Getting old sucks.

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  1. dnoodles

    dnoodles Legendary Woodsman

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    I got thrown off initially because I always fly in to PGD or RSW.
    The rest of my confusion I blame on Woodford Reserve.

    Carry on!
     
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  2. Sota

    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    Well well well you tits need me to come have a meeting and sign papers but you won't relieve me after 15 days. So tempted to send them videos of the **** I have dealt with I saw my mom's bare ass today, nobody wants to see their mom's bare ass unable to get off the floor. Did I mention I hate my entitled siblings.
     
  3. Grouch

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    so sorry sota, as you read ive been there, Its time for assisted living ! I took my Mother finally, She did not want to do this, Once she went, 2 days later she thanked me, She loved it there !
     
  4. Sota

    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    Will see my Mom has an appointment with an orthopedic tomorrow I told my Mom I am coming in the room with you.
     
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    oldnotdead Grizzled Veteran

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    If you have'nt set things up for you being the medical care primary ,you should, also YOU may want to approach power of attorney, especially with the sibling situation.
     
  6. Sota

    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    So I went with to my Mom's appointment and said yes I am coming with when you see the Doctor and will be in the room. She is bone on bone with some disc issues thrown in for good measure. The Doctor said the only solution is hip replacement, unfortunately the wounds from surgery must be healed before any replacement could be done. The Doctor suggested going to a wound care doctor, and a pain management specialist in the mean time. She needs a referral from a general doctor and she does not have one in Florida. My Dad knows everything and everybody else is an idiot he thought we could just try to walk into a pain management clinic and see if there was an open appointment, I said Dad that is not how it works he said I did not hear it that way, and I must be wrong. I finally said Mom you will get the care you need faster back in Minnesota because you are set up there. My Mom is in so much pain something needs to be done sooner than later. I am willing to miss the NFC championship game to get back to Minnesota (not saying much because I love my mother more than the Packers) My Dad is a pain in the ass and the childish arguments between my parents please get me the hell out of here. I can watch the game on the plane.

    Is it petty of me that when I asked my siblings for relief down here after 2 weeks they were all too busy. When they call or text asking for an update today I may be a little too busy and will get back to them.
     
  7. picman

    picman Grizzled Veteran

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    [QUOTE

    Is it petty of me that when I asked my siblings for relief down here after 2 weeks they were all too busy. When they call or text asking for an update today I may be a little too busy and will get back to them.[/QUOTE]


    Not at all. If I were in your shoes, I would start a group text update and send it out just before I hit the sack. Or better yet, send it when I get up to take a leak in the middle of the night.
     
  8. Sota

    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    I was up at 2:30 am Tuesday to help my mom no sleeping after that, last night my parents got back to the house from the ER at 12:30 am and I had to stay up to help get my mom out of the vehicle and into the house, after that I could not sleep. F'ers too busy to help.
     
  9. John T.

    John T. Die Hard Bowhunter

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    sota, know what you mean. A few years after my father died, my mother wouldn't do anything for herself. I would call her to take her medicine in the morning. She would go to the bathroom and leave the phone off the hook. Then I would have to go, hang up the phone and make sure she took her medicine. Back at lunch and dinner. She was in good health but wouldn't do anything. Laid in bed for 18 months, I had to go to her apartment, fix meals, make sure she took her medicine, do laundry, clean the apartment. She had an ER visit and was sent to a nice nursing home for rehab. She wound up staying the rest of her life, still in bed. Only child so it all fell on me.
     
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    Sounds like how my Mom went... Really sucks watching them just give up on life.
     
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    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    Told my Mom this afternoon we are going home we have to go home. 6 months into the family business take over and my sister the office manager has a orange size growth in one lung, she smoked for years and then vaped. Did not tell my mom about my sister she does not know. What a nightmare. I don't give 2 shits about the $ we had a dream to grow the business.
     
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    wl704 Legendary Woodsman

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    Don't know what to say. It sucks. You get my sympathy and empathy. As I said before, siblings need that wake up call/text.
     
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    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    My oldest sister is a ***** but as I told staff at least she is our *****. This sucks I do not want to get prematurely sad but history of smoking then vaping, not good. I am down to 4 dips of Skoal a day, hope it is not too late.
     
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    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    Just want to get home and go to bed hold my wife yell at the dogs and forget about life for a while.
     
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    So, when your mom has the replacement surgery, they will most likely place her in nursing care for therapy. Perhaps you can suggest to dad that he check in for that time period.

    Frame it as being there to keep his wife company.
     
  16. Sota

    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    I listened to my parents argue about going home the morning, could have ended that argument quickly but I gave my word I would not tell them about my sister. Sometimes keeping your word sucks but that is all a person has.
     
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    Well when it sucks it sucks. My oldest sister has stage 4 lung cancer and it has spread to her brain, she was supposed to have brain surgery tomorrow but the doc refused. Sucks 4 kids both parents dead before the oldest is 4o from cancer. So surreal.
     
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    Praying for your family.


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    Sorry to hear, lifes journey isn't easy.
     
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    Sota Legendary Woodsman

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    It is not easy, never is. I have been very blessed in that I have not had to deal with tragic deaths and to be honest doing the math over the years the odds always concerned me, to be honest I would gladly take the tragic unexpected death and spare my immediate family if at all possible but life and death is very uncertain.
     
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