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Stay at Home Mom ..... Thoughts?

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  1. Tony

    Tony Legendary Woodsman

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    My mother was a stay at home Mom...she did not work outside the home, but spent her time raising 4 kids and being the best half of my parents marriage.

    My Wife always had a job that she was able to be with the kids or she was a stay at home Mom. She worked out of the home and was able to take the kids with her on delivering of her gift baskets. Bottom line, for the most prt she was home when the kids were home.

    Today, my oldest daughter is a stay at home Mom, raising my 2 grandsons and being the better part to her husband.

    Anyone else have a stay at home mom growing up?
     
  2. Iowa Veteran

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    My children had a stay at home Mom because my wife and I decided not to have someone else raise our children for 8-10 hours a day.
     
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    Would have been nice to have a mom growing up:/ Our dad did a hell of a job though.

    My wife an I both work jobs were we can stay with our boy 6 out of the 7 days a week. It works well for us.

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  4. Tony

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    Your dad is a hero in my book :)

    You kids will appreciate that when they are adults, my friend :)
     
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    My dad died when I was almost 5, my mom then quit working in town and opened her own beauty shop in our basement. It allowed her to always be home and make her own hours to not miss sporting events or anything. She's a dandy!
     
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    My mom was. I wasn't grateful then, but I am now. We won't be in any position to do that if/when we have kids since my wife makes more than me, but we will make it work.


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    No, both of my parents worked but I had the next best thing. My grandmother lived just across the road, I could be there in 30 seconds. I have some of the fondest memories spending time with her. She never had to ask me to do any chores as I was always gathering wood for her, cleaning, planting a garden, etc. I even spent some weekend nights with her and would introduce her to the newest board games. :) Fond memories.

    As far as my current situation is concerned, our child is currently going to daycare. The wife wants to stay home and we are working towards that. I have just a few short-term financial goals I want to achieve before she quits her job (mainly building up our emergency fund). Daycare ain't cheap (over $800 a month) and we're tired of our little girl constantly being sick from daycare - she had to get tubes in her ears which I blame on daycare. I am concerned that money will be tight, that we won't be able to put as much into savings, and my ultimate goal of buying land someday will be delayed. We will make it work though and I'm sure it will be for the best. Wish us luck!
     
  8. EODRay

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    My mom was a stay at home mom. My dad worked a rotating shift for 20+ years. The good part about that was that every month, he had a 1 three day weekend and 1 four day weekend. We went camping about once a month…….cheap camping……in a tent. If my mom had worked, I'm quite sure that we wouldn't have been able to do that. The only time she worked was when she was a secretary at the school that all of us went to. My wife worked until we had our son…….she hasn't since. At the time it was hard because she made as much as I did. We readjusted our finances and I wouldn't change it for the world. She home schools our son now too. I was deployed when my son was born and have had a couple more since. She is definitely the glue that holds us together and is for sure the better or our 1/2's.
     
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    I didn't as a child, but my wife stays home with our kids, and will continue to do so at least until they are in school all day. We may change things some at that point, we'll see....
     
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    My mom was. We made the decision to have my wife stay home with our kids until they were old enought to go to school. She then took jobs that allowed her to be home by the time they got off the bus. There's no price that can be put on raising your children.
     
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    My mom stayed at home until all of us six kids were out of the house. Now she works outside the home. She likes to keep busy.
     
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    My mom raised 6 of us kids. I was the youngest, and she stayed at home until I was in 1st grade. At that time she went to work at a bank and has been there since.
     
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    We are fortunate enough that I make enough to realistically be a single income family. I grew up with working parents but my wife didn't.

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    I had a stay at home mom. And my wife was a stay at home mom for the first 4 years we had kids. Now she works part time since the kids are in school.
     
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    No father so Mama worked from 6PM until about 2AM six days a week, with Sunday off.

    This required that Mama be very strict and that daughter be very obedient. Mama's strictness created an aura that caused daughter to follow the rules even though Mama was not there to enforce them.
     
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    My Mom was a SAH.

    My wife is not.
     
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    I don't think women should be allowed to have jobs.
     
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    My mom was a stay at home mom, was always there for us and doing everything around the house. I didn't realize until high school how different that was, I also realized how lucky I was. From then on I knew that I wanted to be able to offer for my future wife to have the same opportunity. Now with my little one year old girl running around I was lucky enough to give my wife the opportunity to quite her job before our daughter came. We don't live lavishly, but it is worth every second. My wife is a teacher, and when our youngest gets to elementary school she will go back to teaching out of the love for it. But that will allow her to be home when they are and also to have all the same holidays as them.

    We were lucky that we had kids young, if we would have waited I believe that we would have found it harder to give up the money that we would have both been making. God made it easy on us, I got a good job, she got pregnant and that was that. We now have our own house, and enjoy a great life.
     
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    My mom stayed at home until I was 11 years old or so. After that, she went to work. I remember spending entire summers taking care of my little brother with no parent at home during the day. We got along just fine.
     
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    8 kids in my family and I'm the 7th son and although my Mom stayed at home most of our lives. Really great thing for the kids but dad needs to realize the work they do.
     

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