From what I've seen, this forum seems to be full of a pretty good group of guys. I know a lot of you are family men, so I'm wanting to get advice from some of you guys that may have been through this situation or may have an input on it. I guess I'm "old fashioned" when it comes to parenting. I believe in disciplining a kid and I believe teaching manners, respect and teaching them things that will be helpful in life. With that being said, I have a 6 year old that is in his third year of smurf football. He's 51 inches tall and weighs 88 lbs and he's solid. He's not an "overweight" kid but he's really stout in his shoulders and arms and is strong when he wants to be. Anyway I signed him up for football and this being his third year and one of the older kids on the team, his duties has increased. He's a starting offensive lineman, but he's probably the worst player on the team due to the fact he doesn't try at all. He says he likes it, but he doesn't really try at all. I get onto him for letting defenders run past him, but he just tells me he will do better next time and nothing changes. I am one of the coaches on the team and I've invested A LOT of money over the last three years. I've helped him every way I know how... He's a bit lazy overall. If he had it his way he'd eat chips and pizza and play video games and on his iPad all day long. He doesn't like being outside unless it involves swimming. I try to get him involved in sports, hunting, fishing, but to no avail. Actually, if I'm being honest, he's probably the laziest kid I've ever seen. It's actually getting worse as he gets older. The way I see it is: if I don't get him involved and let him just quit because it's "hard" I am teaching him to take the easy way in life. The way the rest of my family see it is - I am forcing him to do something that makes ME happy rather than actually letting him make his own decision. My response is "well if he's going to make his own decision, ask him in the morning if he wants to go to school and if he doesn't let him stay home". I don't want to be wrong here, but I believe in my son and I want him to be involved. When I was a kid, my dad hated sports and I didn't discover a love or passion for them until it was too late for me to play. My dad told me tonight I shouldn't make him do something he doesn't want to do and a sign of lack of improvement shows he has no interest in learning. My way of seeing it is - he's lazy and needs to be taught to get outside and be active and not spend his life playing video games and internet because it "makes him happy". Sorry for the long rant. I'm just torn in two directions here and wanting some friendly advice. I have three children and my son that plays is my oldest. His younger brother isn't old enough and neither is his sister. Thanks for any responses.