I think its a lot about being proud or bragging. If it's a personal goal or achievement that someone's happy with and showing it that's good, when its done in a deuchebag way not so much, unless in friendly natured competition, then insults and rubbing in can be fair came. Some things routine or low to others are proud accomplishments to others and good for them. I've lifted with people that benching 200 was a challenge they never got to, and some that cleared several reps of 400 and were mad wasn't more, and I was in between fighting for my own goals. I shattered my knee ten years ago and was told he hoped to get me walking right again. Since, I've squatted over 300 and last year ran my first 5k and was proud to be under 30 min. To me awesome, the people squatting more no big deal, the guy who passed me running with a double stroller not as impressed with me, but I was happy since I couldn't do either before my break. Now my goals are higher. It seems since I started shooting for my own bests and not worrying about others things only improved, and eventually looking back on it did tons of stuff I was told wouldn't couldn't or shouldn't. Just my rambling two cents. Had a conversation about this yesterday with a buddy so was fresh in my mind Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I727 using Tapatalk 2
If someone honestly shares their struggles to reach a goal, I am proud for them when they reach it. I know people who struggle to do 10 pushups and they know getting there isn't impressive by other's standards but I love it when they share with me their accomplishements and I will celebrate with them. If someone waits to hear my success story so they can "one up" me... Puhleeeze.
Yup. Maybe its the style of how it's put out. Someone saying guess what I'm so happy I did such and such is different than hearing someone else and saying yeah well I did better with this. A lot is the social skills too. Some come off bad when not intended to and some mean to poke at it. Sometimes even one upping in the right times can be used to motivate, and sometimes as a jerk. A lot of what I've seen was people pushing others with accomplishments too to motivate and doing well. And some quit from rubbing things in. Knowing the audience and intent and way the people interact is a big part. And how much interest people have in something or effort too. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I727 using Tapatalk 2
My son swims and us parents work the time clocks. Many of the kids are just happy to get a new "best time." Others are driven to have to beat everyone in the pool. Some are great sports and congratulate other swimmers, some are genuinely excited for another's success and and some are simply placaters. I love it when I see an older swimmer get out of the pool and encourage a younger one. My pet peeve is seeing one of the kids swim just fast enough to keep another swimmer from winning, not to challenge them but to demean them.
That's a time when the kids should be dealt with about it. Especially when growing up I think sports can be a great time to learn to be respectful and appropriate about bragging or proudness. Lots of that can shape if someone will grow up in a positive or negative way. the friendly competitive and rubbing in I'm thinking of is I'm not too good at some sports like bean bags, but if we're down 20-0 and I have a good round ill celebrate it like I just won the world series in good fun. Or certain challenges for lifting or running or whatever, a spotter pushing you or someone close in skill competing. I think it gets different not being so much in organized sports or events, and definitely different with age and crowd. I was on the bad side of a lot of the garbage of sports in high-school and have always been a good sport towards others. Now me and most of my buddies give eachother more crap than any others we see, all in good nature and is taken that way just knowing that's how its meant to be. We also don't do it to people that wouldn't take it the same or understand it as we do. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I727 using Tapatalk 2
I brag on my kids. I know I shouldn't and I don't anywhere near as much as paw paw. I think these pics are brag worthy. A few of my son's trophies and homerun balls. My daughter with her national championship dance trophy. She's on the right. sent from my samsung note 2
