Ways to get more times in the woods with little ones at home?

Spectacular stuff guys.

Correct Vito, not really looking for someone to tell me how to handle my family. Just stimulating conversation about juggling family and hunting.

 

First of all, I'm not daddyslittlegirl, I'm daddy, her husband. She saw this thread and asked me if I would comment. I didn't want to set up an account so I'm using her login. Hope that doesn't violate the rules too much.

Family wise, we're in a similar situation. We have one daughter who will be three in October and one born this past April. We have always hunted together. When we scout, which is about dozens of hours more than we hunt we bring the girls with us. When we hunt Grandma babysits. But we can't impose on her too much, because she also babysits when Stephanie is at school if I have to work. We will probably miss this season because Stephanie is nursing and can't be away from Michelle for very long.

That's our situation, everyone's is different and what works for one is not necessarily going to work for someone else. Now let's get to yours.

First of all, I get the impression from your post that perhaps your wife is giving off some vibes that are making you feel she is not happy about your hunting plans for this fall. Your comment that you wish to still be married in December make me think that the vibes are getting noticed. Unless you've observed her reading the label on a can of Drano while she's making the coffee, you probably still have some time.

You say she knew about your hunting activities before you were married and had no objectons. Let's analyze that. At that point, when you left, she was free to bounce around town and shop, meet up with her old girlfriends to make fun of everyone's husband/boyfriend, etc., hang out with them etc. She could watch whatever she wanted on TV and had the whole house to herself. But things have changed haven't they? At that time she didn't have a toddler and a newborn hanging around her needing a whole lot of attention. As I mentioned, we have two girls about the same age so I know what I'm talking about.

Life has changed a whole bunch for her, but she is seeing you going off for long periods of time hunting while she is stuck at home playing mommy to a couple of kids. Has it changed for you? Well you're still planning on the same hunting schedule you may have observed before you even met her.

Reading between the lines of your post, I'm detecting some friction with regard to your hunting schedule. Maybe things need to change for you too.

Okay, I'm going to quit now and give you Stephanie back.

 

Anyone ever stand over their wife grasping a pillow just as she awakes?

Anyone?

 

I guess my situation is different. I'll be married on Sept 4th but we've been together for over 2 years. She has a 6 year old girl, from a previous relationship, that goes to 1st grade from 9-330. I told her that come hunting season, she's going to have to switch hours at work from 7-3 and make it 8-4 because I'll be in a tree and won't be able to take her to the babysitter. Her reply, "I know, it's your world I'm just living in it." That was that.

 

You're proud of that?....lol

 

Proud of that? Heck, I brag about it. She understands that I'm a serious bowhunter and it's my passion. In fact, she loves that I have a hobby that I take very seriously. It's just an additional reason why we work and I love her for it. I'm giving her a dream wedding so I doubt she can complain too much.

 

It'll be cheaper and less hassle to just give her half your **** now, before you get hitched.

 

That is some hardcore crap Redna! Goodness....hahahahaha! I take my kids and pick them up half of the time, even when I take time from work to hunt.

 

Wow. Just......wow.

 

"She knew what she was getting into when she signed up" only goes so far. "Daddy" had some solid comments. I know I am guilty of taking for granted that my wife's life has changed alot more than mine as a result of the birth of my son over a year ago. There's having an understanding wife and then there is taking advantage of an understanding wife. Everyone needs to find their own line. I am extremely blessed with a ton of people that live close that are excited about hunting season coming because it means they will have the chance to spend time with their nephew, grandson, or great grandson. They don't want him to grow up because they know when he is old enough, he'll be the hunter and I'll likely only carry a camera and calls.

 

Oh I take her and pick her up more than half the time. I should reiterate that this isn't for the entire season, just for a couple of weeks from end of October until the end of the second week of November is all. It might sound chauvinistic but it's really not. She understands and it has never been an issue at all. Like I said it works for us and is just another reason why I'm spending my life with her.

 

I mean this with 100% sincerity....

"SHE" doesn't have a 6yr. old girl from a previous relationship. The two of you have a daughter.

I wish you luck.

 

I'm well aware that WE have a daughter. I'm her "dad" and she knows it.

 

So no one then?

Huh...

 

Follow me on facebook you will get a very good idea how I roll with my family.

 

Indeed...you and your boys look like you guys have a blast together!

We are very limited on what we are able to but I do my best to spend as much time with my family during the off season as I can.

 

My wife doesn't have to ask me for permission to go and do something with out our little one.... Just the same, I do not have to ask her for permission either. We just let each other know our intentions in advance and it works out great.

Our little man is a good boy and it isn't a burdon for either of us to be home with him without the other. In fact we both really enjoy 1 on 1 time with him, as well as our family time.

 

On occasion

 

I decided to toss a female point of view into the mix. I'll just say that I agree 100% with what my husband posted. I'm not saying that because I have to agree with him. My mom raised me to be an obedient and submissive Japanese wife, but I'm not required to agree with whatever he says.



They hardly ever disagree though

 

I'm with Vito, I take the kids with me and give the wife a break. the 2 youngest have grown up camping and being outdoors. The last trip we took as a family was to go fishing and shooting before I left for Texas.