Hunting is a way of life. I am married with two daughters. My daughters and wife do not hunt. They do: Eat & cook the meat. Love my hunting dog. Check trail cameras. Shed hunt. Walk the trails & scout. Involve them. They will respect you & your lifestyle.
Our marriage is so much different than anyone else we know, so I can't really make any suggestions or comparisons. But I just want to say that I like what SharpeyeSam posted here. I think it's very good advice.
Maybe the wife needs a new dude. We're only hearing one side of the story here. No matter what, my wife and kids come before hunting. Way before hunting. I made that choice 13.5 years ago when we walked down the aisle. I would rather have a full soul that doesn't get to hunt than have an empty soul that hunts every day.
With luck, what she really wants to do is not your hunting buddy, cause that would really suck for you.
Thanks for the advice guys and the problems go way beyond hunting. Everything y'all said I have tried. We have talked a lot about all our problems, I am very honest with how I feel with her. And I offer her time and things and chores, it's hard to get a read on what she really wants other than for me to stay home and not hunt or go out with other friends or work. We have been trying to find a counselor but I don't think that will help. Thanks again. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
I can tell you this.... divorce when there are children involved is horrible for everybody... see someone... fight for your marriage for the sake of your kids, wife, and yourself....
I've said this before. Most important thing a man can do for his kids is love their mother. Get a counselor and find a happy medium Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
Not to disagree but is it any better for the kids to be around two people that don't get along or are trying to force something to work? I realize its looked down upon by some but sometimes divorce is a answer. People get married these days for the wrong reasons sometimes and all the counseling or work you put into it doesn't do any good. Why continually live un happy with your situation? That does no good for anybody involved either. I suppose prior requirements listed deem my opinion invalid, but they still wouldn't change as I've seen first hand all sides of marriage.
Divorce should be the LAST resort and far too often these days it's one of the first. Being a kid is tough, especially today. Parents divorcing makes it even harder. Parents first responsibility above all else is their kids. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
Trying is not wrong.... marriage is work.. hard work at times... read my post... I said fight for your marriage... most people are too selfish to do that...
This is a tough call since I'm sure we don't have all the details but it seems like she is unhappy for some reason. She is denying you access to a hobby that she knows makes you happy and she sees this as unfair - why should you enjoy yourself if she isn't? The key is to find why she is unhappy. If you can solve that, your hunting time issues will be solved as well. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
It's a control issue. No matter how hard you try, it will not change...been there done that. You will know your breaking point. Good luck. Remember, we are all in this together ...
Maybe your wife knows that you wouldn't be with her if not for the birth of your two daughters. Don't act like being a father to your daughter and a husband to their mother is doing them a favor. Be that loving father and husband or more on and let a real man come in and fill the position. A little tough love there but your the man of the house and the home will be what you make it. It's just the rut. Show her that she and your daughters are more important than hunting with a smile on your face and your future will be much happier. Ps. They know what causes sons and daughters now With that said, some women have other deep issues you'll need to get out of them by showing unconditional love and trust. Good luck and get Jesus involved.
You get what you give.....why did you put that ring on her finger.....had to be happy at the time right.....i would first sit down with her start at the beginning and figure out why you are together and what brought you there and what you can do to get back to that.....its worth a shot.....theres some good advice here and this is no time to be proud and point the finger soley at her......we.....not I..........good luck Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using Tapatalk 2
Two people unequally yoked will not work. Hope deferred makes the heart grow sick. My 2 cents here: The two of you need to have a sit down and evaluate. Loving your kids does not always have to include their mother.
If you think its hopeless then use this wife to practice on being a better man and husband for your next wife. That's what I did. Just to be straight my current wife of 19yrs is my second wife and we almost divorced 5 years ago but I decided to use her to work on my game before I took off. What I found is once I started acting like a real man and husband " with help from the teachings of Jesus Christ" my wife started acting like a real women and wife " also with help from God" and today I have a marriage I wouldn't give up for anything in the world and certainly not hunting. Give it a try and just make sure your bad marriage is not in anyway your fault. God luck and God bless.
Being married isn't always easy. Like others have said, it has to be a give and take relationship. My wife has a few hobbies that I'm not really into and vice versa. We do try to be supportive with each other, though. She doesn't hunt or even shoot, but she does enjoy my successes in the field. Hope everything works out for you. SCFox
Backstrap makes a very good point. I would try sitting down with her and find out whats really going on. Starting from the beginning and finding where and what caused you two to grow apart should help tremendously. Then come to a compromise and a agreement. Marriage takes two. Both have to want it to work and both have to work at it. Good luck man.
Just wanted to chime in I have a full soul AND I get to hunt whenever I want. Marriage is for the birds.
