Stay at Home Mom ..... Thoughts?

Ah, no little Fitz following you around? You would have a fulltime camera person to document your journal:D

 

You missed the part where my brother has 5 kids

 

Very true. I don't blame you. I'm indifferent on the kids end. My wife, on the other hand, not so much. So that means...kids:D

 

Any thoughts on roles being reversed? Employer moms and stay at home dads? Just curious to see...


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Realistically, we actually could swing that scenario...I think. Student loans are getting paid off heavily right now because we can, so we would have to revert back to paying less on them further adding to the debt. All other expenses could probably be covered under one income. However, my job is not one you just leave for a few years and come back to after the kids are older. As a teacher, I will at least have a regular schedule and summers off with them.

 

There.
Is
No
Way
I
Could
Do
What
My
Wife
Does............FACT, and I would be lying if I said otherwise. I'm sure I could get the job done, but not like she does....

 

I would make a fantastic SAHD. No doubt in my mind. I would do it in a heartbeat.

 

Had to throw it out just to see. That's kinda how our roles are. For most around us it's been a badge of honor having stay at home wife, but how everything works out for us best is other way. For the most part we'd have better luck being African Americans being accepted into the kkk. It's amazing but it's brought out the bitterness of friends and family to pretty horrid levels. We're happy with it and have no plans on changing, just funny how same thing reversed, especially with those around us, would make such a difference. We've always just figured if people are happy with how their arrangements are that's great, everyone's definitely got different lives and work ethics and desires.


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I think either person in either role can be good or bad. It's all about the people and what they do with it.


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Why would anyone have a problem with a SAHD?

 

If someone thinks less of me because my wife has to work...don't care to know them and feel bad for them.
If someone thinks more of me because my wife stays at home...don't care to know them and feel bad for them.
If someone thinks about such things when judging someone else...don't care to know them and feel bad for them.

Just how I would/and do feel. :D

 

Surprisingly, this seems common in my area. We have a member of our hunting cabin who became a stay at home father after their third child. When he's not around at the cabin, so many of the older members make comments about how much free time he must have. It's over the top. They're so ingrained in their traditional ways of viewing the woman as having to be the one staying at home and the male being the provider that they can't look past gender roles to see the benefits of EITHER parent staying home.

Myself?

I would have the house burnt down and the kids running around crazy after a few days. I'm not cut out for it:D

 

For the most part it's just the quality of people around. Some are the working husbands or wives that think it's 365 day/year vaca (actually been said), some had wrongful personal gain supposed to be from our income, lots bitter cause they don't appreciate the work and differences that go with it, just think it's the perks they want to see. Lots around here are husbands work at mines and can have wives at home. Overall it's just people not happy with their lives and grass is greener on other side kind of attitude. Most people accepting are the ones happy with their family's.


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If this isn't a loaded question I don't know what is.... But you know that..... This is America.. Land of the free and home of the opinionated

 

We're both indifferent. But with each passing year, I lean more and more towards no kids. If it happens, it happens. Just hasn't happened yet

 

We have done both. Right now my wife stays at home with our son, and if we are able to afford to keep doing it I'd prefer to keep it that way at least until all kids are school aged. That's why we moved to IL, this position allowed us financially to do this.

Last summer there was roughly 2 months where my son was in day care and my wife worked. I'm sure if we had to we could do it again but I'd prefer not to if possible. We changed a lot of things financially to make it possible though, that's for sure.

 

Total respect!

 

I wouldn't trade my wife for the world! She's stays home with our two boys (8+9) and for the last two years has been homeschooling them. At first I didnt think it would be even remotely possible with my income but she was determined to make it work and found ways to contribute. She has found cleaning jobs that she does two or three days a week after school(the kids go and help) and works at the barber shop on Sunday. There is no way I could do half of what she does in the course of a week.