Big I experienced stuff like that with my six year old son. He is naturally aggressive and when I used to spank him, he actually got worse. Now, I have to intimidate him a bit by snatching him up by the collar and really getting eye to eye with him to have an affect. My dad was naturally aggressive, so was I, so I am not really trying to continue the cycle. Now I want him to be strong, don't get me wrong, just not aggressive like his dad and grandpa. Now my eight year old daughter, I have hit her ONE time when she was 5 or so. Popped her on her rear when she was really acting out. She looked at me with a look of sheer terror. I have never had to spank her again. My son on the other hand used to respond by literally standing strong and acting like he was about ready to throw down. I've had to adapt to parenting with my son, working very emotional techniques with him, and he responds wonderfully. Different kids, different techniqes. Like I said, my wife is all against spanking whereas in my house, it was the norm.
I will tan their ass if they need it...worked for me. My Dad was somewhat of a disciplinarian being a USMC Force Reconnaissance Gunnery Sergeant...its amazing I survived. I am not that harsh.
Young children under say ten a single swap on the ass is fine after the first hit it is all about you and your anger. As a young child up to 13 years of age my father would take a apple switch and beat us boys until blood would run down are legs thru a pair of blue jeans he hit us until he was tired. I truly hate him for that.....He is gone now but some scares never go away.
I can get the same point across without laying a finger on them. "The look" is deadly. And the proper wording along with the look almost scares myself LOL. My mother taught me the art very well at a young age. Don't mess with an angry Italian woman. Although I was on the recieving end of the wooden spoon from time to time.
i treated them like i would an adult, i don't spank my freinds or other adults when they do something wrong so i didn't my kids. i'm a lot older then them and a heck of a lot smarter, so minupulating them into not doing or doing things as i seen fit was easy, i feel they learned better through other measures. especialy making them feel guilty for their wrong doings. but i'm not against it, i got mine and my brothers share of spankings and i lived through it.
Had the old Baby's Breath flower bush in our front yard. If you ever saw one of these, you know that it is basically a switch bush. All dad/mom had to do was break of one of these about 2ft long and slide there hand down from the bottom to the top and leave a swath of leaves on the very tip. This would make you a very obedient young man in a hurry. (We got the belt too, on a regular basis. It would be smoking as it cleared the last belt loop.)
I have a hard time spanking my daughter but the smart a$$ step son No problem. The boy took a swing at his mom once and I lost it. I never punched him but I slapped the crap out of him. He told me he was going to call his dad I told him go ahead and I'll slap him too. lol When I was a kid my brother got the brunt of my dad's attention. He paved a pretty smooth road for me. He would do stuff just to piss off my dad. The old man would use his leather belt when he got the urge. The best one that sticks out, my brother got caught smoking so my dad beat his butt with a cig hanging out of his mouth.
Discipline is learned ! My dad beat that absolute crap out of me when I cut-up until I was big enough to kick his butt !! Hypersensitive people will tell you that it's wrong to strike your child, and, this is likely the reason why most youths, these days, are a bunch of freaking pussy-cats..
We got spanked when we did wrong, or when we got caught for doing wrong. From Dad it was usually a bare hand, from mom it was a wooden spoon. When she started breaking them on us, it became a Dad chore full time. My brother broke her of spanking us one day by laughing at her while she did it. She swung that spoon until she couldn't swing no more. He had tears running down his face, but he kept laughing. His ass was red for a week. Yeah, he got some more when Dad got home too. The thing that made me act right was when he decided less was more. Fly swatter on a bare bottom, yep, that's where I'll start with my kid cause that's where it ended for me. That **** stung.
My Mom is one of the sweetest, caring, unselfish people you will ever met...but don't piss her off, especially when she is in reach of a wooden spoon. She maybe small, but don't play.
My grandmother tells a story of my great grandmother. Back when she still lived in Italy, she was down at some stream(not sure the significance of this stream. I think it was a place to hang out or something) with her future husband, my great grandfather. Another woman who was interested in my grandfather showed up on her horse. My great grandmother knew this woman liked my great grandfather and had told her, previously, to stay away. Well, she didnt listen and my great grandmother threw a rock at her, smacking her in the head and knocking her from her horse !! She should have listened !! HOW AWESOME IT THAT !! She would also beat us with her shoe when we were acting up, as children.
We got spanked... a lot. He would make you go out behind the garage and wait for him. I think the waiting was worse then the spanking... he took his time. Then he would guilt trip you before spanking. He would make us stay and watch while he spanked the other ones if it was a group spanking. I think mom bought him belts just for spanking us and making it hurt. She seemed to pick the perfect belt in that reguard. The last time my dad physcally corrected me was when I was 16. Hadn't been spanked for many, many years as he was into grounding. I think I out grew his belt !! Anyways... I was arguing with my sister and she always had to get the last word in. We were eating dinner and dad told us to knock it off. Course she had to get in the last word and I told her to shut up. Dad reach across the table and slapped me across the face pretty hard. He then told me if I said another word he would do it again. I looked at him and told him it wouldn't be in his best interests to do it again. It was the first time I ever had the urge to hit him. A slap across the face to me always meant a show of disrespect and contempt. I could handle the show of disrespect as I deserved it. The thought of contempt hurt much, much more then the sting of the slap. It hurt more then any spanking, swat or punishment he ever dished out... combined. I hated that and my temper wouldn't let him do it again if he tried. He knew it. He started raising his hand and dropped it back down. Was a very tense few minutes. I got up and walked out of the house. Glad as hell he didn't folllow. After the temper cooled off... I felt horrid for even thinking about hitting him. Mom never used a belt on us. We were lectured into boredom and smack upside the head or on the back. Dad would deal with us when he got home. I used to believed in giving a swat to correct but never did the spanking thing. I didn't last long at even giving out swats. I can only remember giving my oldest daughter a few swats. Too afraid I would hurt her by swatting too hard. Working on big equipment and all the things that comes with farming... you tend to be rougher then you think. Hard to explain... but it scared me that I would swat her to hard the few times I did it. I found other ways to punish them or left the swatting up to the wife... which she wasn't a real big fan of either.
TJF, had a similar moment with my father. At 16, I was 6'2" 180. My father was 5'8" 145. We were arguing (which was rare, so it must of been something good) and he saw me close my fist. He stopped mid sentence and told me to do it. I asked what, and he said "go ahead and knock me down, when I get up, I'll still have the keys to your car and the roof over your head. That was the last serious altercation we ever had.
My oldest is only three, too young to spank yet. My mother never punished me while she was angry. I always had to wait a day or two while she decided how serious it was and what to do. There were only two punishments, a lecture/scolding or a whipping, which consisted of a belt applied numerous times to my bare tail. Once it was over, it was over, although, of course it took a couple days for the welts to go away. It helped instill in me a fear of doing the wrong thing until I was old enough to understand why doing the wrong thing was wrong. May The Sheep Be With You
LOL ... once that cub lion starts becoming an adult lion .... the room for the Alpha male spot can create some funny stories ..... I remember yelling at my Mom about something when Dad was home .... he came out of nowhere and picked me up (! was 16 and no wimp), threw me to the ground and laid on me, putting his nose up against mine and stated with words pretty easy to understand, "If you ever &#$@^^^@ talked to your Mother like that again, I will @#%%@# punch you in the face!! " .. or something along those lines... :D ... I bout pooped myself
Ah yes, the infamous butt whoopin's from years past. Yeah, I got my share of beat downs from my parents, mainly my mom (short italian lady. You know the italian temper.) Heck one time she was husking some sweet corn for dinner and whacked me over the head with an ear. You wouldn't think an ear of corn would hurt like that. The ol' man used to make me cry with just "the look". I'm 32 years old and still wet the bed sometimes thinking about it. In all seriousness, its all coming back to bite me in the ass. I have a 2 year old little boy, that no matter how many lickins he gets, it does not phase this kid. He just goes about doing whatever he was when he got the lickin' to begin with. It's too much diaper padding I think. My mom loves it. She just smiles and says its all coming back, full circle. Parents... smack your kids butt once in a while. There is a huge difference between a spanking and beating on your kids. Make them know right from wrong. You won't have to pick them up from jail when they're older and they'll thank you for it later in life.
