Yes they do all that, but it never stops. Example-in order to run the vacuum I would put baby in crib, wind up mobile and vacuum for 2-5 minutes. Repeat.
I laughed. Imagine worst case. Actual will be at least 3 times as bad on a good day. To answer your question. If you have the means for her to stay home...... do it. Make the money sacrifice. It is worth it in the long run. Sent from my SCH-I500 using Tapatalk
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We have a newer vehicle, my first ever, and yes I'm sure that I could trade it in for something older but I'd prefer something I could count on especially considering the other vehicle isn't as dependable and there would be less "extra" money for emergencies. New bow? What's that? Yes, Doug has one but he doesn't buy one every year and our kids don't go without so he can. New tree stands? Bought on sale at the end of season and only because his were stolen. New camo? Yep, didn't happen either. Big house? Paid for. I'm not gonna hash accounting and numbers with strangers but trust when I say it's not possible. We tried to figure it out, our kids would way more than suffer if we had one income only. I would LOVE to stay home with my kids. We've made sacrifices, because of circumstances in our lives including children. My child would be a holy terror if he stayed home & had no interaction with other children and bad behaviors. No, it's not for everyone & I'm not persuading anyone to change their minds. It's a personal preference. If my husband, or I, made 6 figures like apparently most of you do then sure, I'd stay home. But, please, don't tell me that I'm living extravagantly and not making sacrifices for my children because I work! Or better yet that I'm not "raising" my child because I work. I made a sacrifice in not pursuing my dream and getting a much less and different degree so that I could be there for my son the first two years!
40 percent pay cut is a chunk. Also, what if something happened and you couldn't work? Most families have to have two people working now days. If she wants to do it, well hell,... have at it. Kids can get student loans and all that if they need to.
Then she would have to go back to work. No. They do not have to. They just choose to have the 2 new vehicles, 60" LED TV, 3,000 sq ft house, and 2 vacations a year.
Also don't just consider daycare costs. You've got to consider travel to and from work and meals eaten out and wear and tear on vehicle. What would you save that way?
As someone with a 4 month old at home who is going through this right now, let me put in my 2 cents. I make pretty good money, but unfortunately it's not enough to cover 100% of our bills on my own without the wife working. The only way that works is if we get rid of the wife's car, cell phone, cable and internet and live off Ramen noodles and read library books by candle light. Savings? Yeah, kiss that goodbye. Yes, it would be preferrable for her to stay home full time, but the amount of financial stress it would place on us would do more harm than putting our son in daycare. In my experience it seems like those who are fortunate enough to have their spouse stay home full time seem to look down on those who use day care. My wife has had countless friends and acquaintances tell her "Screw it, just don't go back to work. You don't want someone else raising your kid". This just makes matters worse b/c she feels bad about using day care. Throw that in with post-partum hormones and it's a recipe for disaster. So my advice there would be not to listen to what everyone else says - do what's right and what's best for your family. If you're happy with your decision, that's all that matters. Next, daycare only costs 2K/month if you go to an established daycare facility like a Kinder Care, etc. I looked into those places and they're out of control both in the amount of money they charge, as well as the number of kids in them. While they do their best to sell you on how great they are, IMO it's not worth it. My wife and I found a fully licensed and insurance in-home daycare with 4 full time kids and 2 part time kids for $35/day. Luckily my MIL can watch our son for 1-2 days as week for us, so he's only there 3-4 days. Even if he went all 5 days, the cost is around $700/month. Unfortuantely there are some trade offs like when she goes on vacation or gets sick, but it's part of what you deal with as a parent. IMO I'd rather have the same lady with 20+ years of experience day in and day out watching our child then put him in some germ infested kid farm. As many others pointed out - if your wife does indeed stay home don't expect things to be all roses. Mine was home for about 3 1/2 months and there's very little "work" that gets done during the day. So be prepared to come home to the typical "Take this kid!" greeting from your wife. Consequently you will also get nothing done because you're playing dad all night after work. In a perfect world if you can afford it and still be able to maintain some sort of semblance of the lifestyle you once had, by all means let her stay home. It really is the best scenario. If not, don't sweat it. There's plenty of good day care options out there and plenty of kids have turned out just fine being raised by parents who don't stay at home all day.
The #1 driver for her staying home is the face that she has to work till 10 pm about 2-3 times per week, and I travel quite a bit for work. We do not know what we would do if I was out of town on one of those nights that she has to work late. Most daycares close at 6. Paying for daycare, then a sitter will add up quickly. We do not have any family nearby that could be free babysitters.
Not really. If she was to keep working, she would have to find a new job. Which is our 2nd option, even if she has to take less money, as long as it is still more than daycare costs.
We had the same scenario here and my wife ended up getting a different job. Although it took her nearly 4 months to find one in this awesome economic environment. Even so, finding something part time would have been teh best scenario. But those seem to be harder to find than full time jobs right now. Look into private in-home day care in your area. I can't imagine it's any more money than it costs up here. Craigslist is a great place to find people. We interviewed about 1/2 dozen of them before we settled on the one we liked best.
I laughed! Seriously laughed. Life is not a commercial. Not to sound too cynical.....but, this is in no way near reality in most cases. Your wife will be physically exhausted. To expect her to do everything around the house in addition to raising your child, would be setting yourself up for extreme failure and disappointment. She will need your help in many ways. If at all possible, figure out a way for her to stay home with the child until they go into school. That's what we did with our children and never once regretted the financial sacrifices it took. Then, get that woman a good job so you can enroll your child in a good private school. I have seen the results of public education in the South.
I don't judge people for putting their kids in daycare, just don't bother me with lame excuses. I get annoyed by people telling me they "need" to use daycare, after they just bragged about some fancy new truck they just got.
We actually live a block away from the #1 rated public elementary school in LA. People tell me it is impossible to get your kid in unless they score perfect scores on their testing, but being as it will be my child, I don't think that should be a problem. When we had this discussion, we were going through trying to find these that we could cut, and my wife immediately mentioned my beer cabinet. This worries me.
No, what is annoying is when the wife is a SAHM, yet still sends their kids to "Mommy's Day Out" 4 times a week so she can drink mimosas with the gals, yet constantly posts on FB how blessed she is to be able to be a SAHM. I may or may not be talking about my best friend's wife.
Hooker, Honeslty this is not "leave it to beaver" world. My kids give me the most love and sense that I i accomplished something good in this world feeling more than anything, and nobody drives me more nuts than my kids. My daughter was an easy kid to raise, still is at age 11. My son is a royal pain in the ***, and has been his 6 years of life. Everything with him is a fight it seems, from his reading to what he wants to eat and what he has to eat. There is no magic formula for rasing a kid. There is no right way or wrong way, what work on my daughter does not work on my son. The best advice I can give you is this: Love them, accept them for who they are, and always have their back. At the end of the day, when your wife has been with him all day, take the kid and give her some me time. If you do not do this, you will have a short marriage.
