Cant stand being around little league sports parents

My son finished his last basketball game with his travel team. Our parents were rather embarrassing, so glad its over this year.

The biggest issue is parents are just not honest with their kids. We had a kid in three games go 2-33 and his parents just praised him after the games. Coaches are too afraid to sit these kids.

For perspective my son was 3 for 3, for all three games, lol He took three shots.

 

If you have a kid that is allowed to go 3/33 that's the coach's fault as much if not more than the parents...unless they're one and the same.

 

My dad was a basketball ref for 40 years ranging from elementary games all the way to high school games. He's seen and heard just about everything imaginable. What always got the parents to shut up was he would yell at them and say if it looks so easy, you can do it and would take his whistle off and motion for them to take it. He never had 1 parent take him up on it.

 

I've been on both sides of it. There's really none of the parent BS at my daughters travel softball games. 100 games a year will do wonders for tempering the parents. High School sports is a different animal. I have to admit it's tough to sit back and watch the refs completely botch a game and not say something though.

 

Dad is a treat, yells shoot, take all game long.

 

That was my line in soccer, I would even offer to pay their registration fee.

 

We lost our last game, ref completely missed a call with the ball out of bounce with 9 seconds left. Parents went crazy, we lost by 1. Until I should them their son's stats. you're kid went 2 for 15, yours 0-8. Your kid defense was like a broken dam he let his guy go by so much for layups. If the game comes down to a call by a ref, I can point out many more occasions where the team blew it than just one call.

My teams play the game, worry about the refs is poor coaching, IMO.

As a ref I make and will make bad calls.

 

I get that, but the refs can also very easily affect the outcome by how they allow the game to be played. For example, when you have an overly aggressive team that presses, fouls and is over the top physical, if the refs don't get control of the game from the beginning it turns into a hack fest which is not what basketball is all about. Then the crowd gets pissed because the game is out of control. Then the refs get mad at the crowd for being mad at them for sucking at their job. Do a better job reffing, keep control of the game and usually the parents are at least tolerable. Missing a call here or there is one thing, but not being able to control the game is another. Last Friday our high school boys played a game exactly like this. A 3 man crew where only one of the refs was doing their job well. I'm not sure one even brought his whistle, the other would make a call here or there, but mostly only called travelling. Never called any kind of holding foul on the team that was pressing and not allowing our players to move without being held. Crowd got vocal to the point that he had to throw a parent out. If they had just been doing their job, that would have never happened. Sometimes the refs just plain suck.

 

Then tell those in the crowd to get their cool shirts and whistle and head out to the floor. Crowds are bias and 90% time wrong. I really thought in 2014 I was not going to make it out of the game alive. There was a no call in the penalty area, the 11 year kid tripped over his own feet is how I saw it and my AR. I was called many vile things, told I lost the game for the kids and they would show me the tape and how incompetent I was as a ref.

They did send my a note later through US soccer, with an apology, the kid tripped over his own feet as the taped showed. There is emotion in the stands and sorry but parents and fans do not see calls in a non-partisan way.

As I tell my team, we're not snowflakes the call is the call or no call, and we play the game. I refuse to let an official dictate the way I coach a game or my kid plays. The reason my son plays for the club he does, is how the coaches reacted to officiating.

 

I have 0 say in this as I don't have kids and don't coach... But "Such is life." People suck at a lot of things they are "qualified" for.

 

It's just too bad parents are not as passionate about grades as they are sports.

 

This thread reminds me of a quote from a former major league baseball umpire "So you think your job is tough, I'm supposed to be perfect the 1st day on the job then show constant improvement".

 

That's a great line

 

I was at my daughters swim meet tonight and the place was packed. It was at our school so we knew to head to the overflow area above the pool right away to get away from the crowd but mostly it isn't 150 degrees in there and also not as loud. Then some A HOLES come in late and walk in and push in front of others. Just complete scum bags!

 

It was the same way when my boys were in wrestling. Some of the parents were embarrassingly obnoxious, sadly the kids of those type of parents tend to act the same way.

 

Swim meets why do parents go, the swimmers can't really hear much cheering with their head in their water. I always told my parents to not come to the meets, it is hell in the bleachers too damn hot.

 

When your 14 year old daughter asks you to come to her swim meet, you go.

 

Another game today. Wasn't too bad other than a fan coming out of the stands and putting his arm on the refs shoulder and talking to him during the game. Lol

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Oh I know.

 

I think parents can be TOO involved in their children's hobbies. I had the opposite experience. I grew up in nyc and took the school bus or subway to all of my games/meets and I didn't want my parents there. Even in college. Most of my teammates parents weren't there either. Maybe it's different in cities.


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