You guys definitely need to fix this. Whether you ever hunt together again or not is irrelevant. I think both of you are wrong and life is too short to lose a friendship over a dingblasted deer.
I think some of you guys are being a little hard on the guys. The DB friend obviously doesn't care much about his rules and wishes after 15 years so why keep being the nice guy? Move on and make new friends. People change and evolve over their life time and they each may not have the same mind set as they did 15 years ago. As for smoking on the stand only after you've filled your cooler. Kilboars Hunt Club
Obviously there is an issue that needs to be resolved. Just because someone values different things doesn't mean two people can't continue as friends. I have friends with whom I absolutely disagree with on some things. That's okay, even though I may get irritated when I or he/she press an opinion too strenuously. Time heals wounds... but an apology is a great ointment that speeds healing. Humility says... "I am not sure what happened... maybe we should have had this conversation a long time ago, can we talk?"
Yeah, I hear you. I just had a similar falling out with a person I considered a good friend of 6 years and we haven't spoken since and, the more I think of it the better I feel about moving on. It was also over hunting property so I guess I just feel like I'm in the same boat. Kilboars Hunt Club
I could put up with the smoking on stand and the other things he does, he's just got a different hunting style and doesn't take it as serious. That's fine. But the being late all the time is one of the most disrespectful, selfish, rude things one person can do to another. It tells me I don't care about you or your time, I'm going to do what I want and you WILL wait on me because what I want and my time is worth more than yours. For me THAT would have been the deal breaker years ago.
your friend was being a **** there is no doubt there. but when you told him to wait to go look for it and he did then came back to look for it and you told him no. YOU SIR are being a **** as well. it your land yes. but then dont let people hunt it and tell them how and when they can hunt it. if you are going to be like that dont let anyone hunt your land and there will be no problems.
There are better ways to handle it. I had a fishing friend who was often late... I would just let him show up to my house after I'd gone already. (This was before cell phones) The next day he'd tell me he showed up and I'd simply say, I left when I thought you weren't coming. Two or three times of doing this would change the dynamics of the relationship quickly. As with all relationships... we have to train our friends to be our friends. In business, it's called "managing up." In parenting, it's called "discipline." In relationships, it's called "mutualism. or giving and taking." There is a cool passage... "A friend loves at all times." If you have a friend that is a "db" (if that is the correct word)... regardless of what he does... your responsibility is to be the friend, otherwise you probably never were either.
