Just venting for a second. But I had a crappy week at work even didn't hunt one morning so I would be awake to help my wife around the house that afternoon. What helped get me through this week with blowing up was the promise of hunting Saturday afternoon. Well bout 12 my wife lets me that she will be taking a nap from 2-5 before she goes to work tonight. But she didn't go to bed last night till after 3 am. When we had the girls in bed early. If we ever divorce it will be during hunting season, unlike some of your wives who encourage y'all to go. My wife *****es and complains about it every time I bring it up and finds things for me to do so I can't go. And if I do kill one, she is never excited for me. Vent over. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Balance is key but in the give and take you do have to both be supportive and receive support back. Keep it together brother, seasons come and go.
I had to talk to my wife about it. If I didn't vent to her I would've snapped. Same boat OP, so I know where you are coming from. She hates it. In fact I think it just came down to jealousy that I got to leave and have a hobby. Now, she accepts it. She hates it though and provides no support. I've never gotten a "good luck" or even a single text all day....only asking when I'm coming home. I hunt alone mostly. She would never know if I fell out of a tree, got lost, etc. So I share my location with close friends and movements with them should something bad happen. Accept that she won't support you and move on. It's not worth a marriage, but I will continue to hunt, but I know she doesn't agree with my hobby....and that's okay. But I don't take any more crap over it though. Oh, make sure the family and home duties take priority! If those are in order then it's no longer an argument. However, if you neglect your wife, child, home or work over hunting than you need to reevaluate your priorities. IMO. Your mileage may vary. Sent from my XT907 using Tapatalk
Sounds like some relationships are already hitting the point of being beyond repair...and hunting is just exposing that fact.
Since none of you know my wife. If not for my two girls we would have never married. Had our oldest before marriage. And I don't want to be that guy that just leaves her with two girls while I'm hunting, but our rut starts in January and I might be that guy that takes a couple days off work and doesn't tell her. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Lying has no place in a marriage, either be honest with her or leave her, its not fair to anyone to be any less, there are plenty of bad ways to recreate, and hunting is not a bad one, be honest, but fair, and explain your time spent hunting, is time well spent.
It started out bad, if hunting is really the problem, which I sincerely doubt, then reality is gonna be a real kick to the sack for this household.
I agree the issue goes far beyond hunting. I would advise a marriage counselor. Those kids are worth it. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
Get the marriage worked out and there will be time for hunting. Been married 21 years and 2 kids. 19 and 15. Hasn't always been easy Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Tapatalk
Given that it's too late to work this out before marriage, maybe there's something you can give her in exchange for time to hunt. Is there something she wants, something she wants to do? You really need to talk about it.
My wife and I have been married 10 years this month. We have been together for over 11 years. Her Mom asked her one day if she had a problem with me going hunting a lot and she said to her Mom, "He was hunting long before he ever met me. So no I don't." I am glad she sees it that way; because, I explained to her long ago that I was hunting when she met me and I will continue to hunt as long as I am able. If it is a problem, say so now. And it NEVER has been. I told my wife, other than the Father in Heaven, she ALWAYS comes first. I make sure she gets all of my time that she needs. We have a Date Night once a week, go to dinner whenever she doesn't feel like cooking and go to the movies whenever there is something out she wants to see. However, I only get 3.5 months to hunt. 114-115 days at the most. I hunt as many of them as I choose to. She has 8.5 months of me being able to go and do whatever she wants to. Bowhunting is something I enjoy tremendously. She sees how passionate I am about it. I don't think she will ever understand it, but she accepts that as a part of me. She wishes me the best and asks how did my hunts go. Heaven forbids if something ever happens to her and she falls ill, then To H--- With Hunting until she is better. As long as she is fine, come hunting season, I will be somewhere in a tree with my bow!
