A Fond Farewell

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  1. fletch920

    fletch920 Grizzled Veteran

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    After 18 months of knowing that we were losing the bedrock of our family, I got the gut punch on April 16th late in the afternoon. Knowing it was coming seemed to make no difference to the impact. My father-in-law lost his battle to cancer. I often referred to him as my "stunt-Dad". After losing my own father at a young age, he stepped in when times were tough and took over the duty. And man did he do an amazing job. In July, I will have been married to his youngest daughter for 30 short years. In those years, I never once saw that man get angry or have a bad day. He was the most optimistic and positive person I have ever been around. He taught me much in the ways of life and happiness. He taught me kindness and giving and I taught him all I could about the outdoors. We became great friends in addition to being family.

    Since this Covid virus has the world on ear, the ending was an extraordinary blessing. Hospice would only allow two people to visit each 24 hours. That was certainly not what he would have wanted, so...….we got a crash course on giving hospice care in the home and the entire family spent his last 4 days giving all we had to honor the man in the most dignified and compassionate way we could. It was the single most difficult and yet rewarding thing I have ever done. A hospice nurse would come for 20 minutes each day to give us instructions for the next 24 hours and the rest was up to us. Both of his daughters, their husbands, and all of our adult children and grandchildren provided the around the clock care and stayed in their home. We now have a bond that not many families will ever share. There were lots of tears and many laughs over stories told, and a shot or two of his favorite Crown Royal to send him on.

    He shot his first deer in his very late 60's and they became an obsession for him as they are or were, for most of us. His home is in the middle of Des Moines in a beautiful neighborhood and 20 minutes before he passed, three deer walked into the back yard in the middle of the afternoon and stood by the window of the sunroom where we had placed his hospital bed. I told him that the local herd was here to pay their respects. It seemed a fitting end.

    Godspeed David Dean.
     
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    pastorjim08 Legendary Woodsman

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    So sorry for your loss. He sounds like an incredible person.

    Blessings............Pastorjim
     
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    Sorry for your loss. Sounds like your family was able let him go in a great way.
     
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    So sorry for your loss. Cancer is such an ugly thing. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


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    heckuva tribute Fletch.
    Godspeed to him and Godbless to your family.
     
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    Very sorry for your families loss Fletch, sounds like he was a heck of a fella. What a blessing to be able to have that time together to say goodbye.
     
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    Life is so precious. Live every minute to the fullest.

    Sounds like he had a great ride and some incredible companions to ride along with him.
     
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    Nice tribute.
     
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    I'm sorry for your loss. Your family certainly did their best

    Take care
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    Sorry for your loss Fletch, thoughts are with you and the family.
     
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    Our prayers go out Fletch. May you never forget a single memory.
     
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    Tough lost, but it was nice to hear he got to be with his family at the end.
     
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    That's a tough one Fletch, my thoughts are with you and I admire that y'all brought him home for this transition.
     
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    Sorry for your loss fletch, my condolences to you and all of your family. Cancer sucks
     
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    What a nice tribute, not only to him but to the character of his entire family, which he had such an impact on, that made sure they were there for him.

    Prayers of comfort for you and your family.
     
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    What a wonderful tribute to a great man. He must have passed a happy man with such a loving family around him.
     
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    So sorry to hear this fletch. You talked about him alot on here and could tell you had much respect for him. It sounds great that the family was there with him and in his own home, probably meant more to him then anyone knows. It's a hard thing to lose the monarch of the family and something that takes alot of time. We are all here for you!

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    I am sorry for your loss Fletch, its good to hear the family was there for him to the end.
     
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    Praying for you and your family, fletch.
    My grandpa passed away from cancer in 2016 on their anniversary. Thankfully we were able to have him stay in the home during his last weeks. It's hard to see someone you love go through something like that but it was far better for him to go on to Glory then to suffer here on the earth.

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    Sounds like a good man. Many of us think we know so much in our 20s to 4os, when in reality we dont at all. A good man like your father in law is priceless for advice and being a mentor. Rip.
     
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