So, my mother in law was forced into the hospital about a week and a half ago...was acting very out of sorts. They diagnose her with blood clots on her lungs and cancer...not sure what kind right away. They take some fluid out of her abdomen, figure out its stage 4 and is either ovaries, uterus or ovelum? If they take her off the blood thinners to operate she may/will die. If they do a biopsy they figure she is so far gone, its just going to cause her pain or she dies on the table (she's 82, hitler prison camp survivor, hip replaced with a triple bypass in the last 3 years or so...she's a tough old bird). So my wife flies down to Fl today to see her mom, start to close up the house etc, she is the executor of the will has POA ect for her mom. She just called me, a pipe broke and the house is flooded, 3" of water in the kitchen and the floor is floating. Its soaked up to the bedding and the entire house is flooded. That's where she was going to stay...emphasis on was. Wow. I feel freaking useless here in VA.
Very sorry to hear this. Tough situation all the way around. Stay strong and supportive for your wife. I'll say a prayer for all of you.
It's hard to be in this situation for sure. Personally, I would have taken leave, had my best military friend watch the kids and made the trip down there to support her in person without telling her. Not everyone can do that. But when I handled my Dad's estate and the day my wife and teenage kids showed up to help me cleaning out the house, made a lot of issues that seemed huge fall into perspective and not be so demanding after all. In the meantime you Mother-In-Law, Wife, and You are in our prayers. God Bless.
Sean, I am very sorry to hear of the recent turn of events. Stay strong, your wife and her mother sound tough.
I am on leave (for other reasons) but the kids have already missed over a week of school due to a number of reasons...so we are on the short list. So I am doing the Mr. Mom thing for them. My wife is still there at 9:30 pm with the Serv Pro folks, they are tearing everything out of the house and most in contact with the floor is ruined. She said the dry wall wicked up water to the 4' mark. This is nuts. Sadly her mother didn't even remember the visit from earlier in the day - she is fading pretty quickly. Thanks for all the kinds thoughts... Sean
Eustis...north of Orlando. House is trashed, insurance is paying to have ALL the drywall stripped, out, all the flooring, all the cabinets that touch the ground. My wife said the house is a total disaster with mold 4' up the walls. Most or all of the furniture is trashed. It was a hose under the kitchen sink, just burst...no reason. My mother in law is dwindling and my wife is having to spend time with the insurance adjusters and Service Master. They have been bending over backwards to help her. Many of them grew up with her, its a pretty small town. My wife can't tell her mom what happened, it would freak her out - hasten her death. So we are in the bind, if she doesn't die in 100 days from when she was checked into the nursing home - she runs out of insurance coverage. Then what? We have no clue. Doubt she could sustain a trip to VA where we could take care of her, and the cancer is really messing with her. This sucks. Thanks again for all the thoughts. I am getting good at the Mr. Mom thing, but I have to return to work tomorrow. Gonna be a goat rope. Sean
Sean, keep your chin up and tell your wife to do the same. I know this in not pleasant at all and I hope you guys rely on each other for strength.
Thanks Brett...she is holding up. At the house packing out and sorting out what she can. We expected to do this AFTER her mother passed, not while/before. Her mother is headed back to the hospital tomorrow - not doing well, running a temp and refuses to eat. This may be a blessing in that my wife will be there until the end, its seems to be speeding up. Third parent we have lost to cancer...only my mom left after her mother passes. Sucks getting old.
Wife just got home today... House had to be gutted, all flooring, walls and cabinets. Wife left the house empty today. Insurance is estimating 40K in repairs. Mother in Law is still hanging in, did not remember her visit at all.
So the mother in law passed on 05 June...just kind of succumbed to the cancer, went out quietly. Sadly my wife was up here at home not with her. Funeral is week after next, she was cremated with no viewing - so we were able to work it out with school etc. House sustained just under 50k in damages - so now I have three houses...one of which I have not a clue what to do with. This ran last night in the Orlando Sentinel... I never knew half this stuff. http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news...enriette-echord-bond-20110617,0,3014782.story Sean
