Had a conversation with a co-worker this morning about marrying outside your denomination/religion. He was pretty adamant that he could never marry anyone that was not Catholic. I think that is quite close minded and absurd, but I guess that is to be expected. He says it is because he wouldn't want any conflict about how to raise their kids. I was raised a good Baptist boy. The wife was raised a good Pentecostal girl. I think most of y'all know my beliefs now, and my wife is not as uber as she once was, but she will still go through these phases where she wants to go to church. That doesn't bother me. It wouldn't bother me if/when my wife decides she would want to take our future kids to church. I'm pretty open minded about these things. Anybody have any conflicts with different religions/denominations within a marriage?
I think if you look at it as wanting to marry someone like them, rather than outside their religion, it takes a different view. There are people that won't marry outside of their city, outside of their state, outside of their country, outside of their race, etc, because they are not like them. Yes, I think religions are lame, but I also understand that people want to marry someone like them. Thats human nature. Oh, and catholics are just weird.
my parents did it and it worked. waited till us kids were around HS or after to choose on our own, but till then we'd switch off churches.
I also wanted to add that I think its lame to rule someone out based on race or creed, before ever getting to know them. I understand why they do, but yes, its close-minded.
It may be close minded but...if your a catholic and you want to marry someone that has the same beliefs,morals etc, then you would most likely want to marry another catholic. Not to say that even if you weren't brought up a catholic or baptist or lutheren that you couldn't marry outside your religion I'm not against it I just wouldn't do it...you may run into many differences down the road about how kids should be raised and other family related things. Whatever the case do whats makes you happy. If its right, it'll work.
I wouldn't be against it, but like Vito points out, it's more being attracted to those like you more than being repulsed by those different.
I get that. But this certain co-worker claimed, that even if he found the girl attractive, loved her personality, everything about her was exactly what he wanted out of a partner, that her being a Baptist would be a deal breaker. That just kinda blew my mind.
Religion doesn't matter to me, I don't get involved with religion. My girlfriend goes to church, but she knows not to ask me to go with her. Works pretty well *edit* LC made a good point, I couldn't do those other country religions. The main religions in the U.S wouldn't bother me
So y'all wouldn't mind if your partner was a different denomination of Christianity. What that partner wanted you to convert to their denomination? To marry in the Catholic church, both the partners have to members of the church, and in order to that, you have to be a converted Catholic. Would you agree to that?
I have two friends that are married w/ two kids. He's Baptist, she's Catholic. It's like anything I guess. My wife's good friend married an Atheist, he said he couldn't marry anyone that went to church. I've met bowhunters that would refuse to associate with gun hunters. Ford Chevy. Democrat Republican. Blue Collar White Collar..... I mostlikely would not have married my wife if she was a member of PETA. Not because of her membership, but because of what that mostlikely indicates about her values and priorities. And vice versa for PETA members finding out I hunt. It would be hard for me to have married someone that was adimant about living in Florida or So Cal. It wouldn't be a fit for where I want to be, what I want in life, who I am. So, is it close minded? Yes, most likely. Maybe narrow minded is more accurate. But lets face it, we all have more narrow minds than we think we do. The big problem is that for most people Open-Mindedness & Belief are opposing forces, this is not the case. The trick is dump the pride out of both.
LMAO... My cousin married a Muslim (She is Bosnian).. He is Baptist (he's a redneck)... He probably thinks he is getting 50 virgins and a goat when he dies... Little does he know.. he's prolly gonna end up with 50 virgin goats!!!
Well, depending on his level of "redneck-ness", the 50 goats just might be good enough! My wife was a member of PETA when I met her. She put a sticker on the back glass of our first car together that said "Official Card Carrying Tree Hugger". Now when I'm hunting close to the house she's always the first one out to help me blood trail and field dress my deer. She helps me process them and she loves eating them. Oh yeah, I was raised "Church of Christ" and she's Lutheran, and worst of all.... she's from California! She still wears socks with sandals and refers to all paved roads as "The". You know, instead of Interstate 40 or I-40, it's "The 40". Know what? I'm the luckiest man I know.
I've seen it work and I've seen it fail. It won't make or break the relationship, but same religion marriages have one less conflict than the rest and less conflict the better. It ultimately rest on the two individuals in each situation.
What about marrying a 1st or second cousin? I don't get out much other than the annual family reunions and hey can't be picky. Just kidding
