Understand completely, this time last year my wife had moved in with my mother-in-law who was given 3 weeks to live(Cancer). She ended up making it to Oct 7th. You will go through all sorts of emotions, for me and it was tough I had to keep level head and be the voice of calming for my wife. I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve. Dealing with family and friends will take it's toll on you. Running around taking care of two house holds, taking my son to his events was hard. You'll make mistakes, I sure did. I thought my daughter was old enough and strong enough to handle this, she was not. I mis-judge what her grandmother death would affect her and my son. My wife struggled as well after, it has been a rough 10 months after her death, but I am here to tell you it does and will get better, but it's going to take more time than you think. Also on Oct 7th 2017 I was with my wife and MIL, my wife and I were talking about Zach's soccer tourney and if him and I should go. We decided to just go and deal with what happens. I walked out the door and drove about 300 yds from the house. My wife called and said her mother has passed, and she had passed. I did not feel sorrow, sadness nor was I mad. What I felt was a sense of relief I have never felt before in my life, don't be ashamed of that feeling, I am here to tell you it's okay. My wife felt it also, she took care of her mother 24/7 for 10 weeks. What you are going through sucks and you'll need time, lots of time and that's okay. My wife still has moments that set her off about her mom, as time goes by she has fewer of them, and now she handles them better. 1-6 months after my MIL death was very tough on my Family, I made a mistake on how I thought it should be handled, my let's "keep moving forward" line was not correct at the time. Take the time now with your Dad, my wife did the FML act, be sure to give yourself time grieve, as much as you want. Move forward when you're ready. Peace my friend
Thoughts and prayers with you. Watched my dad go through the same thing (although he was too stubborn to go to the doctors or let us get him into hospice). It was the worst thing I've ever had to watch another human go through. There was simply nothing I could do to help him. I knew he had cancer for a long time before he passed, but there was nothing we could have done to prevent it. It never gets easy, but it does get easier. Mourn as long as you need and do your best to come to peace that they are in a better place. No more suffering. I will be praying for you and your family today my friend.
Thanks everyone, it's certainly appreciated. I've spent as much time with my parents as I could the last few years, thinking I didn't want to have any regret that I didn't spend more with them while they were here. I don't regret that but the simple fact is that I think a person will probably still have that feeling no matter what if they are close to their parents. It's just a hard fact of life, any of us could go at just about any time. I guess all we can really do is live in the moment and be happy with what we have. Some days that's easier than others to do.
Thanks for sharing this Germ. My FIL was recently diagnosed with congestive heart failure. It is a good reminder to keep my attitude in check as I imagine the next couple of years, if he lasts that long, will be rough for my wife and MIL.
Went boating today on a lake east of me going thru a channel between lake beds and a jackass coming at me at a high rate of speed creating a big damn wake. If you see boats moored out instead of on boat lifts you don't need a sign to figure out it is a no wake zone.
Boots are ok but a jacket is way out of line. What that hell has happened a guy gets rich and spends crazy $ because he can and he has to testify about it? I will never feel bad about getting upgraded to first and get suites based on the volume of business.
Best make sure that the doc is a 90 pound female with skinny fingers...versus Big John with sausages for fingers. My doc didn't (retired now) do the manual prostate check during my annual exam. Said it would be done if/when needed. PSA would guide that decision process.
Copenhagen is now offering a new digital camouflage tactical tin, and you get a rubber bracelet if you buy a tin. Tactical chew give me a break.
I'm disliking that only because you just haaaad to give us the visual; didn't you. Couldn't just post the link, eh?
My dads got caught by a PSA test that digital would not have caught until it was very advanced. He had a very aggressive form. Cancer free for 7 years now.
Another police shooting, this family had lost another member due to a police shooting 2 years ago. Guns were recovered at the scene of both shootings and the family wants justice. Here is a hint it isn't the police it is the idiots with a gun in their hand.
