This might get a little long,so bare with me. My wife and I have a 33' camper that we bought new 2 yars ago,and we have it on a sasonal spot at a campground. My step son lives with us full time, and we cant agree on how to raise him, he is 13. Last night after supper, my wife told him he had to go out side because it was so nice, (he had his girlfriend here, with a couple of his friends in the camper.) He was told 3 times to stay out of the camper. Anyways, my wife and I went down the road to some friends camper, and about 10 minutes after we got there, he calls her on her cell, and sais that they were in the camper,playing with the dog with a flashlite, and that he tripped, and put his elbow thru the wall in the camper. Long story short, she didnt punish him or anything, because he told her it was an accident. I am so ticked about the whole thing, I dont know what to do. She NEVER punnishs him for anything, and it drives me crazy. It dont do any good for me to do anything, because as soon as I leave the room, she is trying to do whatever she can to baby him, and sooth it over. What kind of punishment fits the crime?
im 16 and when i put a hole in my bedroom wall my parents made me pay for it and i couldnt hang out with friends or girlfriends untill it was paid for and fixed....
Yeah! make him pay for the damage, thats how life works. he better learn now, or he will be another member of society that wants everthing handed to him.Sorry i am so harsh , but i speak the truth.
Make him pay for the damage as every action has a consequence. Talk to the wife about some counseling because if the two of you don't get on the same page it will cause more problems down the road.
Yes they do, but it doesn't solve your problem. You still have to deal with your wife. Here's the difficulty. You are the wicked stepfather and your wife is the loving mommy. How to deal with this situation? Okay, I pictured myself as the stepdaughter with a wicked stepfather and tried to figure out how he should deal with me. Here's my suggestion. You are now the bad guy and your wife is the loving mommy. So start being Mr. Nice Guy. Whatever he does, let his mother deal with it. Just stand aside and let her deal. You don't have to support him, just keep your mouth shut and become the Cool Dad. She will only be able to tolerate so much before she will HAVE to crack down on him. If she asks you why you are being detached, just explain to her that you have decided that her parenting skills are better than yours, and besides, she and her son have a longer term relationship and understand each other better. Become his buddy and let mom be the disciplinarian. He will take it a lot better from her. And May The Sheep Be With You
