First part sounds similar to my situation. My step dad had been taken care of me since I was 9 months old and he has always been the father figure in my life. I would occasionally see my biological father according to what the court ordered but he was just "there" so to speak he never really took care of me and I realized that at a young age and my dad being a lawyer looked into adoption but my biological father wanter nothing to do with it he would actually get really mad at me for bringing it up. So we waited until I was 18 to do an adoption so i could make the choice myself and I would take his and my mothers last name. We knew that a paper would change anything but it was nice to know it was finally done. There are a lot of great guys out there that are willing to take in a child and love them and take care of them as their own. I never saw my "step dad" as that he was my dad Im sure thats how it is for some others as well, So good for you guys that have have done and are doing what my dad did.
I don't have any kids, but would definitely like to have at least one someday. My wife and I are in no big hurry. We are setting ourselves up for financial stability and then plan on trying in a couple years. Her mother has also encouraged us to wait a couple years bc she will hit retirement and wants to be our babysitter. I'm all for that, she's a great lady and is always a big help to us.
Dont have any and hope that continues. My pets do more then enough for me, and my parrot finally said daddy, so thats more then enough for me!!!!
I was indifferent about kids, but I knew my wife would want them. I kinda wanted to wait longer than we did, but the wife was worried she was getting too old, mostly from her mom and grandmother telling her that she was getting too old. That always pissed me off. Anyways, our daughter is now 9 months old, and while our lives have surely changed, I wouldn't trade one vacation, one night out, one free afternoon for the smile my daughter gives me when I wake her up in the mornings. I know parents always say this, and I know people without kids always kinda roll their eyes, but when you have a kid, it brings an entire new set of emotions. Being able to watch my daughter grow, discovery new things, seeing her sense of wonderment and joy is simply the greatest thing I've experienced in my life. With all that said, you will never know if you are ready for kids until you have them. There is no magic time or formula to let you know when you are ready.
Hooker your kid has a rough life it appears, she's not well dressed and never smiles What a beautiful daughter you have. In 5 days my baby girls turns 13 and what a ride it has been. I could have never dreamed how rewarding fatherhood would be. Zach is now 8 and doing all the things boys do, both of my kids have made me better man. I have learned what true sacrifice is in this world. What is strange I really done miss anything I have given up for my kids.
Ha...she has so many clothes. I guess that is what happens when your wife manages a baby boutique. And I'm obviously not going to post a pic of her not smiling And while I enjoy her being a baby immensely, I'm really eager to see her personality as she ages. I'm also struggling with if we should have another. Part of me just wants to have just my daughter and spoil the crap out of her.
I've read every response to this thread... and you guys know how I feel about kids (another selfish one here) But NOW I'm seeing you guys that were kind of on the same page as me... having kids, and loving it. I figure I/we will make that decision in another 2-3 years, that will put both of us around the 28 mark which just seems like a good number.
Right now I am 23 and not married. I imagine I will be engaged in the next year or so and then will definitely try to have kids. I have an 18 month old niece that I see 3-4 times a week and I cannot stop smiling every time I am with her. Kids are definitely part of my future as long as everything goes smoothly when I start trying.
It's already been said a bunch of times, but I was in the same boat as Hooker, Finch, and Justin. I was indifferent to it. A big part of me wanted to just stay focused on life without kids. I knew my wife would want to stay home if we did and I really didn't like the idea of being 100% responsible for everything finanancial. The second I held my son in the delivery room last spring it all went out the window and everything changed in a split second. We don't have family out here at all so we can't really just drop him off and go do things, so he goes literally with us everywhere and it's a ton of fun. He's the best part of my life and I can't believe I waited this long to do it.
Yes I went through that phase with Hillary about not wanting another one. We waited nearly 5 years, and I am glad we did. Having Zach has been wonderful for our family.
I always wanted kids an my wife did too. We only have one right now. Sometimes I want another an sometimes I dont. Hes at the age where we do everything together now. I wouldn't change that for the world. I may not see as many deer when we go hunting(cause he loves to talk) but knowing hes having a blast is all that matters. They really do grow up quick. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I537 using Tapatalk
Not wanting kids certainly doesn't make you selfish. I would never suggest that. But you may not realize what you're missing. My wife and I had a couple of long discussions concerning whether we should wait until she finished school. She was very unenthusiastic about that idea. I didn't care much for it either, so we figured we would see what happened. Well it happened almost instantly. So along came Miriam. She nursed Miriam for over two years. Nursing suppresses ovulation, usually, but at some point, the suppression stopped and Michelle happened. We had hoped to have more, but my wife has a condition that makes her very sick while pregnant and can affect the baby. It got worse with Michelle, so her obstetrician insisted she have a tubal ligation. So we can't have any more. But my wife and those two girls are my life. You can't know what it's like until you become a father.
I have three and love them to death. That being said, having kids isn't all sunshine and roses. Like any other close relationship, you will experience some very serious and frustrating periods of time.
Having kids has been one of the best things that ever happened to me. Before my first daughter was born I was on a downward spiral with alchoholism, well beyond the normal partying that young men do. For some reason the birth of my first daughter stopped that behavior in its tracks, not just because I no longer had the time or money for it, but the desire to go through life as a drunk went away. I was raised in a wholesome family and I think my kids have helped me return to those roots and be a better reflection of my own upbringing.
My wife and I have 2 boys - and I wouldn't change it or go back... however, sometimes a "pause" or two would be nice... . Can't wait to take George and Fred out bowhunting with me...
