I didn't read all the responses but my wife and I were in the exact same boat. We planned on and were content with one. Once talk of #2 began I was dead set against it - until someone pointed out that if something tragic were to happen to my wife and I, would we want our only child to be alone. That changed my attitude completely- sorry it may sound depressing but I felt guilty for being so selfish. We did eventually have #2, girls now 13 and 6. You and your wife will do what is right for you - many people have just one kid and they turn out just fine. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Because I was hesitant to have a second kid because the first one was finally getting to the age where I could leave her with my wife and do more outdoor hobbies without feeling guilty. I thought a second would take that away from me. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
It is funny when you have 1 kid you get to the point where you think once they are out of diapers, done with formula, and you can travel without being a sherpa carrying the essentials it will all be good there another kid happens. We did not plan either kid and mathematically it was a million to 1 shot it would happen without fertility drugs. Funny how life happens I would not change a thing.
It does change...eventually. of course then they are too busy (working, school, with friends, etc). And I'm told they eventually leave the nest...
I grew up as oldest in a family of 7 kids. I couldn't wait to go out on my own. Mrs. CI and I have 3 girls all grown up now with their own families. The only thing I can say is plan for their college education. It gets expensive when there are more than 1 in at the same time. 1 kid is pretty easy but when the second comes it is far more busy. Add #3 and it gets hectic. Still wouldn't trade it for any other way.
Just have 4 they said...it'll be fun they said. LIES!! jk Everybody's situation is different but me personally I'm all for kids and having as many as you can support. After our 3rd got out of daycare and off to fulltime school age I was excited for all the $ savings and was going to reward myself with a new truck (finally). My wife started talking about having one more and I could tell it really meant a lot to her and honestly I wasn't opposed to it at all. Needless to say our youngest is now 3 and I still drive a 2002 Explorer The kids are now 23, 15, 10, and 3. While I don't get to hunt/fish nearly as much as I'd like, I wouldn't change it for the world. Also, I feel like I have better odds now of maybe 1 of them taking care of me when I'm old.
The Twins are both driving so that time I got back, often ends up going into fixing their vehicles. Oil change here, brakes there, exhaust noise, fuel pump.
We have two girls. We planned to have several children, but medical problems stopped us. We're really happy that I was able to have these two.
Lol...there was a moment in the hospital after our youngest was delivered where my 20 year old was holding him and it hit me like a ton of bricks that I had a 20 hr. old and a 20 yr. old....who does that?
My wife and I always just wanted one child. He just turned 7 a few weeks ago and neither of us have regretted not having a 2nd yet. He may be a little spoiled but that's ok with me. Straight A student and lives for hunting and fishing. I wouldn't want it any other way. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
We had two boys. It's a lot of fun to watch siblings interact. Especially when they show each other respect and love. Obviously, that is not always the way thing go, but its great when it does. My "little" one turned 21 last week. They now go to visit each other and act like adults should. Its awesome to know that they grew up to become friends in addition to brothers. I'm certainly glad we had two.
I am very happy that my two kids get along well. Guess all those times we made them sit on the couch and hold hands for 10 minutes when they fought worked out. I used to tell them someday your parents will be dead and you will only have each other so get along. May sound harsh but they have thick skin and were not coddled.
Wow! We told ours the very same thing when they acted like mortal enemies. lol. I thought we were the only morbid parents. The fact is, it's the truth.
