Amen... mixed emotions for sure. Sincerest of condolences. May she Rest in Peace. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G891A using Tapatalk
Whoa... that's not good. I slipped on the ice a month ago and received another TBI. Got a ride in an ambulance to the local hospital. I actually called the VA for 'authorization' on the way to the ER. They (the VA) closed the ER here too... turned it into an Urgent Care clinic that's only open during the day. Funny (not really) thing about authorizations and obtaining disability ratings... if the exact phrase or wording is not absolutely correct, you can expect to get denied every time. Kristen, don't get me wrong... they do do some great things medically and physically for us veterans... but their rationale for denials is many times hysterical and flat out maddening. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G891A using Tapatalk
I normally couldn't like that but mom,you and your loved ones have been put through it. She's at peace and now you can start to heal and celebrate her life....God Bless
To me, that's insane that you even have to think of that when you're in an ambulance. I'm glad, for you, that you knew you needed to do that....but oh my gosh.
Sorry for your loss Sota. Never easy, but sounds like it happened at the right time. Sent from my SM-G900V using Tapatalk
CRAP! My mom has been suffering from dementia for a number of years and has been in nursing care for just under a year. My sister had her brought to the hospital yesterday for some issues and the hospital identified a totally different issue. My mom can't swallow without choking. And of course, the nursing home said absolutely nothing. Someone in the family sees her just about everyday. They could have mentioned it at any time. So, the hospital is recommending hospice care-with or without food being given. The problem with food is, if she aspirates, they do nothing to help her. Waiting on the doc to hear recommendation. What a choice!
Not in writing but we all know her wishes. DNR, no feeding tube. Never talked about this scenario. My youngest sister has to make the call.
Sorry for your loss, Sota. Sucks. Plain and simple. Celebrate her life. Laugh about the fun times and be there for your dad. If he's anything like mine, he'll appreciate having someone to talk to. Even, if he never admits to it.
Tim, Condolances to you and your family. I know it has to have been really tough on your Dad, yourself and sibling(s). However, I'm glad you feel you have some relief and closure...
The two that screw things up for me, mean well and are just trying to help you. Both are really nice guys. They suck at it though. I don't really want their help but since they do keep the road clear, I keep my mouth shut. The neighbor across the street knows how to plow snow with his outfit. He usually is straightening out their screw ups. I really do appreciate him !! This year, we just have gotten a lot of snow and I am getting tired of it.
They wont do anything for it (or even offer an NG tube)? Is there more than just that going on? My Papa had similar when he was alive - (granted he did not have dementia) - they had to go in and actually stretch his throat out. Hopefully the doctor leads you in a way that gives you comfort in whatever decision you decide.
Thank you for the kind thoughts. Not an option as my mother made it clear that NG tube was only an option if there was hope for recovery.
I fell for you I now completely understand the suction and gravity of every decision you and the family make.
Sibling Feuds! Never had one in 47 1/2 years. Until now. Going to take years to repair if it ever will. My advice to anyone with siblings you care about but suddenly have a problem with. Choose your words wisely, place your blame equally and refrain from snap judgement tirades. I have blocked my sister from every communication avenue possible in the last hour, aside from USPS and that is easily returnable. I'm just glad the truth came out, nothing worse than family gatherings with fakeness.
I have a sister I will never talk to again after my Dad dies, and I am not the only sibling with the same attitude.
