Thanks Mike! I'm still young and got a good job. Plus now I got to cuties to help get the ladies! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
I've had two close friends go through divorces recently. It sucks no matter how amicable it is. To quote one of my favorite lines from a sitcom: Schmidt says
Dan, I am very sorry to hear of this. Domestic violence laws are very strict her in VA as well. However I can tell you this, there has been many an upset woman with me when I respond to domestic violence calls. Many times the women calls and when I get there and find out they hit their husband first and he reacted in self defense, I arrest them. If a woman swings at a man and he defends himself with reasonable force, the woman is getting arrest every time with me as long as the male didn't turn into the primary aggressor.
I was arrested and released on a summons right after college. I was attacked by a 280 bar bouncer who threw the first punch at me and luckily I was able to slip it at the last second. Long story short, he got knocked out. He filed a citizens warrant on me! I was found not guilty but I was arrested and had to pay $1000 for a lawyer at a time in my life at which I didn't have any money. They put me on a year of "probation" where if I didn't get into any other trouble they would drop the charge......I was the one who was assaulted and defended myself! Many experiences in my life have caused me to really think as an officer as to whether I should arrest someone for any crime, and I take arresting someone very seriously based on my past experiences. Thank goodness many of the officers I am close with have the same feelings about arresting people....we take it serious and really think about it.
And I have much respect for you! My wife works in the ER and knows all the cops well. Not saying they were biased at all just makes me wonder. They were doing their job. The officer who arrested me did say that he had never arrested someone on domestic charges that was as respectful as I was. I thanked the guy and apologized the entire time for putting them into the situation. He was also very respectful to me. It goes a long ways! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Being an officer would be the toughest job ever and a career I would still like to try and get into. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Dan I wish you the best. My parents were married for 27 miserable years. My childhood was not good in that sense.......I am glad you are getting fresh start and I wish you and your kids the very best.
watched my parents go through some nasty stuff but I noticed they both cared for us kids. I got both of my parents even though they were apart. your kids will notice as time goes by that you're a good dad. just stay active with them above everything. everyone on this forum is here for you I'm sure. might help to find someone to talk to you that has no dog in your fight. I suggest finding a church pastor or counselor to talk to for advice. pastor will be free I'm sure. most importantly someone that isn't biased. good luck i'll be rooting you on through your difficult time. prayers going up brother!!!!!!!
So sorry to hear this. Keep your chin up, and stay positive. God bless. Hope you have a good ABF class or small group to lean on.
As a step dad to 2 awesome daughters. I watched their father completely run them off by the constant harassment about "what their mom did", "how he ruined his life" etc etc. Every situation is different. My wife and I decided along time ago that irregardless we would not talk bad about him, nor would we ever stop them from seeing them when they wanted to. It was horrible for a couple years with him playing mind games on a very impressionable 10 year old. I feel like we were rewarded in the end, as we now have full custody of both girls. Keep your head up, she's going to pick fights, she's going to try to her best to make you look bad. Be ready for heart breaking crying kid, that is being made to choose who she's going with when it's not that parents time. I don't cry, ever but the day I had to make my youngest go with her Dad as she pleaded to stay, I cried. Remove your emotions towards her and be the best parent you can be. It gets better I promise. I'll be praying for you buddy. One thing I didn't mention that is probably common sense. As you move on in the future and start spending time with women. Don't bring women in and out of their lives. Especailly that young, they will be extremely confused.
My mom was married and divorced four times and look, I turned out normal! Hahahahahaha. Maybe I'm not a good example.
Seriously though, women that claim false victimization tick me off. My first husband (I inherited my mom's poor choice in men) was a psycho. I joked with him once that I might be pregnant and he punched me so hard in the lower abdomen that I practically flew backwards and then bled for days. (I think that may be why I never did have kids) . Months later, when he thought I wasn't obeying him enough, he put a loaded gun to my head and told me he could kill me whenever he wanted. I believed him and left that night but I was quite sure he was going to hunt me down and get me. The thing was, I was too scared to report it. He applied to be a police officer after we were divorced a police officer called me to ask if I thought there was any reason he shouldn't be a cop. I still was too fearful to say he was unstable. But I hemmed and hawed enough that I think the interviewer figured it out. After a awhile, I quit being afraid and got really po'ed. Mostly at myself for being an idiot. I also vowed I'd kill a man on the spot before I'd let that stuff happen again. It all seems like it was lifetimes ago...... Anyhow, hang in there kid. I can tell that your love for your kids will keep you strong. BTW, Getting a utah cow or doe pronghorn tag is pretty easy. C'mon out.
I am glad you made the choice to get away from that. Situations like this I am all for divorce. He's lucky you were to scared to turn him in. I couldn't imagine fearing for my life in a marriage. I now see why you are such a bad a$$. I wouldn't mess with you! I don't know if I'm more scared of the tire iron, Maglite, or the arsenal in your purse! I will apply for a Utah point and maybe a cow elk rifle hunt needs to be planned for next year. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
