Just found out my old man died this morning who i haven't spoke to in 20yrs and now all the family want me to be at the funeral to bury him ,and I've had nothing to do with them either he will be put in the ground in two days Now on the same day i have a 3 day Bowhunt sorted and have been waiting for with extreme excitement what would you do?
I was on a very simular situation with my grandmother. I ended up going to the opening, and next day to the burial. I don't regret it. Might have if I didn't. Worst case, it cost me 1000 miles driving.
He's dead. You'll more than likely remember your hunt than the day you buried a stranger. Just b/c a guy had sex with your mom doesn't make him a father is how I look at it.
Same boat here (kind of). Havent' known him all my life. I think I've seen him once. There isnt anyway in hell I'm going to any funeral when he dies. Actually he could be dead now. I have no clue and don't care to. He's just another number to me. Go hunting bro.
I remember my Uncle calling me and pleading that my estranged father and I come to the services for grandpa. Dad and I went fishing that day and had a blast. We also took a 12 pack of Old Style and poured every can on the ground as some strange therapy for my dad. Dad lost custody of me as a kid and had a second chance, his father never could give it up and be a better man.
First off, I am sorry you are having to deal with this stuff Blackdog. It must somewhat painful given you are posting about it. You can always visit his grave after the funeral. Or you can go to his funeral and let the healing begin in your heart. I hope you get it figured out. Good luck.
