So last year I leased property in fulton county illinois. I live near peoria illinois but spend most of my time in the fulton schylure and pike county areas. My father lives in houston texas. My son was born on 7/12/09 and juat had his 2nd birthday. My father, using the term loosely, has only seen his grandson once and it was while he was up here on business last year. He did not come up for the birth of my son nor does he remember to send bday card christmas cards or anything of the like. Around the time of my sons birth my father started dating a new woman. QUESTION... with the given info, would you still pay for your fathers out of state hunting license and tags and take him to some extreemly good hunting grounds which are famous for producing big deer? Sorry for venting but just needed to. Wouldnt mind feed back either. Thanks
Only you can answer that question. I beleive you need to let your fathre know how dissapointed you are and why you are dissapointed. See if he takes the opportunity to make thing right. My father and I have always been very close my son idolizes his grandpa. My dad is suffering from dementia and it has gotten much worse the last 4 months or so. I miss the man I used to know so much, it literally brings me to tears and I am not a cryer, I was always brought up not to cry. Good luck.
He does not act like he wants to make it right. I have told him how disappointed I am and he doesnt seem to care but still wants to hunt. My father and i used to be really close until he started dating again and I think she has a big part of it. I am truely sorry to hear about your father and i too hope things get better for you treehopper
You only have one father and some day he wont be there at all. If this is the worst thing he has done and you two used to be real close forgivness goes along way. And just maybe while he is there hunting with you, you might be able to talk without the girlfriends around..Just my two cents..
For what it's worth to you I have a similar situation except my father does not hunt. I have 2 daughters 1 is 4 and the other is 10 months old My father lives in florida and has only seen my 4 yr old twice in her life and has never seen my 10 month old. I had a pretty serious 7 and 1/2 hour long surgery back in june and he did'nt come here to see his only son for that either. So my answer would be no to the hunting part of it but I would gladly pay his way to come here and spend time with his grand kids if he needed me too. On the same note we can not make our fathers be fathers or grandfathers and at the end of the day my kids are the most important people in my life so for thier sake I would try to make something work. I wish you the best of luck in figuring out what you feel you should do.
Forgive and forget!!!! I lost 5 years with my dad due to stupidity between us then he died 4 years after this. Thank god we made up.
I would take my son to see my old man and then let him watch me whomp Gramp's a$$. Then I'd hand him his license and ask him when he'll be up to hunt. Families fight, it's normal. Just don't let the fights linger and create distance, or in your case, any more distance. You have to let him know how you feel though or it will just eat at you.
I think I will try to work things out with him although itll be hard. But the fact of the matter is, is he doesnt need finacial help to get up here. He is a lead engineer for CAT so he definately has the money
FWIW, I'm sure being the lead engineer is an extremely demanding job. So perhaps money is not the issue, but time is the commodity that he doesn't have. Family should always come first, but demanding jobs can consume a person without them even knowing it.
If you have expressed your feelings to your dad, there is very little you can do. I always say you can't change anyone but yourself. I would take the high road and try to be as kind to him as possible. You stated you used to have a good relationship with him. Perhaps in time, that will be renewed. But if you go on with alot of bitterness, in the end, you will be the one with regrets. If you take the high road and things still don't work out, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you tried doing the right thing. The older I get, the more I realize that life is just too short for grudges. Hope it works out for you. Blessings......Pastorjim
I would bud, life is short. sounds like he should be real proud of his son. My dad was not a hunter and drink to much most of his life. I got some good memories and lots of bad. He has been dead for a good while and wish I would have spent more time with him now. And made him go hunting with me.
I say meet up some where when both of you can and talk over dinner but just the two of you. My father gave me up for adoption when I was 5 to my WONDERFUL DAD and I have a very hard relationship with my father to this date even though we worked together for 13 years at the same place. I have a very hard time trying to work out our differences with him due to all the hard times involved with his wife and some of the things that happened. Mending the fences are tough but I dont like to have bad feelings about anything so I say mend the fence and if you dont want to pay for his tags just let him know he will have to sport his own tags but let him know you still want him hunting with you. I would not be the man I am today if it was not for the Man who adopted me-THAT IS MY DAD and I am very thankful!
