of the blue. It just reminds them that I am thinking of them.
i tend to agree with ben/pa. i wouldn't say the time thing, it will come off that you value shooting your bow more than doing something with her. women tend to find the worse or twist our words , and no not every women, but many. good luck and choose your words carefully
Considering I'll be traipsing around the Colorado mountains on my birthday, I'd say "an elk"... :D Aside from that, I like VA's answer.
I always tell my wife that I buy what I want when I need it, so there's no need for her to buy me anything.
b days are tough for me, just cause we didnt have much growing up so i'd lie to the kids at school and tell them i got all kinds of cool toys and what not. now i hate gifts cause it makes me remember how bad my folks felt not being able to give the things other kids had... grrrrrrrrrr the perfect gift now would be a meal (home cooked) or maybe a movie with popcorn and an ice cold soda!!! maybe she could make your fav meal or treat you to a flick... sorry im not much help
I hate birthdays to be honest. Never ask for anything from the wife or family. The way I see it I owe my mother for being here, so usually we have dinner at her house where I thank her for the 23 hours of hell I put her through on July 25-26th 1972. I have been a pain ever since My wife on the other hand is out of control, her 40th is this Saturday and we are already over 1k on the hole for her party.
I think asking the wifey if you could sling a few arrows and drink some beer while doing so for a few hours isn't too much to ask! (that's if you like beer) You gotta stay sharp for that one shining moment when that 180" monster steps out!
my wife an I have agreed to not 'celebrate' birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, etc., we buy/do things for each other when it means something, not when the rest of the world tells us we're spose to... and it is usually a LOT cheaper for us to do that, the extra money we save we use to pay off bills or do something nice for the family/house... she and I both love this arrangement
Since my birthday is Nov. 3rd I only want a 160" buck. . But regardless, I get a good gift every year, a week in the woods.
<---- July 24th right here!!! ... (shes sitting next to me)... loll.... I'll shoot you some pics. later....
