I don't afraid Every person has to be died one day that's why I don't afraid of death. Before of after but still death is must.
I don't know. My wife and I were actually talking about this last night. I really have zero fear of dying, I think I have a malfunctioning amygdala (the part of our brains that control our fear responses... Yeah I was a Psych major) We have a friend with a brain tumor who has outlived his prognosis and his quality of life is pretty low. I told her to talk me out of the treatments if I ever have to live like that. She reminded me that no one really knows until they are faced with it. I said what I think about is all the people who wouldn't be able to enjoy their lives because they were trying to keep me alive. One thing is for sure, 100% of us will face it at some time. I am a pastor and have seen a lot of people walk this path and everyone does handle it quite differently. I just don't know how it would change me... I just don't want to have lived for nothing, stood for nothing or died for nothing.
Dan.....Wow. Didn't know, but thanks for sharing. My thing I guess is, we're Born to Die. No other way out that I've ever heard of, so my intention is to live as best I can, morally, ethically, spiritually, and physically. Grab life and GO!! Simon, as a paramedic, do you have any issues?? I did that for 3 years when I was younger in a small town in Southern MN. One summer I pulled 4 friends out of car accidents who were dead or died, one being my best friend at the time. Messed with my head pretty bad and had to get out. Strangers I think I could handle, but not now after dealing with dead aquantances.
Im in the same boat as you, i run in my own hometown. Ive never had any immediate family or friends pass on me, but i have transported many of my family members to the hospital. Theres been some bad moments, but it comes with the job. Im entering my 4th year on the department and wouldnt trade careers for anything.
I can't say I am afraid of dieing. Its the thought of having to wait on the otherside for my family but, then again, it will be more peaceful there. I don't want to die any time soon. I have two boys that i want to see grow up and a wife I want to grow old with though. I want to do more for people than I have in the past also. I want to make some sort of a difference. Even if its is only one person. We are not promised tomorrow though.
When I think about it, yes, I'd like to be alive for years to come and I am a little afraid of it, but it doesnt consume me. I respect life, I dont take days for granted. I hope its in Gods will to be around a while, because I don't feel like he's done with me yet. I have two boys I hope I get to watch grow into men. I hope and pray I get to grow old with my wife. I've seen a lot of death in my life, Dad crushed, Mom cancer, My bros Daughter run over, Grandma Cancer, Grampa Heart attack, Dee's sis suicide and a best friend car wreck..and have had two students murdered and one die in a car wreck.. all in the last 25 yrs. Enough bad chit for a while. My head is often on a swivel.. wondering when/who is the next to fall around me. I darn near died in 98, 12 hours of surgery later I made it. I dont know if I fear it, or if I am numb to it or what.. But I do fear not being here for my boys and wife. I don't want them to have to go through that, at least until they are men. My saving grace is I do trust Gods will. Mom showed me last year how to die with courage and dignity in the midst of a TERRIBLE form of eat you from the outside in ... breast cancer, It sucked horribly. She was tougher than any person I've ever seen. Never complained never hung her head once. eaten alive.. no chit. It sucked. I hated it for her, pisses me off right now just reliving it. she didnt deserve it, but her faith gave her incredible strength, that I hope I have if I ever have to go that way. Am I afraid in a way it consumes my thoughts... I dont think so.. do I want to die, not right now ..
Agree...My only fear is dying before my kids are young adults...I have too many things to teach them over time, and all young kids need a good dad. And even after kids are out of house - I hope to have more years to devote to my wife as we give so much of our time right now to the four kids... ...is it possible to be too dam busy to die right now?
Having a near death experience can really mess a person up. On my 23rd birthday, I was laying in a hospital emergency room with a 200 bpm pulse and blood pressure reading of 200/100. I felt like I had ants crawling all over my body, was getting blind spots in my vision and was told that I probably had a clot in my lung and they'd need to crack me open. I asked the doctor what my chances were if it was and he just stared at me silently, unwilling to tell me. It took me a year to figure out that all of that had come from an anxiety and panic disorder and in the meantime, I was continually getting "attacks" and had been placed on several different types of medications all of which were totally unnecessary. It took me another couple years of trying to handle it through counseling before finally getting on some medications specifically for anxiety. Even then, I was placed on a sedative that made me feel drowsy and depressed most of the time. To top it off, I had gotten to the point where I feared even going outside all that often. I gained 50 pounds, stopped exercising and had all but destroyed most of my personal relationships. When I was going through the worst of it, I thought about death every day and was convinced that it would happen soon and I dwelled on it constantly. What I've come to realize out of all this, is that death is only scary because it is an unknown. I respect the guys who believe in heaven and have a sense of where they're going after they die. I know personally, no matter how much I believed in a religion, I would always question the end game. One remark, about two or three years ago, put everything in perspective for me and has kept me satisfied since then. I was asked if I feared the time before my birth. It was easy to respond that of course I wasn't. I was then asked, if you didn't fear your existence (or lack of it) prior to my birth, why did I fear it after my death? You can poke a couple holes in the reality of it, but regardless, it always gets me to stop worrying about it.
