Well as of last Friday I am a single man. Some of you knew about this but I've been staying off of here a good bit recently because of it. She left me the week before Christmas and it's been pretty hard on me. I was then arrested on January 1st because I acted in self defense. She took a swing at me and I grabbed her hand and sprained her finger. This whole thing is so embarrassing to me because I am not this person I have been made out to be. I risked losing my gun rights because I was being charged with domestic abuse assault. Luckily they gave me the option of taking a disorderly or going to court and fight it. I took the disorderly because court costs would have been very high. She refused any kind of counseling and I did everything I could to try to get her to stay. Through this whole ordeal I found out several things and I'm afraid I don't know who she is anymore. I'm hurt. I'm asking for prayers to help me be the best dad I can be to my 2 very young children. I mourn for them. At least I made out VERY well in the divorce because she was so desperate to get over with that she gave me more then she meant to. I will be alright! I got good friends and family helping me through! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Sorry for the ordeal but you're better off and it'll all work out for the best. Effed up society where a woman can throw the first punch and the guy gets in legal trouble because she sprained a finger. Chivalry didn't die, it mutated into a nut crunching ogre.
I agree. Total joke. She even told the cops she swung at me and I still got arrested because I didn't have any marks. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
I'm sorry you are going through this. I cannot speak for you or her as I am not involved, however I have recently gone through a divorce and I have 9 & 11 year old daughters. They are my life. It's not easy. Keep the faith. You will now find who your true friends are. It is a brutal process. If I told you otherwise, I'd be lying. People will step up and be there for you. Some you may expect... some may surprise you. Other's may disappoint you.... it all can be very humbling. There is no sense in forcing a square peg into a round hole. Sometimes trying to make it work only makes it worse... just follow your heart and be there for you kids... don't get caught up in the games and drama she will create. It only makes things worse.. no matter how good it feels to retaliate. Keep your head up and try to stay positive.. use the great outdoors as a further escape to fine peace and solace... I appreciate it that much more than ever.
Thanks mine are 3 and 20 months. I have a 2 week elk hunt scheduled in September and I can't wait! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Really wasn't expecting to read this when I clicked on the thread... Sorry to hear man. Best of luck with everything moving forward.
If there is anything i could say it would be to never stop being their dad. As hard as it may seem at this point, the best thing for the kids is that you and the X to try and get along. My wife has 2 kids from previous marriage and their father brain washes them and lies to them to try to get them against us. The youngest is 13 and she decided last sept. that she no longer wanted go see her father because of their antics. I know its better for her but that has got to kill him knowing that his daughter doesn't care to see, talk or visit him. Don't be a disney land dad and make sure they always know you love them. Ive never been in your position, I don't have any kids of my own but I've seen what selfish parenting can do. Stay strong, take them hunting and lean on your friends when you need to.
Selfish parenting sucks... I am going through that right now Hoyt... my ex wife trying to pollute my daughter's minds... it's a constant struggle.... makes my girlfriend want to smash her head against the wall most of time... so frustrating... I don't know why she stays sometimes.. Just keep doing what you feel is right. I wish I could get away for a 2 week hunt... I have 50/50 custody of my girls... Plus my girlfriend and I are both very involved in their sports as coaches. Even if we don't coach, we are still at practices, etc. on their "mother's night". Didn't hunt as much this year, but I need to make sure my presence is ever known.
Hunting will be very limited. She works overnights on weekends. We also have 50/50. Their dad will never leave them. I'm just trying to leave my emotions out if it, but only being 25 it can be a challenge. Lol Thanks everyone! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Never let your opinion of mom affect theirs. Toughest thing my divorced friends have said to accomplish, but those that do have been the most amazing dads to their kids despite the divorce affecting their lives! They'll eventually figure out on their own and evaluate things. Just cling to God man...cling like there is no tomorrow!
That's what everyone tells me and it's tough. Luckily my kids are so young that they don't understand it because I'll be the first to admit that I have said things around them that I shouldn't have. It's all way to new at the moment and I'm still shell shocked. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Sorry you are going through this but sometimes it's better off to cut and run then drag out the inevitable. Best of luck
You got very lucky. I was jumped by some gang members years ago, and i defended myself as i deemed necessary. Because of my felonies i received as a kid. They arrested me. it cost me $10K just to bail out and get a retainer on a defense lawyer. The DA never filed any charges on me. But had I not bailed out and got a good lawyer to bug them about self defense laws. I might have been charged, and coudlnt have afforded to keep my lawyer threw a court case.
Bad deal. You sound like you have the most important thing figured out............... your children. You and she will hurt and it will suck big time. You also get to mold your children by your actions. Children see, hear and remember......... EVERYTHING. NEVER play them against their mother no matter how much of an *&^**%$^$##@%$^&&*^%#@$%^^^%$$#^!!!! she is. Truly take the high road. Be there for them and everything will be alright for you if they are happy. Really sucks.
Well think about it. these punks didnt have a recored. and i have multiple felonies. any cop is going to think i caused it. especially because they ended off being in worse condition than me. They told the cops I attacked there group and because most people that have felonies dont change. Im one of the few that has turned my life around.
That sucks man. I have a friend that just went through a messy divorce and the mother is slowly turning his kids against him. So much so that they are starting to not want to spend any time with him. It's so sad because nothing he is doing seems to reverse the damage done and he's having a hard time with it. So my only advice to you is to do what it takes to prevent your ex from doing the same thing, meaning try to stay civil with her even if it means having to bite your lip on certain things. Whatever it takes to keep your kids in your life is what you need to prioritize. I'm sure you already know this though.
I get why the arrested you, if I was the officer I would have done the same. What gets me is that someone who did nothing wrong and gets acquitted or no charges filed against, still has to pay to get bailed out and lawyer fees. Those punks should have been held responsible. Luckily it cost me under a grand for my lawyer and fines. He made 2 calls and made great money.... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Sorry to hear this. Glad it's over enough that you can start fresh. Prayers sent for you buddy. Stay strong.
