Now if you cheat on her or betray her trust, all bets are off. You are a dik and she will remind you of that every time she burns the toast, and you will deserve it. If you are her source of pain and suffering, she will return the favor. You never wanna go there.
Its the only thing i could think of but thanks for the words of wisdom man. Im guesin I can learn a thing or two from this thread after all. lol
A happy marriage is when both people want health and happiness for their partner more than they want it for themselves. The marriage will hit rough waters when one or the other substitutes their own happiness for their partner's.
And loose the dumbazzed hunting beards, it might be hunting season but you don't need to embarrass your wife over your outdoor ways, trim it up, remember the deer don't care.
When MuzzyMan says his bow goes in the trash rather than give up his marriage, we can be sure his wife knows how important it is to him. She's not going to feel threatened. But when someone starts out the thread considering divorce because his wife objects to his hunting, I wonder just how confidant she feels in his love for her. I am 100% certain that our daughters and I are more important to my husband than anything else. And he knows I feel the same about him. I'm not the most experienced here, but we've been married going on seven years now so I think I can say something. I don't find marriage to be hard work, not at all. Luckily, we took the time to make sure we were really meant to be a couple before we made a commitment by becoming intimate. But there is still time for you two, I think, to work out some of the compromises you will need to make. Maybe in your case, some work will be involved. And for alexjoel, it's good for you to follow this thread. You'll have a mate some day and some of what you read here might help you. I was only 16 when I married so it can happen sooner than you think. (No, we didn't get married because I was pregnant.) In earlier times, parents picked out a mate for their children. Each party had a role to play in marriage, they played their role and grew to love each other. As time went on, couples picked their own mates, but they still had, and knew, the role they were expected to play in a marriage. But now, it's vitally necessary to decide on the role each one of you will play together before you get married. And you become intimate after you have done this, not before. If you haven't done this beforehand, then you need to do it as soon as trouble arises. A couple needs to meet each other's needs. And you must talk together and communicate those needs to each other. You have to decide together what role each one of you is going to play in the marriage. May The Sheep Be With You
Or lucky. I would imagine the op wife is taking care of the house, bills, check book, kids and maybe even a part time or full time job. If this is the case, she is justified in not wanting you to go hunting. All these things should be done 50/50. Pay attention to the off season threads in the water cooler that all of us husbands are doing. There will be plenty of remodel projects and such and most of us could care less about those projects. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
To add, alot of "men" that get married young are looking for a mother figure instead of a true mate for life. The op needs to take a long look in the mirror and see if he is the issue and not her. She may just be a b!+€# and nothing will help but I truly doubt that is the case. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
PT, I will be 36 on Christmas day. I met my wife when I was 15. We have been together ever since. We have a 17 year old daughter, and Twin boys that are 8 years old. We got married June 29th, 1999. I will say I have a great marriage and great wife. Were go to church almost every week. I do slip some during hunting season..lol. I know, its not right...lol. I love the lord first, then my wife & kids. She is really understanding about Hunting. I feel blessed to have her. She has her hobbies she likes to do as well. I understand that as well. It's give and take..... I do feel very blessed to have such a great wife.
Do you really want another man raising your daughters and loving your wife just because you are obsessed with hunting? It's just a deer! I know how obsessive hunting can become. You start planning all your time off and arranging your life around hunting. You probably talk more about hunting than you do furthering your career and working on your family. I've been there. That's a dead end street brother! Don't be that guy that looks back with a full trophy room but only empty relationships. I've been married 12 years and offer the following advice: -put your family first in all aspects, including time, thoughts, passion, money, etc -work more so she can work less. Trust me, it's VERY important to women. If she is working a full time job and trying to juggle the responsibilities of being a mother and wife, she is NOT going to want you hunting every weekend! Don't be selfish. -do all you can do to make lasting memories with your family. Good luck. Marriage doesn't have to be hard! If your priorities are right, things will work out
Oh I knew what ya meant man, and fully agree with that outlook on life. Your wife and kids are both lucky to have ya man. I had a similar father. He sacrificed nearly all of his hobbies and free time to ensure my sister and I would have a better childhood than he did. I was just attempting to be be a smart ***, trying to point out how horrible marriage sounds. I can't even decide on one pair of boots to wear for the year, and I'm supposed to pick just ONE girl for the rest of my life?!?
Hope not, just pointing out priorities change and being alone can get lonely. Having someone to share life with is a blessing and not a curse. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
Thanks again everyone, some great advice and for the most part I try to follow it. The putting family first is key and I try to do that as much as possible. The thing that set me off the other day was after I had put family first and done all the other things you say my hunting plans got vetoed last minute from her choice to stay up too late and get little sleep. She does work 7 pm to 7 am but only two days a week and I am very supportive to take the girls Nd not hunt after she works. We are happiest when I take on 100% of home and loving/caring responsibilities, my dad taught me that you give 100% and don't ask for anything. That last maybe two months before I'm exhausted and need her to step it up, which in my opinion doesn't happen enough. I didn't start this thread to announce a divorce I have heard of guys divorcing over hunting I I kinda understand how. If I was going to leave her I would have done it before we got married cause nothings changed even after hundreds of conversations. Big thing is how to consistently give 100 % when you feel you aren't given 100% in return. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Thank you Tony! One thing that "I" feel is very important in my marriage is Church. I know some don't go to church on here. Again, IMO, God is what makes my marriage as strong and as great as it is. I'm going hunting in about an hour...all my wife said was have fun and hope you kill a big one. We went to church this morning as a family and she was very happy about that.
If don't feel you aren't getting 100% back...try to talk to her. Not sure if that will work...but atleast you can try. I hope it all works out for you. I got a friend who's wife hates for him to do anything. Especially hunting...lol.
No chit! where did you guys find your wives? I love mine, and she loves me, sounds like a concept a few of you should try.
