Some of you already know that I finally killed a nice buck yesterday. Had a great hunt and was on top of the world. I had climbed down and approached my buck and was kneeling beside it putting my hands on him for the first time when my phone rang. It was my wife, I took the call. Jump back to last Thursday. The guy that taught me to play the guitar had called me and wanted to get together for dinner and drinks. It was not an unusual request and one that I often made time for. I enjoy his company and loved talking music with him among other things. I told him that I was taking some time off to chase deer and was hanging in the evenings with my bow-hunting buddies grilling and telling stories. He said no problem, he would call me next week and I would have to buy him dinner and drinks since I could not go now and that he wanted to discuss some things. He was into a new sales venture and often asked me for advice. He had a lot of personal issues and I knew that he was struggling hard. Very hard. So, back to yesterday, I take the call.....and my wife tells me that he had decided his struggles on this earth were more than he could stand. He was gone. Left behind are a wife and kids and many friends and family. How many of his friends he had called and tried to get with I have no idea. I never will. How many of them did not have time to go to dinner or have a couple of drinks, I will never know. Did he want to tell me about his thoughts? Or, was this going to be his secret last good-bye? I will never know........but it really hurts and I will never look at that deer without thinking about him and what might have been. Picking up the guitar last night was heart wrenching, but he always insisted I make time for it every day. I will......
Wow... Sorry to hear that. I can't even imagine the thoughts that are running through your head. Stay strong and be happy that you had the opportunity to be friends with him.
Goodness man that is hard to read. Life can be brutally hard for people. We all need to treat each other with respect and kindness for we never know what others are going through in life.
It was hard to type. A tough reminder that when you feel like life is tough, somebody most likely has it harder. Too hard for some.
If there was nothing out of the normal in the tone of his voice or phrases used, there is no way you could have known. Sometimes, some people perceive their issues to be greater than they are and feel there is no way out. Our prayers go out to this family and those who were close to him.
He definitely sounded like business as usual. Even cracked a couple of jokes. Its just hard to comprehend.
Wow, I sure hate to hear that. One thing is for sure you cannot blame yourself. If you would have spent time with him and something happened to one of your other buddies you would feel the same way. It is unfortunate that he decided to do what he did, especially for his family and those who knew him. Just a shame.
Wow that is a tough one man... sorry to hear that. Hard to do but you can't take a hindsight approach. Not like he reached out specifically and you ignored it. No way to tell what was really going on. If the same thing happened 1,000 times in your life 999 of them wouldn't have the same result. Keep your head up bro.
Been there... it sucks. You can think of all the things you could have done differently that might had kept it from happening, but in the end you finally realize you had no control of it. You still feel bad because you know his family is wondering the same thing... what they could have done differently. They will be the ones that will suffer the rest of their lives on account of it and some of them will never forgive themselves. It is very sad. Sorry you have to go though it. Tim
Fletch I'm sorry to hear that man, especially this time of year when we all celebrate all that we are thankful for. My heart is heavy after reading this and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and your friend's family as they mourn.
Wow, that was a tough read fletch. I'm Very sorry for your loss and to the individual's family left behind. Prayers sent your way.
