Told my in-laws tonight after we ate Mc Donalds for supper at their request, your daughter will be home tomorrow we are all going to get scolded but united front it was seniors discount night.
They probably would. My MIL had shoulder replacement surgery a couple of months ago. As she was waking up from the surgery, still under powerful pain killers, she asked the nurse to let an air bubble into her IV line. My wife was standing right next to her. For those who don't know the medical implications, an air bubble in an IV line can cause serious problems like an embolism or stroke. MIL was a nurse for 35 years, she knew exactly what she was asking and flat out told my wife she was ready to die. It is not the first time my MIL has said something like that, my wife has medical power of attorney and quietly decided not to pursue treatment if something drastic happens. MIL is not suicidal, but she has had a hard life, is in her 70s, a widow, and has several unresolvable medical problems.. She is ready to be done.
God bless her , that's a tough surgery for a young person let alone an older ill one. One of the most painful. I remember my Grandma in her mid 90's laying in intensive care after her daughters forced open heart surgery to be done on her. She held my hand and cried. " All I want is to go home and die. Why won't they let me?" Tear streaming down my face I told her I loved her and soon. They took her to her daughter's home when she "recovered". That week my aunt Sat her up in a chair while she vaccumed around her. Grandma passed away as my aunt vacuumed.
My wife has landed back in Minnesota and while I am ready to take a nap and relax I really understand that she needs my support. I will take my mother in law grocery shopping too instead of waiting for my wife to come home from taking her.
@Sota you may be a crusty sob, but you sure are a good person; and even better husband, father and pop pop.
Nope it is called being a man standing up when needed, Crusty yes but old school you look after family as needed. You can have my time but don't beg for $.
After talking to my wife last night she is really effected by the grind of it, my mother in law is rapidly deteriorating, texts my wife at work 10 times a day. She is getting demanding too and it is sucking the joy out of my wife's life. She only has 2 more days of unpaid leave she can take and the principal HR and superintendent. are going to meet about my wife's statue. I say go ahead and fire her she does not need to work, she is only there because my grandkids will be going to that school.
I hate that for you man. It's definitely not easy and then you become bogged down with all these different feelings. You want to be a help but then you begin to feel resentful at times and then you feel guilty about that. That's all normal. You just have to decide what you can endure and go from there. Sent from my SM-N975U1 using Tapatalk
Thinking outside the box here. Your wife is a teacher and she could home school the grand kids and maybe watch mom and dad on recess. Kidding.. but just a thought i had. Grand kids are a great inspiration for great grand parents. They create reasons to look forward to tomorrow.
My wife is administrative not a teacher but she can and does sub when needed. But my wife could not teach my grandsons, she is their grandma and she spoils them.
Other alternative she could go back to her old school district and make 3 times what she does at her current school district only draw back she would have a drive like mine, with that if she did that she would have a brand new suv cross over of her choice, get 3 weeks of vacation a year and complete 25 years of union pension, and still get summers off, pay part of home health care for her parents and still be $ ahead, but for her it is about the boys and their school and I get that. I think that they will accommodate her she does not work enough hours to qualify for FMLA, they would be foolish to let proficiency go. The school districts up here are so behind the times up here she is proficient in state mandate compliance for standardized testing and that is how the schools get funding.
