I am indifferent to spankings. My dad never spanked me once growing up and I was scared to death to disappoint him. My mom and stepdad on the other hand spanked me and it too was effective, just in a different way. I think discipline in general is an oversight in today's society, not necessarily just spankings. Parents just don't discipline their kids and it's teaching kids that they don't have to take responsibility for their actions, which is crap. My 3 (almost 4) year old daughter cries at the smallest of spankings whereas my son who is only 11 months, could literally care less if I spank his butt or smack his hand. And maybe that may seem young to some people but this kid is playing with electric outlets, chewing on cords, flipping the dog bowl, and he will do it while looking straight at you while you tell him no. He knows exactly what he's doing and a spank does nothing. You hate to discipline kids differently but you have to use what's effective FOR THEM as an individual.
I got swats in school, up through the 7th grade anyhow. They would call amd get permissiom, but I believe at some point there was a change to a parental consent form that just need to be signed and returned. I didn't realize there were schools that still did this, actually thought it was now illegal. I have no problem with having swats given to me, don't think the ones from school did much good as the principal was a bit of a Nancy, but the ones I got when I got home later were rather effective When i lived at my uncles one very similar to this hung menacingly on the wall, but it had a few holes in it to reduce drag I still think that a corrective paddling is lacking in today's society. Taking away an Ipad in lieu of an X-Box really doean't have the same effectiveness. I guarantee the talking back of the youth was a lot less when I was a kid.
I believe in discipline when it is needed.. The main thing is that the child understands the behavior that lead to the discipline. I always made my kids tell me why they got disciplined.. Unusually they cried harder then than when they were spanked... My father was the type to tell you once and once only.. You make the mistake a second time "kaddie bar the door!"
LOL, that reminds me of the ping pong paddle my grandma used to use on us. She was a small frail woman who couldn't hurt a fly with that paddle but seeing her upset made us grandkids upset. She used that paddle and we'd laugh, until we saw that it upset her that she had to use it on us.
I have never spanked my children, and I don't plan to. That said if anyone is ever going to spank them it going to be me and not some stranger at school or anyplace else. If anyone ever did spank them or otherwise lay a hand on them , their job should be the least of their worries.
My wife was never spanked by her parents growing up. Her dad or mom telling her they were disappointed in her was way worse. Me on the other hand got it all the time. My son get's spankings at home every so often, but if we sit him down an tell him we didn't like what he did he tears up. There is a time and place for both.
My rear end and a yard stick met a few times. I was even chased around the yard with a yard stick waving. Luckily I was able to out run my mom.
Amazing.. You are a blessed man! And---- The one in the middle that takes the lickings must be a great mom...
I was blessed with getting plenty of swats in elementary and middle school. Then in high school, policy changed and they started in-school suspension, which I partook in on occasion as well. I will just tell you as the recipient, and now a grown up, swats were much more effective for me. #1 reason was that you got your swat then you were back in the class. You weren't missing a couple days worth of instruction. In-school suspension was like a vacation from class. I'm totally fine with swat in school if they meet these criteria. Notify my in advance(I have a cell phone an can be reached at a moments notice). Secondly, the swats need to be given by an administrator, not a teacher and especially not the teacher that is emotionally involved in the situation. I had plenty of swats, never did they hurt me physically more than they did emotionally. The principal would go over the situation and explain what the punishment was and why. I deserved almost every swat I got, and I'm not emotionally distressed by them today.
God help anyone spanking my child. If my kid needs a reprimand, it'll be me doing it. And you better believe I will be taking care of it when I hear about it. To say kids today are the way they are because they have taken spankings out of the school is just a cop-out. If that kid was disciplined at home in the first place then there would be no reason to have to spank him at school. The problem with some of todays kids is, they dont have parents who care enough about them at home to make sure they behave themselves in society. Way too many parents out there that dont want to take the responsibility of raising their own children.
I used to think it was ok back in the day for a teacher or a principal to hit a kid, now not so much. Teachers now are such liberal puppets they just want to let their agenda be known rather than teaching the material.
Never said that taking spankings out of school was why they are this way! The problem is we have children raising children. I have a saying I use to tell my wife when I disciplined the children. I do not raise children to be children.. I raise them to be responsible adults... I can probably count on one hand the times I spanked my kids. Normally raising my voice or the stink eye would end the behavior immediately...
I surely hope this isn't directed towards me. He follows all rules at home. I'm sure there were several little boys throwing rocks(haven't got the while story yet. Waiting for the principal to call me back) an he got excited and caught in the middle of them.
No...didnt meant to imply that was what you said otherwise I would have quoted you. I agree 100% with what you said about too many young-uns having young-uns... and then being more worried about their own lives moreso then the children they give birth to... I can also say I never had to give my kids many spankings either... but they also knew I kept my eye on them.
Again, no otherwise I would have quoted you with my reply... I was more or less talking about some of todays kids in general.
I can argue that swats are a much more humane punishment than what the schools are doing these days. Locking kids up in a tiny room for 1,2 or 3 days at a time with little to no interaction with other people. All that does is leave them alone in their thought. Thoughts the most likely turn towards self pity, blame or anger. You've all heard the idiom about the work of idle hands.
