Yes it is used typically with younger children because that is when it is most effective as a tool. As children get older spanking becomes less and less effective. At that point when they can understand, spanking doesn't accomplish anything.
I got a total of 30 wacks in 6th grade alone 10 set of 3. The worse thing was them telling my folks which meant I got hit again when I got home because I made the principle have to spank me. It always left marks to but it also straighten me out some. Never got wacks again after that year. 5 years old seems young though. Does time-out or cookies not work for him?
Time out or wall as they call it works very well for him. I'm not sure why they went straight to spanking. I have a meeting with the teacher tomorrow to see what happened for sure.
Saying that being punished and taught a lesson at home by parents is a F N joke!!! There is a reason that kids don't show respect to adults and we deal with issues like school shootings...there are far more people who don't think there kids do anything wrong and don't believe in spankings. When I was a kid and you did something wrong you got spanked at school and then you got your @$$ kicked when you got home. You didn't talk back to adults and kids need more of this somewhere.
My view on this if you don't have the parents permission you can't touch the kid. If the kid is being disruptive send him to the office. If you do have the parents permission they better let the parents know when they do and they better have a good reason and never leave a mark.
Spanking in school isn't allowed here. But my mother always took care of matters at home. And she left marks.
Not sure if I will even spank my kids let alone allow a teacher to do it. My dad teed off on my you know what a few times and it really leaves sour taste in your mouth about spanking your kids. But maybe thats why I don't mouth off to teachers and people in public and never got in any significant trouble when I was young. I'm not so sure i like the idea of beating respect into kids though.
Worrying about when the parents are notified or whether they agree with spanking or not just shows the root of the problem. Instead they should be embarrassed that their child did something to deserve one. What the focus of all of this should be is raising responsible adults. I never heard of a child being permanently harmed by a spanking at school but have seen too many teachers assaulted on the job lately. As long as we parents complain about how and when the punishments our children are given, we are losing sight of the goal. I think the reason we had better behaved kids years ago was the whole society helped raise them. I still remember being chased home by my best friend's mother on the end of a fly swatter for back talking at her house. And when they called my Mom from school to inform her of their intentions to administer the paddle, she never asked why and didn't hesitate to say go ahead. I know it bothered her more that they had to call than my butt. In junior High, every male teacher had their own custom made paddle( compliments of the wood shop class).
If I'm ever blessed with any kids, I'll probably consider spanking if their actions are severe enough to warrant it but I don't plan on allowing any school employee making that call. I never got a spanking or any type of corrective actions when I was in school. I got sent to the office once for confronting a shop teacher for being unfair and ended up being sent back to class and the teacher got in trouble because I was right, lol. Dad spanked me a couple times when I was little for being unruly and running in the house (I fell and got two concussions from hitting my head on a cabinet tv prior to the spankings). I think that was the only time I ever got a swat. When I was in grade school, the 5th and 6th grade teacher (combined class) would paddle kids that got way out of line. After I got through 5-6th the summer between then and my freshman year, that guy got nailed by a students father for sodomy. Apparently it had been an on going thing for a few years and a few boys. He'd act all cool around the boys like wrangling rattle snakes and playing with a dune buggy and shooting all kinds of guns and invite them out to his farm and then start showing them all kinds of porn and crap finally working his way around to making advances, etc... He got several of them to trying to invite me to go out to the farm with them and I'd never go because he gave me the creeps. One of the guys he'd been doing that with for a while, his dad found out about it and confronted the teacher dude and he ran from him with the father in pursuit. He ran into a church and bared himself in. Cops were called and he was arrested, tried and convicted on several counts and spent a good amount of time in prison. That's the kinds of people we have to be concerned with granting power over children in school. Threat of a paddle could be used for more than intimidation to act properly. I'll more than likely petition for any kids of mine to be home schooled. We don't have any good private schools around here and I'll be damned if I'll ever send mine to public.
