...hold your lines with love and consistency. {Excellent Advice} ... it is never too early to start teaching your daughter what she needs to know. {Excellent Advice} __________________ Here's the bottom line: be her rock and have her back. Let her know you are there to protect her and God help the poor fool that messes with your Baby girl. If you do that in spite of the roller coaster ride, you will hold her heart till the right guy comes along. Until that time, she won't look for that "rock" anywhere else. Helpful solutions: get her involved in the outdoors in some way. Hunting, fishing, shooting and camping build life skills. If she has self-confidence in herself, she will be less likely to fall in with the crowd. If she can handle a gun and a bow, she will be less intimidated --and she'll look for a guy that likes the same things. As for the DREADED hormones... I have no no idea about young teenage girls, but for women going through menopause, a VERY helpful natural remedy would be DoTerra oil blend called "Clarycalm". It may indeed help with mood swings, weight gain and acne caused by out of control hormones. Lastly, have a blunt conversation with her. Yes, hormones can wreck havoc, but it's no excuse to act out temperamentally and abuse those around you. Teach her what's going on with her body (or have your wife do it) and then let her know you expect her to "be aware" of herself and reign in her mood swings. It's not fair to take things out on others and expect them to just take it. A lady does not do that. you will be doing her future husband (and children) a HUGE service by taking the bull by the horns from the get-go.
^^ Great post thanks, she already hunts, fishes, and shoots so we have that covered lol That is the easy stuff
Been through it once and now going through it again. Both daughter are very different in personalities. Kayla was like her mom and wasn't too bad. Kayla always was focused on where she wanted to be in life. That started at a very young age. I swear she had her life plotted out by the time she was 10. Nothing has changed since then. Britney is more like me and loves to have fun. She is 15 going on 16 in July. She is a hell of a lot more expensive to raise then Kayla. She loves buying clothes, going places and hanging out with her friends. She loves hunting and shooting. I can relate with all of that other then buying clothes. She has been pretty easy to raise. There are no boy friends. I don't believe in dating at that young of a age. I stress she needs to work hard at school, take advantage of having fun with her friends and going places to experience life. So far that has worked. I swear now days parents push their kids to date at 12 and 13 years of age. Then they wonder way they are having so many problems with them. Instead of the parents being an influence to their kids as they grow up... they are influenced by their 13 year old boy friend. I am sure he has all the right answers for their daughters. It is stupid !! Tim
You're absolutely right. Childhood is a time to learn to be an adult. For that you need the firm guidance of adult parents who are firmly convinced that they are right. You need to be able to depend on them to keep you on the straight and narrow. And I say this not from my great experience as a parent. Our daughters are only seven and four. I say that from my own experience as a daughter.
TJ, the short answer is I raised three girls and wouldn't do it again for money.........I'm not kidding! But believe me, there is the other side of this issue, and after they go through it they will somewhat return to normal. If I could give any advice I would tell you to remain calm and pick your battles. Someday she will thank you for being the type of dad you are. And when she has her own daughters, you'll have the satisfaction of sitting back and smiling and saying "I told you so." Blessings. ..........Pastorjim
My 14 year old cousin makes me feel like my parents deserve all the money in the world for how they raised me. Seeing kids smoking cigarettes, Weed, drinking, tattoos (not real ones) it just seems like the new generation of parents, at least around me, gave up on raising kids right. She also thinks she is into girls now and likes to let everyone know, I've had to block her Facebook because I got so sick of seeing the word "bea" and twerking videos.
My daughter is 14 and same deal as virginiashadow, she fine most of the time. Very confident and fun to hang out with and we have a lot of fun times talking and playing sports together, but there are those times where she goes completely emotional, LOL. I have learned how to deal with, I just buy her chocolate and get as far away as possible. Sometimes she'll just start to cry, as a Dad I want to fix it, but you cannot. I asked once why she was crying, she replied, "I don't know". Learn to give her space and you'll be fin, you cannot fix this as a Dad.
I just walk away like Bill Murray in Caddyshack when the flare ups start. Most of the time they don't want you to fix anything they just want to complain.
So I was just browsing through the titles of the different threads and saw "Preteen girls" and I was like what on earth could this be...! Now that I know what this is about haha: As a girl who is past the teenage stage (I'll be 23 this year), I can tell you from my experiences that I just wanted space. If my parents tried too hard to help me (and I know now that it was all in my best interest and they really had only the best intentions), I would only pull away more. I don't know why, but that was how it was for me. If your daughter is being dramatic, don't pay too much attention to it and let them work it out for themselves. You just have to let them figure themselves out, try to keep them out of any serious trouble and be open to talk to them about anything if they want to. As they approach 20, they will calm down and snap out of it, and appreciate you all the more later on for trying. I know I did! Also, hunting definitely kept me down to earth and was something I LOVED doing with my dad every year. Get your daughter into it, ITS THE BEST
I have a 7 year old girl who IMMEDIATELY apon getting in the car after school goes on a lengthy explanation of 2nd grader political drama of the day.......I stare a head blankly and drive, I never know what to say half the time, I'm sure it doesn't get any easier, we have lots of school ahead
Having a daughter changed my outlook on life. Feelings came from deep inside that I had no idea I had. I was sitting around a camp fire last year listening to father/daughter country songs (country isn't exactly my thing either) and started tearing up thinking about giving her hand away in marriage or dancing with her at her wedding. She's 3 years old... It's ridiculous. It's weird because I didn't experience any new feelings (except joy of course) when my son was born like I did when my daughter was born. Don't get me wrong, I cried tears of joy when both were born, but I'm actually struggling with it because it makes me feel like I love and care for my daughter more even though that isn't the case at all. I think the difference is, as a father, I feel the need to protect my daughter for her entire life whereas my son will one day protect himself. That's not to say I wouldn't protect him, but there's just something about having a daughter that brought out feelings I can't explain. For me, it's been a completely different bonding experience with my son than it was with my daughter. Hopefully that's normal, maybe I'm weird, but I certainly can't explain it.
Shoot I tear up just imagining a lot of things when I think what if I have a daughter....and we ain't even pregnant yet.
