Should I feel Guilty?

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  1. soccerdan90

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    Then buy it and ask for forgiveness. You aren't married who gives a crap what you do with your money! Haha.


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  2. Marauder

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    I'm glad this comment came from a lady. :bow:
     
  3. Spear

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    Why should you feel guilty or feel like you have to ask permission/forgiveness for what you do with your own money? She has no say. Red flag!
     
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    One of the foundations of a good relationship is the ability to support your significant other. Both of you should go out of your way to help the other achieve their goals. Whether that goal is something as important as a home, or as insignificant as a backup bow. One of the greatest things about my wife and I's relationship is that we don't really tell each other no when it comes to things like this. In the scheme of things, decisions like this are extremely insignificant, assuming the money isn't robbed from peter to pay paul(as the saying goes).
     
  5. bucksnbears

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    un-zip, reach down in a see if you feel a pair:poke:

    in all honesty, i've had quite a few relationships ruined over $$
    my Denise of 19 years has NEVER ASKED ME ONCE how much somethings is/was.
    she buys what makes her happy and vise/versa.
    i smell smoke on your horizon
     
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  6. sachiko

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    My husband and I have a quite different relationship than most, and, apparently from yours. So I'm not going to give you any advice.

    But it appears to me that perhaps you two should sit down and have some very serious discussions.
     
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    Nope. I wouldn't.
     
  8. NY Bowhunter

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    You have to sin before asking for forgiveness.

    The day I have to get permission to buy a new bow (or anything) is the day I no longer have a significant other...... just sayin
     
  9. TwoBucks

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    You were rocking it at the gtg, but I want a new bow too. What if instead of buying it now you make payments to yourself for a few months so it's a little easier on the check book? Or sell the car and use that money. I would feel bad if I couldn't come to an agreement with my girlfriend but still bought the bow knowing she would be mad. Don't necessarily have to ask for "permission" but I think agreeing on some kind of plan is a good idea.


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  10. TwoBucks

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    Wise words


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  11. Chris1982

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    Get your bow, doesn't sound like you're doing anything irresponsible by spending that money. If she fights you on what you want now don't expect that to get better one you get married. I'd probably own a new bow and be single and looking by this weekend.
     
  12. Heckler

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    I wanna know how she is taking at vacation to Europe for $1500. lol! Is that what she told you? If so, then double it.....

    Boy you are going to have it bad if you ever marry this gal if its this way now.... :p
     
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    If she's trying to control you now...it's only going to get worse. Support goes both ways in a relationship, and evidently she doesn't support your hobby.

    ...so what bow you looking at?
     
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    R....u......n.....
     
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    Tell her something is getting traded for a newer model, her or the bow - her decision


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    I never dispense advice concerning the affairs of Love, Religion, or Politics, but your question doesn't relate to any of those. So...NO, you should not feel guilty!! Enjoy the bow.

    Bill
     
  17. Marauder

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    I am checking out the HTR can't really decide in black or lost camo. I wanted Stone but he sold it so those are the two options, and they are a little cheaper. :tu:
     
  18. Marauder

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    And I'm not gonna lie, a lot of these suggestions are making me chuckle a bit. :lol: Thanks for all your help guys and gals!
     
  19. Heckler

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    Glad you got a laugh out of it. Just don't let her see or hear about any of it. We will all know what happened if you go MIA...
     
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    Buy it and tell her it's the same one you had before haha
     

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