I know ... it just gave me a platform to throw in a biased opinion in a jesting form so as to disguise the slam that it was. ... You were just a pawn in my game of deception ... :D
Awesome, it's great to be able to focus on the business without having to worry about making enough to live on.
Hooker, you have destroyed one of my cherished illusions. I thought you were an organized guy who could set priorities. How could you have gone ahead and gotten someone pregnant before you planned to deal with all the ramifications? (Wait, don't answer that.) If it's any reassurance to you, it is possible to get by on one income if you really want to do it. We have had the worst of both alternatives since, as a full-time student, my time is taken up just as though I were employed, but no income to compensate. Luckily though our schedules are somewhat flexible. And mine became even more flexible after I finished high school. On the other hand, my mother has stepped in when we were both tied up. My stepfather, a tremendous guy, even moved into Mama's house after they married so she could still be close by. (He rented out his much nicer place in the country.) We live pretty simply though, small two bedroom house, '98 S10 Blazer and '03 Cavalier. no toys to speak of, although we do have to budget for the taxes on our cabin on the U.P. We are getting a break now. Our income will almost double with my stipend. All I have to do is finish in three years. Good Luck on whatever you decide and congratulations. Their is a profound joy in being a mommy and daddy. But I am disappointed to learn that you didn't plan all this out beforehand. May The Sheep Be With You
My wife always told me that she wanted to work, but now that she is pregnant, I guess her mother instincts are kicking in, and she just started talking about staying home. Plus, I just got a rather large promotion, so it is possible for her to stay home now, as of last year, it probably would not have been possible.
I don't think there is a wrong answer, as it depends on the situation with advantages for both. With my family, my wife works for the school, so she gets the summers off. When it's not summer, my daughter goes to a daycare my close cousin has. It works well for us. Regardless of whether you're kid stays home or goes to a daycare, i'm a true believe in getting your kids out every week to interact with other kids. Whether it's a daycare, community playgroup, or visiting with other stay at home parents, interaction is important.
I was able to make it all work when I stayed home with my daughter...cleaned the house, do the laundry, work out, take care of the little one and have dinner ready for my fiance when he got home from work. A little piece of advice if she does stay home... Once you get home from work and she wants some help with your child...don't say..."I have worked all day, What did you do?" I never married that POS
Your right. It's a different world than the one most of our fathers lived so it's hard for us to adjust but your patience is appreciated. My wife cooks and I always clean up. If she's cleaning the house and i don't have some other work I'm doing, we spit the chores to get it done quicker and get to other business we can do together...if you know what I mean.
Sarcasm? Not hardly, small piece of the equation... yes. Remember I'm only 24... maybe I will outgrow it... but I don't want kids "right now".(or anytime soon) for many reasons. It's just not time, I can see it one day... maybe. Sorry if that makes me retarded.
At 24, I wanted no part of kids. The thought of knocking up a chick would leave me sleepless for nights.
I always thought you were a little older than that. I'm 27 too...you better go ahead and do it before you dry up! :D
Amen. PS, when you get to the Perimenopause and then menopause phases Dante's "Inferno" seems to have new clarity...something else for you kids to look forward to.
Man I must of got a good one !! Not only did she raise the kids, keep a pretty much a spotless house, made great meals... she kept the yard up also with my long hours at work. You guy's must have married slackers !!!! I am happy to say only I changed 1 diaper. Yes you read that right... 1 diaper total out of 3 kids. It was a horrible ****ty one at that !!! :p It still makes me queezy thinking about it. Damn Tyler !!! Tim
