Marriages going to hell in a handbasket lately???

I cannot tell you how many middle aged persons are getting divorced at my place of work. And all of the marriages have some weird, bizarre twist leading to the divorce. It seems like people all around me are experiencing divorce or are experiencing severe problems within their marriage. Today I spoke with two different people at my work who are experiencing divorce and the things they told me in regards to their significant others and the audacity that they are displaying are just unreal. Having their "new" boyfriend/girlfriend stay over at their house and the young kids know about it. Being impregnated by some random person and then having an abortion before their husband found out. Spouse claiming that the husband abused the kids so that the husband looks bad and is charged by law enforcement. Spouse being an alcoholic and drinking so much their baby dies in the womb. And there is more. CRAZINESS I tell you.

Is that state of marriage that bad where you all live?

 

It's always been bad, divorce is not so taboo as it was before.

my favorite line in a movie "We use to find a way to make it work, your generation looks for a way out".

Those who cheat are looking to get out of their marriage, they are just to afraid to leave, it's really sad.

My mothers first marriage was bad to my father, her second ends March 17th to my stepfather.
Both have involed other women and with my father a host of other "evils".

When I was 18 a big boobed ex-exoctic dancer type intruduce her self to me, she said she knew my father and was sure I was his son. That makes you proud as son

In my brief 14 years of marraige I have learned one thing, I married up and there is no way I am leaving.

 

Sorry to hear all of those things Germ. The one constant that I took from all of the divorces was, people are acting friggin crazy. Professional people are taking serious chances by their infidelity, lying, cheating, and werid conduct. The people that are involved in all of the weird scenarios I listed above are "professional" people. I am telling, we are on a rollercoaster to a blackhole....

 

As a teacher, you see a lot of single and/or separated parent situations. It's sad.

All I know is that my wife and I are so much alike in a lot of ways, it's scary.:D We work, and will continue to work together through ups and downs.

 

We have not change since we came to this earth

Look at our history, we have been pigs since the dawn of time. Even some of the men we deem as "great" when it comes down to it our pigs.

There is a basic core of our population who are good morel people, I have no idea what the % is this stat. My guess is this has not changed since the dawn of time.

 

yes, the state of marriage is in a bad way right now... not enough men being men and way to many being children... it doesn't help either that many women are also fond of believing the hollywood stereotype of marriage (that it will be perfect and your man will woo you every day of his life)... Actively engaged fathers that teach their sons how to be real men are a rarity these days... they no longer teach boys to lead their families, but show them how to be dependent upon their wives much like they are dependent upon mom while growing up... Absent fathers are the problem, and by that I mean fathers that no longer live in the house and ones that DO live in the house but are not acting like men...

Reject Passivity, Accept Responsibility, Lead Courageously, Expect the Greater Reward.

 

So far Brett, im not seeing any of this where I live,,,hope it stays that way,,,wow some weird things happening your way.

 

As long as there's homewreckers like me...the trend will continue

 

I really hope my wife and I move in the next two years. I have some things I need to finish before we hopefully exit this area in short order. The county in which I live grew by 100,000 people in just ten year and is expected to grow another 100,000 by 2020. By that time we will have 500,000 people living in the county. We are also a pretty wealthy county by household income, yet the crime rate, especially the violent crime rate is starting to rise. I just thought of a couple of more divorce cases that are near and dear to me. It is divorce central around here lately.

 

Excellent post!!!

I'm divorced, I know a couple of you are saying, "Go figure!", so I will speak from my experience. I take most of the blame. I became complacent, took someone I had been with since college for granted, took a job that did not allow me to be there for my wife and two sons. I became emotionally disconnected. I thought I was doing the right thing by providing a good income to support my family and did not realize what I was sacrificing to do such. There was no crazy plot or twist on my end and I pretty confident there was not one on hers. I moved her 300 miles from her family to set at home by herself every night while I worked and she just couldn't take it. It's something that I live with everyday and 3 years later we still talk to each other nearly everyday on the phone. We are still great friends and hopefully we put our differences to the side one day and figure out that we are only hurting a 7 and 5 year old and no one else. Thats my only prayer in this life. I'm man enough to admit my mistakes. If anyone wants to take anything from this.... be there for your wife. Plain and simple.

 

Good stuff 2 Lunger, i remember talking with you about that last year. Youll work it out.

 

We just had our 2nd child this weekend, I now have a son and daughter and a loving wife. I am blessed, but was not always aware of it. I take marriage and all that comes with it seriously, but man is it work. We sacrifice alot for our family. She left a very nice paying job, we get by on my income and she substitute teaches (not much pay) a few days here and there. We only owe on our house and a small SUV I traded in my truck on, I drive a 99 accord and the title is in the safety deposit box. Loading a deer or turkey in that car is funny, but not near as funny as the fact I give my life to my family and there is still time to see me in a tree more than anyone I know. It is all about compromise and priorities.

Sorry you are surrounded by this Brett, and yes I see alot of it around here as well. Guy I work with gets in from the bar at 2 AM a few times a week, and wonders why my wife don't ***** as much as his when I go to the tree for 3 or 4 days. He always says how lucky I am...HAHAHA. He just don't realize what he has, she still sticks by him, imagine if he devoted all he had to her, he could be in the same place as several people I know. PRIORITIES MAN!!!!!

 

I applaud you, and greatly enjoy out interactions on here (any Glavine fan is a good guy...lol).

 

One word: Facebook.

 

I am listening to the Coming Insurrection - and to hear them tell it, the family unit as a social norm is over.

I disagree... Our morals and culture are breaking down, divorce used to be a pretty heavy thing, now its normal. Too normal.

I just celebrated my 20th and intend to stay the distance - in an organization that has a pretty serious divorce rate due to inherent job stress. I made a good choice 23 years ago and plan on sticking with it.

To answer your question - no, not seeing any more then normal where I currently work, which is primarily with civilians here.

 

Nobody got divorced, the issues were kept in the family in the past. People just lived with it. Looking at our past it's more dark then we would like to omit. I think the issue is we all believe America is a moral country. Our past actions do not support the above.

 

in the UK facebook is cited in like 5% of all divorces

 

2Lunger, I know that was not easy to say my friend. Thank you for sharing.

 

Great advice