Able to close friends with people who constantly cheat on their significant other?

Are you able to be close friends with someone who constantly cheats on their wife/husband, bf/gf? Is being a serial cheater on the same level as any other "design flaw" that humans exhibit like drinking too much, cheating on tests in school, lying, laziness...etc?

 

nope. no morals/no friend.

 

I can't stand people who "cheat" especially when married. I have two friends that recently had this happen to them and one was married. As creepy as it sounds, my one friend ended up bugging (mic) his home while out of town and that's how he found out. People are sick..

 

Nope- I place trust at the highest level when it comes to my friendships. Cheaters and lyres can not be trusted!

 

no way....no how....I hate cheaters

my first marriage ended because my wife was cheating on me when I was in Iraq

 

Married people who cheat rate very high on my scumball list. Not only would I not be friends, I'd probably tell their spouse.


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This one gets me the most. I'm sorry but that is about as low as it gets to cheat on someone defending our country.


A serial cheater or even if one of my friends was the single person in a serial cheating scandal and knew the other was taken I would not be friends with them. My football coach and counselor in high school were really good and I thought very highly of them until they cheated with each other and one got divorced. I hear it still goes on while the other is still married. I have now lost all respect for both of them and if I had kids there would be no way in hell they would play sports for him or have her for a guidance counselor...

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Deal breaker for me.

Tuesday will be 25 years of marriage for me and I still get it whenever she wants it!

 

Something about serial cheaters bother me as well. I just cannot form close relationships with people who behave in that manner. I am not talking about people who have declared for divorce and the end is in sight type of "cheating", I am talking about the bold faced cheaters who manipulate others and hide their actions.

 

That's funny right there.

Cheating is essentially lying on a massive scale. That's a no-go for me, trust is kind of a big thing to me and I simply can't trust a person that is a cheater.

 

Nope cant be friends but i wouldn't judge them either. Since 47% of people in America are addicted to porn these days. Its the same as people being married and addicted to porn its still cheating even if its not a physical act to your wife/husband its still displeasing and in Gods eyes adultery. Js

Matthew 5:28New American Standard Bible (NASB)
28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Its all a moral thing IMO

 

I can't say I am aware of any friends, or even close acquaintances for that matter, who are habitual cheaters. I know a few who have strayed a time or two in their lives but nobody who carries on a secondary life or any sort of long term relationship outside of their marriage. I guess I can't say what I would do if info like that came to light. Especially if it was a close friend I had known for many years. It may change my perception of them a bit, but I don't think I'd stop being friends with them altogether.

 

I can be friends with a cheater. We all have our own set of flaws. I don't know about close friends but I look at is an opportunity to set a good example. I don't preach at them or even talk about it. Just hope that they can look at me and my wife and say to themselves that they want to do what we do because they want what what we have.

My parents taught me to be careful about who I choose to associate with while growing up because they could influence who I would become. Now I see that same advice as a challenge to be a positive influence if possible.

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Going to play devils advocate here.... And let me first say as a Christian I think cheating is a huge sin in the Lords Eyes.... The consequences of adultery are far more punishing on people then lying, etc

But, my question is the way people always say who am I to judge people for their doings, and as long as it makes a person happy, and they're not doing it to me so why should it concern me... Why should I still not be friends with someone who is or has committed adultery? I mean maybe it makes them happy right? And their not doing it to me and maybe their spouse knows about it and is ok with it....

My point is this.... Not all things that make people happy are good or right.... And just cause we think that what someone else does doesn't affect me..... It does, good or bad..... The deeds we do and the lifestyle we live affects a lot of people.... Family, friends and most importantly the Lord...in the end I would and couldn't still be friends with someone who is actively practicing a lifestyle of adultery...

 

Sorry but the whole "if it makes them happy" is meaningless if they are sneaking around behind a wife and kids to do it. Pure selfishness.

And how many wives do you know that is OK with a cheating husband?


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Maybe had you read my entire post instead of picking to quote me on this 1 section you'd had seen I am completely against this and in no way shape or form saying the argument of "if it makes them happy". And to answer your other question.... Yes I have known 2 women who knew of their husbands running around on them and not that they were ok with it but they stayed with them for what ever reason

 

With the stats on cheating these days, odds are someone who posted in this thread already has cheated before.

Just saying...

 

Sorry that wasn't meant as a shot at you. It was more meant for the people who justify it but telling themselves that they are happier because they do it.


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Interesting topic. A coworker and I were very good friends. We would commonly go out with our signifacant others (he was married, I had a girlfriend). He was always very flirtatious with women, so I always had the suspicioun but could tell he hadn't, just based on gut feeling... until, him and another lady were acting very odd towards each other. You could tell something was up. A few weeks later he confirmed they were, but that he had already told his wife (which he did).
However, the relationship hasn't been the same since. I know it has basically nothing to do with me, but I guess the respect is lost. Obviously, we've done nothing with them since.

 

It gets even more interesting when the cheater is your father


I try and hang with people with the same ideals as me.