I believe he is venting Dan, something many of us do when we get frustrated. Mark loves his wife, there is no doubt about it. I publicly humiliated my wife on facebook Saturday because she demanded we Weed and Feed a house we have a contract on and are moving into in October, when I should be hunting. I stood with her bff in his driveway and took pictures while having a drink and put it on my feed. I'm beyond frustrated with this purchase but also know my wife always puts others before us and I'm happy she can now have her 3500 square foot dream house, even if it ends up costing me the 10 acre cabin we have in Hayward Wisconsin on the 1000 acre lake with 300 feet of shoreline Mark has put momma first for 33 years and she is sucking his soul out of him, even trying to give away his hunting stuff. My wife told me Friday that I have too many guns, that conversation didn't end well for her and at dinner her girlfriend even told her there is no such thing as too many. With that being said we should realize that Mark's wife has played this game for 33 years and he has worked to get her what she wants, now he feels he needs a little dream and it is similar to a conversation the wife and I will have soon, hopefully without ultimatum. We didn't all get a wife that shares our passions Danno, you my friend got lucky and found one that fits your lifestyle well. The rest of us compromise and get by
First off, you should listen to your wife. Can you give me the number of the guy selling the land Just kidding! I'm just blessed that in over 10 years of marriage and almost 20 years together we have never really had to fight about anything. Everything is equal in our marriage and we both contribute so neither of us feel like we are getting slighted if the other makes a large purchase. We do talk about it, but usually we both get what we want. It's too bad everyone can't have that type of relationship. Sometimes you just have to do what you feel is the right thing to do, and you know what they say. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission.
Heck of a deal Mark. I hope things work out smoothly with you & your wife. Certainly don't need that added stress.
I hope everything works out between you and your wife. Hopefully you can work out a deal for the land and smooth things over. I think if the information was presented in a different manner this thread would not have turned out this way.
True Tom, very true. I vented, and instead of getting clarification there were those who made conclusions based on partial information. People who have never met me or tried to come to know me made snap decisions for the chance to jump in with judgmental arrogance. There are others on here that do know me and could testify that I am very giving, many times above and beyond what is expected.
You are correct. I do not know you. I can only form an opinion based on your public posts. And you can take this for what it is worth, as I am sure my opinion does not matter to you, nor should it. But there is a recurring theme within your posts that come across to the reader as being very derogatove towards your wife. I cannot imagine airing my dirty laundry on a public forum or giving my wife an ultimatum over 50 acres of land, but we are all different. But this is certainly your prerogative...just understand that not everyone on a public forum is going to respond with an "atta boy" with the attitudes you sometimes express. I truly hope all works out for you and your family. Life is too short to be lived miserably...on this I think we can all agree.
I hope everythingworks out for you guys but I thought the same thing Dan did when reading your original post. That doesn't make me an arrogant prick anymore than it makes Dan one. We read a comment and of course the way some of us interpret things is to try and relate it to our lives. I can't really relate to your comment because I wouldn't threaten my wife with divorce or have discussed that "part" of the deal on the internet, even if she had done so in the past or was really pissing me off lately. That's probably why your comment seemed like more than just venting to me. Having read the whole thread now I can understand your frustration....but still feel the same about the comment. Good luck with everything. Went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago and I know I always appreciate this reminder(cheesy or not): "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, IT KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." I sometimes need reminding that the words above don't end with "...unless they did it to you."
Mark, that's a sweet deal! I know down here in Appanoose county land is going for about 3500k an acre. Hopefully you and your wife get everything worked out. Sounds like you deserve this man.
I didn't take it as back stabbing but I can see your point. Still think you were a tiny extreme. I will make sure to remind the wife if we have a problem she best not tell her mom or sisters unless I am their to defend myself. Oh wait... naaaa I just soon not be there !! Let them waste their time stabbing me in the back !! Seriously... my wife doesn't do that. Well I think she doesn't do that. Tim
Like Jack said, it's not just this thread. Quote from a recent thread "Great thing about her want list, a lot of them will never make it to my priority list. " Confiding in family or friends in private is one thing. Constantly doing it in a public place like this forum is another. It get's old, that's all I'm saying.
You do have the option of not saying anything if his opinions and views don't match up with yours you know.....How do you know he that he wasn't joking about her wish list? Two posts isn't exactly "constantly".
