Does judging people help protect you or your family on a regular basis?

Do you believe quickly assessing and "judging" people helps protect you or your family on a frequent basis?

For example, you see a rough looking biker guy with tattoos all over his body near the front door of a store. At that point you make sure to accompany your son/daughter into the store. You judged the guy to be rough looking and he had tattoos all over, meaning you assessed him to be a danger. But in reality, have you ever witnessed a biker pick on a little kid? I haven't personally.

Or you see a another guy dressed in a red shirt, sneakers, and wearing a red bandanna in his back pocket.....walking slowly and listening to rap music on his phone. You judge the guy and assess him as a danger.


I am not really sure what I am getting at here. The reason I am bringing it up is because I saw this "girl" at court the other day who used to be a guy. To me, "she" looked weird, body of a man, yet acted very feminine. In fact it was kind of creepy. I was going to start making jokes, but then I thought...what has that person ever done to me? She was acting very kind and considerate and never once bothered anyone. Bottom line, I felt like a complete jerk inside. Any of you guys get like that? Feeling the need to judge to protect yourself or others, then feeling like judging people is wrong at the same time?

 

I think in retrospect that we can sometimes get carried away with judging/classifying people based upon their image but me personally I would rather walk away feeling like a jerk and my kids /family be safe then have to live with "If only I had been there " feeling that you could've stopped something that may have happened... Just my. 02

I guess in a way I am bit more desensitised to passing judgement than some people are because I do it for a living at my job

 

Using "judging people" in the context you're using it as to protect yourself and your family... unfortunately you would have to judge mostly everybody that way. Typical stereotypes for perceived "dangerous" people dont' really exist anymore.

 

I don't trust anyone I don't know and I only trust half of those I do .... been in this life 48 years now.... nuff said...

 

I think you trust your instincts, its why we have them.

Many people now shave their heads and get tattoos, buy a harley just to look that part because they WANT people to be a little scared of them ie and not mess with them.

 

Both me and my GF have our CC permit. We both have a mind set that everyone and anyone is potentially a threat. Its sad to say this, but in this day in age, if you dont treat the public like this then you putting yourself in harms way.

 

Every time I see someone in cargo shorts, I be sure to guide the family in a large path around them.

 

I judge people every day by myself and most certainly when I am with my family. That being said, sometimes it feels like it is just getting old to do so.

 

It's human nature. Don't feel bad. People project how they want to be perceived by their appearance.

 

I have trusted my instincts in most cases. But I don't live in an area where we have those kind of threats. Doesn't mean that I'm not vigilante. My wife often says I'm overly vigilante.

 

As a father I judge pretty hard and feel I am helping to protect. Why take a chance with your children?

 

I do it all the time-- I think our basic instinct of self-preservation kicks in every time we see what we perceive as a threat. Heck; that threat could be a spider and not even a person-- All spiders are not bad, but I still am afraid of them to some extent.

Judgment is perception..

Perception is reality..

Reality is tolerance…

Tolerance is understanding..

Life is precious!! Protect it always

 

I don't. My wife says I am hyper vigilante. And to be honest with you, lately, it is starting to wear on me. Maybe I just need to live in a really small town.

 

As a husband and a father, it's my duty to protect my family. If that mean I have to judge people. So be it. I seem to always be thinking about several steps ahead, and assessing potential risks, and will help steer my family clear of those potential risks. I watch other parents and how they handle their children, letting them move into obviously dangerous situation and saying nothing, as if they don't even realize their child is being put in danger. Then when their kid gets hurt, they can't understand what happened. I just think to myself that I saw that one coming. I stay very tuned in to what is going on around me and do everything within my power to protect myself and my family. If that means incorrectly judging people, oh well.

 

I do it. More often since my wife was attacked. Sometimes I feel like I am working for the secret service. lol

You just never know, and being cautious is smart. I guess we don't want to have regrets and live the rest of our lives thinking, "If I had only just.........."

Hooker, you would not be able to get out of the car in the Midwest if cargo shorts are criteria for suspicion. lol

 

I am not really sure what I am getting at here. The reason I am bringing it up is because I saw this "girl" at court the other day who used to be a guy. To me, "she" looked weird, body of a man, yet acted very feminine. In fact it was kind of creepy. I was going to start making jokes, but then I thought...what has that person ever done to me? She was acting very kind and considerate and never once bothered anyone. Bottom line, I felt like a complete jerk inside. Any of you guys get like that? Feeling the need to judge to protect yourself or others, then feeling like judging people is wrong at the same time?


You saw Tony in court?

 

We have an innate desire to categorize or classify, so I do not see how you can get around it. I also do not see anything wrong with judging someone by how they dress, assuming the way they dress is or has been associated with a group of individuals which may pose a threat. Until recently we had to categorize and classify groups to survive.

Unfortunately, we also tend to judge people we do not understand or cannot relate too. This is when we can cross morally murky territory.

 

I profile and will continue to do so. I could careless if it is politically correct. So my short answer to your question is yes.

 

I think if someone looks like a freak you should think their a freak. Enough with the politically correct BS.

If a kid come through my neighborhood with a hoodie on in the middle of summer and acting like a wantabe rap star, I'm putting my guard up. If he hangs around to long acting like he's looking for homes to buy I'm calling the cops. That's me.

 

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