The problem is that the father won't give up his parental rights unless we promise to let him keep the girls SS checks. We can change that later. Its his drinking money and he won't part with it without a fight. He wants the girls to be able to recieve the benefits I get at work but not at the expense of his habit. Carie and I don't need the money. We can raise these girls and our daughter comfortably without it. I may have to sacrifice a trip or a new piece of gear once in a while but I have no problem with that. He has given us power of attorney so we can get the girls medical care but now its on the state to pay for it until I can get them on my insurance.
Greg.... As soon as you have legal custody, I'd turn him in. I can't imgaine there's a legal document that he could have you sign that would enable him the right to commit fraud.
Halee and Sheree would never forgive me if I turned him in. They don't want to live with him but they still love him. I will however have the SS checks direct deposited into an account for the girls. Then he couldn't do a thing about it.
Thats a tough situation, Greg. At this time, it sounds like you are doing the right thing. Even if the Dad is a dirtbag and keeping the money, you are putting the girls first. Being parents to the girls is the one thing you can control at this point. Again, I applaud you.
Wow - what an amazing and admirable story. There really should be more people like you and your wife in this world. You're doing such a wonderful thing; those two girls are extremely fortunate to have you two in their lives. Wishing you the very best!
Tx, You and your wife are doing a truely comendable act. It's a blessing for those two girls to have you and your family in their lives. Teenage girls (or boys) aren't easy and I can only recommend providing love and structure. I think it's best that everyone involved is on the same page and understands what is expected of them. I'm sure you and your wife have rules you live by and I would share them with your new daughters. I'd have everyone come together at the kitchen table for a family discussion where everone can share their thoughts and feelings. Children of alcoholics deal with various issues (some serious) throughout their lives. Odds are you and your wife will see this under your roof. There is alot of information out there on the subject and how to cope with such things. I would prepare myself for this and encourage the girls to educate themselves at some point down the road. Like all of us, the girls were dealt a hand in life and I would only encourage them to make the best of it. Again, you and your wife are a true blessing. Love them like they're your own and enjoy the bigger family. Best wishes to you and yours. C
God Bless you brother. Not many would do what you are doing. May the Lord give you strength and patience to make this work and give these girls the home they've never had.
