Simply a frank assessment and light hearted look at being a parent, I doubt a single poster was regretting having any number of children.
Wasn't aimed at any poster in this thread. But there is no denying the fact. The amount of $ spent on killing innocent babies and what is spent on animals sickens me. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
My wife and I just had one for five years. Number two never came after two solid years of trying so we began the adoption process. We Finalize the adoption on the day after Memorial Day. Back in January after nearly three years, SURPRISE! And, now my wife is 21 weeks with number 3. All boys, oldest and the adopted one are only three months apart so it is almost like twins. Three with one adopted had always been our plan but we had intended the youngest to be adopted. We are going from one to three in about 14 months. Wouldn't change a thing but we are done after this baby. So help me God, we are done if I have to become a gelding. Sent from my iPhone using Bowhunting.com Forums
We have four. 39 - 37 - 35 - - - - - - - - - - - 26. "THINGS HAPPEN!!!!!!" Wouldn't change it for the world. I know 2 things about parenting......... 1. The first child changes your life. Now you are responsible for another human being. Diaper bags, car seats and all of the paraphernalia that goes with a baby is amazing. The second child doesn't change things that much because you have already shifted into the parenting mode. BUT number three!!!!!!!!!! When you switch from man to man and go to zone......... it's crazy! And after 3...... doesn't seem to matter much, dynamics were just a little bit larger. 2. Not to be sexist but give me little girls over little boys any day but once they turn 11 or 12........... I don't want to see a girl again until they are about 25 and begin to become human again!!!!!!! All joking aside, as I'm beginning to mature a little.... family, especially children and grandchildren are what it's all about and as much as I love hunting and taking an animal...... there is nothing to compare to the smile of a young one's success.
I forgot to mention this. This is also one of my major concerns. I really don't believe parents love their kids equally. I think they love them all (assuming they're good parents), but definitely some more than others or differently than others. I often wonder how I would approach more than one in that sense. I know I love my son more than anything, but can you truly feel that way with more than one? Parents of multiple kids will say they love them all the same, but Tacklebox's response is where I think most honest parents fall on the spectrum.
I would not fall in that category. I honestly can say I love both my girls equally. And I only see one of them 8 days a month. I don't have more of a bond with either of them. They both love their moms more than me anyway though so maybe that has something to do with it lol. Sent from my iPhone using Bowhunting.com Forums
Can't say I favor one over the other, or ever have. I am sure if you asked my kids they would say that I favor the other one.
I would disagree. At least for me, the love started day one before I knew anything other than they were mine. Perhaps going from None to Two children in a matter of minutes made some difference but I don't believe it.
3 kids here...4, 2 and 6 months (boy, bot ,girl). We plan on being done at this point. I never dreamed I would have 3 kids as I was always insistent on having 2 but one more shot and we got a girl. 3 was a huge step from 2, especially when home alone, but I can't imagine only having my oldest. And like Tacklebox said, there is something about my little girl that is SOOOO much different then my two sons. She's definitely got me hooked and only 6 months old. Trouble!
I disagree. I love all my kids equally...but each has different interests or skills. One of my sons is very mechanically inclined...when we have a project usually he's my partner. Another has musical skills and is pursuing a business degree our conversations are different than the first I mentioned...and on and on. 3 of the 5 shot bows. The love is the same but how we spend time together and what each enjoys differs...
I'm not sure I could imagine only having a single kid. Although my two oldest fight like cats and dogs half the time, the other half they're completely engaged and infatuated with each other. Watching them chase each other around, laugh, joke, explore and learn together brings a whole new level of joy to parenting. I'm glad, for them, that we decided not to stop at one. Now going to a third kid has been quite the undertaking. Wife needed a bigger car, it's harder to go places with just one parent and all three of them, etc. But all that pales in comparison to the sheer cost of having a kid in today's world. Insurance rates are out of control, health care costs an arm and a leg, food, clothes, daycare, etc. My youngest was born with congenital hypothyroidism and later diagnosed with failure to thrive so we saw more dang specialists, bought medications, special formula to the tune of $450/month, etc. Thankfully he's healthy, happy and growing now but those few months were awfully stressful and expensive. My wife makes a halfway decent living but at this point with all of the added costs she's essentially working for gas money and insurance - so she'll be quitting her job later this summer to become a stay-at-home mom and spend her days carting the kids between kingergarten, pre-school and whatever activities happen to come up. Unless both parents make significantly above average wages, or have retired family that is willing to help, it's almost impossible to have two full time working parents with 3 young kids. Unless you enjoy spending more money than you're making. I wasn't on the 3rd kid train, but the wife was and so here we are. I certainly wouldn't change it if I could, but it's a lot more life changing than the second one was.
Amazing how similar that is to our situation. We finalized the adoption on the second son this morning and with the surprise third due in October we are the same shape with the increasing expenses, needing a bigger vehicle. You are right, kids are expensive and make life crazy but it is well worth it. Sent from my iPhone using Bowhunting.com Forums
I have two and was told after the second one was 5 months old, go get fixed are you push it out of your body. You want more kids when they are about to leave, my daughter will be gone in two years and then my it will just be my son. I will miss being apart from their daily lives, plus it will just be me and the wife, LOL.
With four children I don't divide my love............ I multiply it. Each one is different and that's what makes things so wonderful.
2 for me, I honestly wanted 1, as I was the daddy daycare in the summer. I was just to the point of 1 being self sufficient when 2 came along. But man 2 is a nut, as the saying goes...they broke the mold with him. Funny thing is the oldest was at a friend's house all weekend and just having one and not having them fight was weird. They are 9 and 5 (6 in two weeks) They are so much the same and yet so different at the same time.
Here I am trying not to get a second dog with my fiancée I made the mistake of bringing a hunting dog home one day so now I guess I don't have much say in the matter. I guess I have had luck making up excuses to put it off a little longer. I always joke lets just buy a new boat and four wheeler instead of having a kid.
Is it any wonder now? Parenting has changed. Sports have become the staple. It used to be children are meant to be seen not heard. Now the kids run the parents lives. Things are completely different. Is it any wonder that parents have trouble having more kids these days? We have changed parenting to require a ton more attention and time per kid. It used to be people had kids to help with chores. LOL
Agree. When you have one (and the other is somewhere else) they behave very very very good and act very mature. When they are together its like they are two year olds again and all they want to do is destroy each other.
Yep, same here. There's a reason I don't post many remodeling projects anymore on here...my summers are a little different now Heck, we're considering abandoning the buying land and building for buying a little bigger home on a lot just to save time for upkeep while the little one(s) grow. I just don't have the time to maintain property to the level that my OCD requires.
